103: Coss Marte | Staying out of Prison with Muscle and Conviction

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week!

If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How do you know if you're making progress and on track to a better and brighter future if you feel underqualified and inadequate about so much of your life? How can you measure your growth?
• Sometimes you try so hard to help your loved ones with their issues that you forget to help yourself. Support is close if you know where to find it -- here's where we suggest looking.
• How do you keep yourself from falling back into old, obsolete patterns of behavior whenever you visit your friends in your old hometown? Aren't you better than that now?
• You've been on Facebook for 14 years and have never weeded out friends you've only spoken to once in that entire time. Now you're applying to a job and notice one of your obscure connections is VP of the company. Is it tacky to contact them?
• If you genuinely love networking and meeting new people, you might feel bad about having to turn down lunch with some of them because you just don't have as much time as you used to (especially when they turn into sales pitches in disguise). How do you retreat from these invitations politely?
• If you're proud of your political activism in college, does it do any harm to bring it up when you're looking for a new job?
• Should you give up all the guaranteed benefits of your long-term government job to pursue a shaky future in the private sector that could result in more money and reemergence of happiness from that fire and drive you once had, but at a time cost and a possibility of being released or fired and losing those needed benefits for your family?
• Since returning to your hometown as a successful attorney making the big bucks, one of your friends seems to think you should pay for everything you do together because you make more money. What do you do?
• Recommendation of the Week: Jon Levy's What Makes Us Influential? TED Salon Talk
• A quick shoutout to Renee in Montana!
• Tank's Good News: Nike Signs First Runner with Cerebral Palsy
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Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into the five keys to being unforgettable — what makes you memorable, common pitfalls that may make you unforgettable for all the wrong reasons, and what you can do to maximize the chance that you’ll be unforgettable for all the right ones. [Photo by EfE]

What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi:

• How the competitive edge of authenticity aids in making you unforgettable.
• Strategic vulnerability versus authentic vulnerability.
• Why generosity is the backbone of networking and making you stand out from the crowd.
• What leveraging intrigue does to leave someone curious to know more -- and remember more -- about you.
• How contrast between you and your surroundings can be a double-edged sword that makes you unforgettable in ways you'd rather not be (and how to better ensure it cuts in the right direction).
• And much more...
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James Clear (@JamesClear) believes that you do not rise to the level of your goals; you fall to the level of your systems. He is the creator of the Habits Academy and author of Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones.

What We Discuss with James Clear:

• How a near-death experience began James' exploration in leveraging tiny habits for giant outcomes.
• The difference between systems and goals and which one you should commit yourself to if you want results.
• What bamboo, cancer, and a winning Olympic coach can teach us about little changes that amount to a lot.
• Why the way you behave depends on the type of person you believe yourself to be -- and what you can do to modify this belief for the better.
• What it takes to break bad habits while creating good ones without falling into the “fake it ‘til you make it” delusion.
• And much more...
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Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week!

If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• If anxiety is a conspiracy theory you tell yourself about yourself, how can you just debunk the hell out of it and get on with your life?
• Speaking of conspiracy theories, how do you snap your beloved parent out of believing everything seen on YouTube and [pick your biased media outlet of choice here]?
• Living abroad is massively rewarding, but not usually for the reasons people think. Here are some tips for giving it a real go before giving up if things don't go as expected (and they won't).
• Should your partner build themselves up to your level if they feel lower in the social value hierarchy, or should you let them take you down a peg or two for the sake of balance?
• As a new podcaster, are you having trouble with keeping a consistent publishing schedule? Here's why we do what we do and how we keep ourselves on track.
• Are there any positives to living by the "I told you so" mentality?
• Tank's Good News: Teenager Is on Track to Plant a Trillion Trees: Starting His Project as a Nine-year-old, Felix Finkbeiner Aims to Restore the World's Forests by Laura Parker, National Geographic
• Recommendation of the Week: RBG Movie
• Quick shoutouts to Natasha Holmes, Jessica Clark, and Lexie!
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.
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Scott Harrison (@scottharrison) pivoted from hard-partying club promoter to life-saving charity founder. His first book, Thirst: A Story of Redemption, Compassion, and a Mission to Bring Clean Water to the World, is out now.

What We Discuss with Scott Harrison:

• Discover how you can get your foot in the door of an industry and claw your way to the top through hustle and creativity.
• Explore how you can expand your thinking and your horizons while divining a sense of purpose if you're feeling lost or are ready for a change.
• Uncover how creativity and storytelling are the keys to creating an emotional connection with your line of work, product, or business -- whether you're selling overpriced champagne to investment bankers in Manhattan or securing life-saving, clean water for kids in Africa.
• Find out how prodigal son Scott Harrison returned from the self-serving world of nightclub promotion to save lives at the head of an organization that ensures 100 percent of its donations provide clean water to the people who need it most.
• Learn how plain old Scott became Lord Scott Harrison for fun and free upgrades.
• And much more...
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Jennifer Dulski (@jdulski) is the Head of Groups and Community at Facebook, former COO of Change.org, and author of Purposeful: Are You a Manager or a Movement Starter?

What We Discuss with Jennifer Dulski:

• While they're both necessary for any organization to succeed in realizing its ambitions, what really separates movement starters from managers?
• What movement starters from all walks of life have in common and what they do differently that makes them able to achieve incredible results.
• How businesses and teams can unite for a common purpose -- and why this is not only important, but crucial for moving forward and keeping everyone involved on the same page.
• How to bridge the gap between idea and impact -- from creating a clear vision for your team as well as persuading decision-makers and even navigating criticism.
• How you can use influence mapping to recruit others to support your movement.
• And much more...
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Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week!

If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Do the re-engagement scripts we recommend in Level One of Advanced Human Dynamics ever grow stale? Don't people notice when they receive the same lines every year to stay in touch?
• Is there a way to tame the emotional outbursts you have whenever you receive criticism -- even when it's constructive and warranted?
• How should you handle that old school friend who always says "yes" to a coffee but never, ever buys you one back?
• How do you look for another job while still employed when your current job leaves you so depressed, anxious, and emotionally drained?
• Is it reasonable to suspect that the person who left someone else to be with you might now be cheating on you with someone else?
• How can you help your star employee stop overextending personal care toward clients when you know she's already stressed out with her own problems that should be addressed?
• Even though it mathematically makes sense to invest when returns are higher than the interest rate on the debt you're trying to pay off, is it the right move?
• What can you do to make the most of an awkward intro to someone at the top of your field so you can turn it into a solid new professional connection?
• Tank's Good News of the Week: The Crayon Initiative
• Quick shoutouts to Tony Levero and his spicy Latina wife, and American Dream University!
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.
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Chase Hughes (@thechasehughes) is the top behavior profiler in the United States and author of The Ellipsis Manual: Analysis and Engineering of Human Behavior.

What We Discuss with Chase Hughes:

• Why authority is a weightier force for influence than any social skill in the book.
• What you can do to bolster your own authority -- and resist manipulation by the authority of others.
• The five factors that measure your ability to persuade and influence on a level that surpasses mere inspiration.
• Why your patterns of behavior that happen even when no one is looking can make or break your life's outcomes.
• Top authority killers and how to avoid them.
• And much more...
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Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday!

If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How do you deal with constant negativity when you're surrounded by it almost 24/7?
• How do you keep yourself up to date with real-world issues, remove the noise or work around it, and decide what to focus on and when?
• Is there body language that can counteract your naturally intimidating appearance?
• How can you offer to correct someone's grammar without being offensive?
• Is there anything wrong with maintaining distance when you've fallen out of touch with some of the people in your network? Is it possible they became "weak and dormant ties" for a reason?
• If you don't have a degree, how can you market yourself in a way that will bypass the resume gatekeeper and at least get an interview?
• How do you make it clear to your friend that texting and driving endangers lives?
• As haggard old-timers, what is the number one thing we wish young people understood today?
• Moving from a small town to the big city and networking in an industry can be a huge adjustment. What tips do we have for making the transition?
• Recommendation of the Week: Swiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age
• Quick shoutouts to first-month law student Carroll, shrewd negotiator John Schantz, and American Dream University!
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.
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Jason Calacanis (@Jason) is Silicon Valley royalty, the most successful angel investor today, and author of Angel: How to Invest in Technology Startups -- Timeless Advice from an Angel Investor Who Turned $100,000 into $100,000,000.

What We Discuss with Jason Calacanis:

• What venture capitalists are looking for in startup founders.
• How Jason bounced back after losing everything (something to which we can personally relate).
• How to make yourself more marketable, whether you're a founder or an angel investor yourself.
• What Jason considers "the greatest skill of all."
• The impersonations Jason can do to make your blood run cold when you're miles away from any semblance of civilization.
• And much more...
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