Over it and On with it with Christine Hassler

CC: Overcoming Depression and Anxiety with "Unmedicated" Author and DailyOM Founder Madisyn Taylor

This is an incredibly intimate conversation between Christine and Madisyn as they talk about anxiety, depression and overcoming a challenging past. You will feel so much hope and reassurance from this episode! MADISYN TAYLOR is the co-founder and editor-in-chief of the popular inspirational website and daily newsletter, DailyOM and is responsible for all of its content. A recognized leader in self-help and new thought spirituality, Taylor has more than 20 years of experience in personal development and alternative healing methodologies. She has contributed to national publications and is a popular guest on many radio shows. Hay House published her international bestselling books, DailyOM: Inspirational Thoughts For A Happy, Healthy & Fulfilling Day, and DailyOM: Learning To Live, and she is also a #1 Billboard recording artist with her line of guided meditation albums. Check out her new book Unmedicated (please link to: https://www.amazon.com/Unmedicated-Four-Pillars-Natural-Wellness/dp/1582706573/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1515687060&sr=8-1&keywords=unmedicated) which is a gentle and accessible step-by-step guide to moving from excessive reliance on medications to fundamentally healing yourself through four pillars of natural wellness.

00:34:13 1/13/2018

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This call is about asking for what you want in a relationship and if you don't get it how to leave without feeling guilty. Today's caller, Brooke, is deciding whether or not to leave her marriage. She is struggling with guilt and obligation due to a major expectation hangover that came up after they were married. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode153] The big picture in ending a relationship with someone who is going through a difficult time like an expectation hangover, a physical diagnosis, death in the family etc. but those things do not give someone an excuse not to show up in a relationship. There may be an initial time when a diagnosis is given or the person is dealing with the shock when the person needs space or a little extra leeway where some extra TLC is in order. When our partner is down in the dumps dealing with a difficult issue we have to pull up and withhold the space to let them transition into their feelings. However, if they continue to pull away, withdraw, and be a victim then the issue is more about how they are showing up in the relationship. When we talk about vows such as, in sickness or in health, it doesn't mean if a sickness occurs the sick person gets a permanent permission slip to stop showing up as a spouse or partner. We cannot let people off the hook because we feel sorry for them. And, we shouldn't allow our own issues to be an excuse for not being a good partner. Don't let yourself off the hook because you feel sorry for yourself and don't let your partner off the hook because you feel sorry for them. Loving someone does not include pity. Pity is not love and eventually, it leads to resentment. You don't really know someone until a massive expectation hangover hits. How someone shows up in the difficult times is an indicator of how they will show up in the rest of their lives. I am pleased to announce a new way for you to collaborate with the universe to get things accomplished, my Over and On with It 40-Day Journal. This is the exact system I use to allow abundance, peace, and productivity into my life. And, when you order you get a free download of 12 new meditations to manifest what you want in life. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you make decisions out of guilt or obligation? Does guilt stop you from doing something you feel is self-honoring? ? Are you wondering why you are in a relationship where you don't feel like you are being met? ? Is your partner going through a rough time or an expectation hangover and it impacts how they are showing up in the relationship? ? Do you pretend things are OK when they are not? Do you wear a mask or have trouble with vulnerability? Brooke's Question: Brooke would like guidance about what to do after experiencing an expectation hangover in her marriage due to her husband's illness. Brooke's Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis after they were married. ? Her husband has moved in with his parents. ? She feels betrayed. ? She feels obligated to stay with her husband. ? She felt sorry for her father. ? She chooses weaker men. ? She feels resentful towards her husband. ? She wants out of the relationship. ? She is playing the part of the victim. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should ask for what she needs from her husband using both her feminine and masculine energy. ? She needs to get a coach or a therapist and/or participate in my Personal Mastery Course. ? She needs to shed the guilt. Takeaways For You: ? If you are questioning your relationship and you want to leave, are you doing all you can so you can leave without the guilt and obligation? ? If you are in a relationship but don't know why then ask yourself what you are learning from the relationship. ? To have difficult conversations, just do it. Don't let fear stop you. ? Take off your mask. Often, it is vulnerability that gets us out of victimhood. ? Trust your choices! The biggest life lessons are often the hardest lessons. Sponsors: THIRDLOVE ? What if you could take the away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find your perfect size, even if it's a half size. They have over 60 bra sizes! Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. Wander Beauty ? is a line of multi-tasking beauty essentials that are easy to use, cruelty-free and travel-friendly. Make-up should give you maximum impact with minimum effort. So, make the most out of your beauty routine. Get 20% off your purchase at Wanderbeauty.com/OVERIT or click the link above. Resources: Christine Hassler ? Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching Session on Youtube Christine's Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? If you want to be a guest on this show.
00:47:14 8/15/2018
A lot of listeners have been reaching out for support around breakups so in this episode I share my five top tips for navigating the completion of a relationship. Learn how to get from breakup to breakthrough with grace!
00:15:43 8/10/2018
This call is about changing your perception of what fear is. Today's caller, Roman, is a mission-driven entrepreneur who becomes paralyzed by fear. During this call, you will learn that fear is an internal alarm system and how to get it working in your favor and the assets and liabilities of being an entrepreneur. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode152] Being a mission-driven entrepreneur sounds good and you can make a difference but at the same time, it can be a trigger. As we help the people who are most like us in so many ways a lot of our old fears, unresolved issues, and limiting beliefs get triggered. And, it's frustrating when we feel like we have done personal development work but we still get triggered. When fear comes up, it takes a consistent practice of asking ourselves what the fear really means and to remind ourselves ? that was then; this is now. If you get stopped in your tracks by fear, stop, realize that something is off and adjust and apply love in its place. Entrepreneurs tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves to have it all figured out. This is a liability. There is no badge of honor entrepreneurs get for figuring everything out their own. You can pick up the phone and ask for help. There are so many entrepreneurs who have decades of experience that you can go to for guidance. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you an entrepreneur who has bought into the understanding that you are supposed to figure it all out on your own, everything will work according to plan, and that you are never supposed to make mistakes? ? Have you had a painful past you have had to overcome and fear it might come back or you don't trust how good your life really is? ? Is there a part of you that questions yourself or feels unworthy of love? ? Do you feel like you have a mission? Are you supposed to serve or impact others? Roman's Question: Roman is feeling overwhelmed by fear and would like guidance on how to overcome it. Roman's Key Insights and Ahas: ? His new entrepreneurial venture hasn't gone as planned. ? He feels he is living his purpose. ? He needs to do his own thing. ? He is passionate about his career and fueled by his mission. ? He has done self-development work. ? His fear paralyzes him. ? He feels not good enough. ? He has a difficult time asking for help. ? He has surrounded himself with people who care about him. ? He beats himself up and holds himself to a higher standard than he does others. ? He deserves this good life. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to remind himself that he is worthy, valuable, and he doesn't have to have it all figured out. ? When he feels fear, he needs to say "That was then and this is now. I am safe." ? He needs to ask for guidance and help when he feels pressure and overwhelm. ? He needs to ask his inner critic to be his inner coach instead. ? He needs to allow himself to count on his soul family. Assignments For You: ? If you have a mission statement for your life make sure it doesn't reinforce something you don't want to continue reinforcing. ? Make sure you are clear about what your definition of success is. ? As an entrepreneur, are you really walking your talk? Are you congruent with what you are trying to build and how you are trying to serve? ? Build your own soul family for guidance and support. ? If you've had a difficult journey, keep loving yourself up and use the affirmation "That was then, this is now. It's over!" Sponsors: Kopari Beauty ? Are you looking for a safer alternative to aluminum-laden deodorants? Kopari is an aluminum-free deodorant with sage and coconut oil that really works, all day! It doesn't leave the thick, white residue on your clothes and has the fresh, natural scent of coconut milk. Great for sensitive skin. Say aloha to Koparibeauty.com/overit. Daily Harvest ? Let Daily Harvest help you make healthy eating easy. They deliver frozen, one-step prep, plant-based eats right to your door. Use promo code OVERIT to get 3 free Daily Harvest cups added to your first box. Resources: Christine Hassler ? Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching Session on Youtube Christine's Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? If you want to be a guest on this show.
00:52:11 8/8/2018
Listen in as Christine tackles questions from listeners. The first one is from a woman who is considering ending her marriage because she feels she and her husband are on different paths. The second question is from a gentleman who wants to be free of his "gold-plating" behavior (and if you don't know what that is, Christine defines it!)
00:16:59 8/4/2018
This call is about setting boundaries and taking care of your own needs. Today's caller, Caitlyn, is having an expectation hangover about her engagement planning process. She is excited about her wedding but her family and friends don't seem to be. This episode covers a lot of ground and we go really deep in this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode151] Being a caretaker can be a survival skill. Survival needs can be the need to feel loved, to feel valued and to feel like we belong. When one of our patterns is tied to those needs, it is really hard to release. Consciously, you may know it's not healthy for you to be a caretaker and that you should set boundaries but unconsciously, there may be a part of you that wonders who will love you and how will you fit into your family if you stop caretaking others. When your body is working hard to hold all of your suppressed emotions together it needs another outlet for release. Our third chakra, our energy center, is tied to personal empowerment. If you don't have boundaries and allow other people to suck your energy, things will shift within the body to compensate. You can manifest a physical ailment when keeping emotional issues bottled up or by not feeling empowered. If you are in Los Angeles on August 3rd, 2018, I will be teaching at Unplug Meditation, follow the link to find out more. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a current expectation hangover that is upsetting you and reminding you of something that happened in the past? ? Do you relate to being a caretaker in your life? Are you afraid to stop taking care of others because you fear losing something? ? Is it challenging for you to set boundaries? Do you say yes to things when you really mean no? ? Do you over-compromise and sacrifice your own needs because it is easier than upsetting people? ? Is there a prolonged physical condition you are dealing with that cannot be resolved? Caitlyn's Question: Caitlyn wants to know why she is having so many expectation hangovers while she is planning her wedding. Caitlyn's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She wants more support from friends and family about her wedding. ? She has always been a planner. ? She feels disappointed and hurt. ? She was diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis at thirteen. ? She didn't want attention growing up. ? She is manifesting her physical condition. ? Her sister is also planning a wedding. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to not worry about other people's upset. ? She needs to say thank you to her illness for sending her the message. ? She needs to start writing from her heart with release writing. ? She needs to show herself compassion. ? She needs to be OK with having attention focused on her. Assignments For You: ? If you are dealing with any type of expectation hangover, go back in time and ask yourself, "What does this remind me of?" ? Do the 'empty chair' process at home. ? Let things go through journaling and release writing. ? Set and stand by your boundaries with people and let them be upset. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANCaitlynWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler ? Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching Session on Youtube Christine's Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? For those interested in being on the show
00:57:47 8/1/2018
n this episode, Christine breaks down what forgiveness really means. Listen in as she explains the misunderstands and misuse of forgiveness. If you want to experience true freedom, forgiveness is a must! Catch Christine as a guest speaker at Unplug Meditation Friday Aug 3. Details here: https://bit.ly/2KTqh3t
00:14:16 7/28/2018
This call is about the importance of self-trust and acceptance in a relationship. Today's caller, Don, recently reunited with his partner after a seven-month break from their long-distance relationship and would like guidance on how to make sure he gets what he needs from the relationship during the 'do-over.' [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode150] So many of us go into the compensatory strategy of over-achieving whenever we feel 'less than' in any way. Whenever we feel less than our ego has to come up with a way to compensate for it. It only serves to distance ourselves from who we truly are. When we are out there consistently trying to prove ourselves we are unconsciously running with the belief that we are never enough. We look for external validation through the acknowledgment of others. Many people who believe they have 'good' childhoods often minimize something that happened that impacts the rest of their life. Issues in relationships CAN be resolved through communication. Create agreements in your relationship rather than expectations. Don't expect the other person to read your mind and don't think that just because you say something it's 'message sent, message received.' Be sensitive about your partner's needs; make agreements about how you can reassure them and how you can meet their needs. If you meet the agreements and it still isn't working then it's time to reevaluate the relationship to ensure it's a value match. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine's Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you giving a relationship a second chance? Are you in a do-over? ? Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? ? Growing up, did you feel like you were in the shadow of a sibling? ? Have you ever felt invisible? Do you have to try extra hard to get noticed? Don's Question: Don wants to know Christine's thoughts about the 'do-over' in his current relationship. Don's Key Insights and Ahas: ? He is in a two-year, long-distance relationship. ? They took a seven-month break. ? There were trust issues in the relationship. ? He feels limited by his partner's insecurities. ? He grew up in the shadow of his older sister. ? He overcompensates to get attention. ? His relationship choices are based on safety. ? He doesn't know true intimacy. ? He wants to be appreciated for just being him. ? He has trust issues. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to get clear about what he values and what he deserves from a relationship. ? He needs to express his needs and make clear agreements. ? He needs to fall in love with himself. ? He needs to be in gratitude to himself. Assignments For You: ? No relationship with others is bulletproof. So, don't put pressure on it to be. ? Evaluate your relationship with yourself. Is it a healthy relationship? ? Identify your compensatory strategies. ? Give from your energy overflow. Don't empty yourself out. ? Write down your top five core values for a relationship. ? Practice self-acknowledgment. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. HP ? Do you need serious-performance from your laptop? 8th generation Intel-powered HP PCs offer better performance and longer battery life. And, they come with 24/7 dedicated support from US-based specialists. To get high-computing power and enhanced security features go to HP.com/overit for an extra 10% off (until Sept. 17, 2018). Resources: Christine Hassler ? Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching Session on Youtube Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? For those interested in being on the show
00:42:43 7/25/2018
This is a juicy one! Meet the man in my life and listen in as we talk about what being a "conscious man" means and requires. Learn about his new program which begins August 8th that I HIGHLY endorse: Reclaim Your Kingdom. http://reclaimyourkingdom.com/ A little more about Stef Sifandos. He is a Relational Alchemist, Community Builder and Change Maker who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, mindfulness, an integration of Eastern wisdom, diverse spiritual praxis and western psychology to improve, evolves end enhance the quality of your relationships.
01:15:33 7/21/2018
This call is about setting a balance between caretaking and nurturing, loving and empowering children. Today's caller, Alexis, is feeling overwhelmed and guilty about how she deals with her daughter's physical and emotional state. We talk through the tools that will help her navigate through the natural overwhelm. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode149] Whenever we are faced with something that feels overwhelming or confusing, we may feel helpless. When it's our stuff it's hard, but when our child is suffering the helplessness is intensified. As a parent, we feel we are supposed to know how to take care of our children but when we are not sure what to do, it can be incredibly overwhelming. When you address your child with compassion instead of taking on their suffering you go with them. This is where spiritual altitude comes in handy. It may feel like our children belong to us but they really belong to God, to the universe. They are souls having their own unique human experience. On some level, your child chose you to be the perfect person to guide their experience and to help them with their soul curriculum. When you see them as a child of light you can shift your perspective to not see them as a victim. If you go too much into caretaking it disempowers them from using their own inner resources. The healthier you are as an adult the healthier children you will raise. My one-day Over It and On With It workshop for men and women in London on July 21st only has 2 spots left. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine's Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? As a parent do you feel a bit guilty about not being a good enough parent or about thoughts you have about your kids or yourself? ? Do you sometimes want to run away from being a parent and then beat yourself up about it? ? Do you have a child that is suffering from something physical or emotional? Is that suffering wearing you down? ? How do you parent yourself? Are you critical of yourself? If you were raising yourself right now, how are you doing? ? Do you relate to the things in your life as a victim or as a spiritual seeker? Alexis's Question: Alexis wants guidance on how to be the best caretaker for her daughter who has a chronic condition. Alexis's Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her daughter's condition requires a lot of financial support. ? She wants to be more available for her daughter. ? She wants to protect everyone's emotions. ? She struggles with guilt and overwhelm. ? She reads to her daughter. ? Her children make her feel valuable. ? Her daughter is emotionally mature. ? She is not comfortable in dealing with negative emotions. ? She knows that guilt is useless. ? She realized she doesn't need to have the answers. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to forgive herself for guilty feelings and remind herself she is doing the best that she can. ? She needs to write out her feelings and then tear it up. ? She should teach her daughter to express her emotions. ? When she feels the guilt, she should ask herself if it is a good use of her energy. ? She should stop seeing her daughter as a victim and nurture her courageous spirit. Assignments For You: ? When something challenging is happening in your or your child's life, take the big deal factor out of it. ? Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Have a temper tantrum or write a big 'FU' letter. ? Move into acceptance of your challenges and be a seeker and look for the lessons. ? As a parent, make sure you have your own release system for your emotions. ? Read empowering stories about people who have overcome similar challenges. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Phlur ? is World Class Perfumers who create sustainable, award-winning scents at an honest price. Phlur allows you to test fragrances in your own environment to experience how the scents compliment your life. Discover your new scent by visiting the link above and use promo code 'OVERIT' to get 20% off your custom Phlur sample set. Resources: Christine Hassler ? Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler on Youtube Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Episode 149 Video Christine's Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? For those interested in being on the show
00:00:00 7/18/2018
Listen in as Christine talks about why when things start going really well in your life or you make a positive change, anxiety, doubt or sabotaging behaviors emerge. It is called an "Upper Limits" issue and Christine explains how to deal with it in a way that keeps you moving onward and upward.
00:08:15 7/13/2018

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