103: Coss Marte | Staying out of Prison with Muscle and Conviction

Cesar Millan (@cesarmillan) is the internationally renowned dog behaviorist known best as the Dog Whisperer, founder of the Dog Psychology Center, and best-selling author of Lessons From the Pack: Stories of the Dogs Who Changed My Life.

What We Discuss with Cesar Millan:

• How Cesar Millan went from impoverished Sinaloan kid to homeless immigrant to world-famous Dog Whisperer.
• What we can learn about communicating with dogs by understanding the priority of their senses compared to our own.
• Why the key to correcting an "untrainable" dog is usually reprogramming the human in charge.
• Why the rich, famous, and powerful often find animal companionship so much more grounding than time with even their closest human friends.
• Why human beings are the only species on the planet that will follow an unstable leader who does not represent the greater good.
• And much more...

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Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week!

If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Is your passively stoic expression (aka resting bitch face) getting you turned down for promotions? Here's some advice for turning down the Spock and cranking up the rock.
• How can you reduce stress and have a social life when your deadly serious job requires you to be on call 24/7/365?
• In trying new ways to strike up conversations without coming across as having a motive or being awkward, how do you spot the line you shouldn't cross?
• Are you missing out on life by not spending as much time and energy on your relationships and friendships in your 20s because you're so focused on personal development?
• For a year and a half, Your drug-abusing friend's been cut out of your life for ignoring the help you offered. Now he's in rehab and you don't feel much like re-engaging. Are you being selfish?
• You're understandably skittish about taking your dog out after he was attacked and severely injured by a bigger, unleashed dog. How can you reintroduce him to socializing, get the irresponsible owner to cover vet expenses, and prevent this from happening in the future?
• Is working for your significant other's brother's business -- even though you're not really qualified yet -- an opportunity or trouble waiting to happen? There are many issues at stake here, not the least of which is: what happens if you break up?
• Are cryptocurrency and blockchain technologies still relevant in 2019?
• Pro Tip: If you use AT&T, download the AT&T Call Protect app, which crowdsources spam and robocaller information.
• Recommendation of the Week: Inside The Mossad
• Quick shoutout to Mitchell Smith!
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into why a lot of self-help makes you feel miserable by design and what you can do to improve yourself without being suckered by hucksters or succumbing to an existential meltdown.

What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi:

• Why so-called "self-help" often makes you feel worse about yourself than before you sought it.
• How to separate actionable self-help from motivational "hustle porn" designed to prompt emotions and elicit sales.
• Why those inspirational bromides you're seeing all over Instagram might goad you into short-term action, but won't do much for you over the long haul.
• Striving to improve yourself is admirable and encouraged -- just don't get suckered into the myth that there's a finish line.
• How to consume genuine self-help without being miserable while avoiding the big business con-artistry that pervades this space.
• And much more...

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Cal Newport researches cutting-edge technology and writes about the impact of these innovations on society. He is the author of Deep Work, So Good They Can't Ignore You, and Digital Minimalism.

What We Discuss with Cal Newport:

• Why focus in our modern era of endless technological distractions is the new IQ.
• Why your greatest competitive advantage may lie simply around decluttering and resetting that focus.
• The best ways to declutter the mental landscape to optimize your capacity to focus.
• How Henry David Thoreau's analog lessons from Walden can be applied to your 21st century digital lifestyle.
• How you can use technology to improve your daily life without becoming absorbed by its distractions.
• And much more...

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If you're only going to take one gluten and dairy-free, keto, paleo, and vegan-friendly supplement to boost energy, balance nutrition, and aid digestion, then Athletic Greens -- with its 76 natural ingredients -- is what we recommend. The Jordan Harbinger Show listeners get 23 travel packs (valued at $79) with their first purchase at athleticgreens.com/jordan!

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Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week!

If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How can you prove that your teacher is name-grading essays without cheating on the paper?
• You're a veteran looking to transition back to civilian life. Here are some resources that might help (many thanks to your fellow veteran Zach Criswell for this info).
• When the big change you really need is a job opportunity at another company, is it unfair not to give your current employer a chance to negotiate with you to stay put?
• You're worried your significant other might have gotten wrapped up in an expensive self-help cult. What might you say to bring them gently back to Earth without wasting even more time and money?
• How do you find a lawyer who will actually get the job you need done and won't break the bank?
• An important network connection has offered to help you find opportunities as you're transitioning into a new field, but how can you ensure you're not biting off more than you can chew while still learning the ropes without wasting anyone's time?
• You're a contractor who has worked for a company that has been bought and sold three times in the past three years. How do you present this on your resume so it doesn't look like you've worked for three companies in that time?
• You're in your fifties and looking to open a franchise, though you don't have direct retail experience. What should you do to minimize risk so you're not burdened with debt in your retirement years should things go south?
• Recommendation of the Week: Conversations with a Killer: The Ted Bundy Tapes
• Quick shoutout to Natasha Holmes!
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Rob Cesternino is a two-time Survivor contestant and was referred to by Jeff Probst as "The Smartest Player to Never Win Survivor." Rob Has a Podcast was a 2012 winner of "The People's Choice Podcast Award" for Best Entertainment Podcast ? check it out here on PodcastOne!

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John Ruhlin (@ruhlin) is the world's leading authority in maximizing customer loyalty through radical generosity. He is the founder of Ruhlin Group, and author of Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention.

What We Discuss with John Ruhlin:

• Active loyalty versus passive loyalty.
• Why personalization matters.
• Why you should be asking "What's the most I can do here?" when investing in relationships rather than "What's the least I can get away with?"
• Why the timing of a gift matters.
• How to exercise radical generosity and take gift-giving to a whole new level.
• And much more...

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Jaron Lanier is an early Internet pioneer, computer scientist, visual artist, musician, and author of Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now.

What We Discuss with Jaron Lanier:

• The real cost of the "everything is free" mentality that accompanied the cultural proliferation of the Internet and social media.
• How social media manipulates human behavior to threaten free will.
• Why negative emotions are the lifeblood of social media.
• How social media contributes to the mass production of misinformation.
• Why feeding on social media content tailored to you makes it difficult to empathize with the perspective of others.
• And much more...

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If you're only going to take one gluten and dairy-free, keto, paleo, and vegan-friendly supplement to boost energy, balance nutrition, and aid digestion, then Athletic Greens -- with its 76 natural ingredients -- is what we recommend. The Jordan Harbinger Show listeners get 23 travel packs (valued at $79) with their first purchase at athleticgreens.com/jordan!

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The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here!

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Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week!

If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Teaching your kid how to play chess? Here's a simple way to keep them engaged without crushing their spirits or throwing a single game.
• When your line of work grants you even a minor level of celebrity, how do you express appreciation when you're recognized without succumbing to awkwardness?
• How can you work with someone you don't like or respect -- and ensure that you still like and respect yourself in the process?
• You've been selected to give a graduation speech in front of 2,500 people and want to crush it. What can you do to be as prepared as possible?
• Someone owns the Web domain you want, but they're not using it. What's the best way to negotiate for it or find a close alternative?
• When you're in a line of work that doesn't generate repeat customers, what's the best (and least tacky) way to ask for referrals from satisfied past customers?
• After following the Level One exercises and re-engaging contact with a former mentor, they seem resistant to a catch-up meeting. How might you offer value to make it worthwhile for them?
• Meeting new people and dating when you have a chronic illness presents numerous challenges, but the biggest might be: when is it appropriate to disclose your condition to a potential relationship partner?
• Life Pro Tip: Make yourself manually dial some of your more important contacts on occasion so you'll know their numbers if you're ever stuck without your phone.
• A quick shoutout to Cesar Millan and everyone at The Dog Psychology Center!
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Hosted by Brooke Gittings and Bill Kurtis, Cold Case Files explores some of the most difficult-to-solve murders, which stymied investigators and went cold, sometimes for decades. Check it out here on PodcastOne!

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Brian Rose (@LondonRealTV) is the Founder and Host of London Real, a live video talk show that introduces you to the most fascinating people in the world.

What We Discuss with Brian Rose:

• The epiphany Brian had at the height of his "success" that made him step away and start from scratch.
• Why it's important to regularly question our dogmas and deconstruct our entrenched beliefs.
• The power of vulnerability and honesty.
• What to do when you find your past holding you back.
• Brian's Pull the Trigger Transformation System of goals, actions, and mentorship that will get you off your couch and racing (in his case, quite literally) toward serious achievement.
• And much more...

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Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) has been Wharton's top-rated professor for seven years, is the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and is the author of three New York Times Best Sellers: Option B (with Sheryl Sandberg), Originals, and Give and Take.

What We Discuss with Adam Grant:

• Why you probably don't know yourself as well as you think you do.
• Why you're prone to believe things about yourself that are patently false.
• How people closest to you benefit from reinforcing these falsehoods.
• Why the people who would most benefit from helping you see these falsehoods are the least likely to point them out.
• What you can do to become more accurately self-aware.
• And much more...

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If you're only going to take one gluten and dairy-free, keto, paleo, and vegan-friendly supplement to boost energy, balance nutrition, and aid digestion, then Athletic Greens? with its 76 natural ingredients -- is what we recommend. The Jordan Harbinger Show listeners get 23 travel packs (valued at $79) with their first purchase at athleticgreens.com/jordan!

The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here!

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