Over it and On with it with Christine Hassler

Over it and On With It. Master Coach Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems - and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

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EP 123: Being Strong is Overrated with Kelsey

This episode is about surrender. Kelsey feels blocked financially and is looking for advice on how to get unstuck when it comes to her dead-end job and finances. We don't actually end up talking about either of those things. We delve into her underlying patterns caused by her not feeling safe. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode123] All of us experience not feeling safe in some way and we make ourselves feel safe in different ways. We may outsource it through relationships with other people, maybe we overwork ourselves to make a lot of money or we attempt to be in control of everything in our lives. Resilience is important but make sure you don't do it by means of suppression. We must be willing to feel, acknowledge, and heal old wounds. Being a victim or feeling sorry for ourselves is not what emotional processing is about. We can truly heal and liberate ourselves from anything but we must be willing to deal with what 'is' our life. To create change in your life you must create a feeling of internal safety. I am headed to Australia. If you would like to be part of a half-day intensive, a session with me or life coach mastery and business training, email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you struggling with finances or a job you hate? ? Do you relate to being strong and believe you have to be strong? Do you relish the fact that others acknowledge you for being strong? ? What does vulnerability mean to you? Is it a weakness? ? Are you an overachiever, control freak or type 'A' personality? Do you feel safer when you are in control? ? How are you at surrendering? How are you just letting go and trusting that things will just work out? Kelsey's Question: Kelsey feels blocked financially and would like to know how she can build wealth again. Kelsey's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is afraid to slow her life down. ? She has created compensatory strategies to make herself feel safe. ? She beats herself up over her choices. ? She does personal growth work. ? She feels like she's a burden to others. ? She is neglecting her emotional needs. ? She doesn't have to prove her worth to anyone. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should take a month to bathe herself in love, be kind to herself and create safety and security within herself. ? She should break the pattern of panic and go into reassurance. ? She should research inner child meditations. Action Steps: ? Download the app for Insight Timer and search for "Healing Inner Child Emotional Processing Meditation," by Erin Geraghty. ? Identify your compensatory strategies and work through Expectation Hangover and 20-Something, 20-Everything. ? Participate in a surrender experiment for 30-days. Sponsor: Stitch Fix helps you to shop in a productive way and end up with purchases you actually love, right from home with no subscription required. Use this link to get 25% off when you keep all the items in your box. Freshbooks is easy to use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks wants to help you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial at Freshbooks.com/Christine, just use OVERITANDONWITH IT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler ?Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram
00:45:37 1/17/2018

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This is an incredibly intimate conversation between Christine and Madisyn as they talk about anxiety, depression and overcoming a challenging past. You will feel so much hope and reassurance from this episode! MADISYN TAYLOR is the co-founder and editor-in-chief of the popular inspirational website and daily newsletter, DailyOM and is responsible for all of its content. A recognized leader in self-help and new thought spirituality, Taylor has more than 20 years of experience in personal development and alternative healing methodologies. She has contributed to national publications and is a popular guest on many radio shows. Hay House published her international bestselling books, DailyOM: Inspirational Thoughts For A Happy, Healthy & Fulfilling Day, and DailyOM: Learning To Live, and she is also a #1 Billboard recording artist with her line of guided meditation albums. Check out her new book Unmedicated (please link to: https://www.amazon.com/Unmedicated-Four-Pillars-Natural-Wellness/dp/1582706573/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1515687060&sr=8-1&keywords=unmedicated) which is a gentle and accessible step-by-step guide to moving from excessive reliance on medications to fundamentally healing yourself through four pillars of natural wellness.
00:34:13 1/13/2018
This episode is about relationships. If you are in a relationship that isn't healthy, has reached its expiration date, or no longer serves you, this episode will help you gain clarity to your situation and emancipate you from your relationship. Today's caller, Daniella, is finding it difficult to break free from an issue-based relationship. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode122] Learning to trust your intuition will help you to have relationships that are based on love and shared values. Your intuition will always know the answer but your hormones get in the way, especially in issue-based relationships. You must separate love and lust to find the true intimacy. Love isn't volatile and it doesn't include lying. A healthy relationship doesn't create anxiety or doubt. We bring these relationships into our lives to show us a part of our life we need to heal. Consider the difference between short-term discomfort and prolonged suffering in your life. Sometimes we need a little tough love to get us out of an unhealthy relationship so we can move to the healthy relationships and have true love inside ourselves and with another. I am headed to Australia. If you would like to be part of a half-day intensive, a session with me or life coach training, email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you in a relationship you are doubting? Have you had a recent breakup and are doubting the choice? ? Do you tend to fall in love with potential and see more of the fantasy than the reality of who a person really is? ? Do you tend to believe a person's words and promises more than their actions and behaviors? ? How is your current relationship with yourself? Are you kind, generous and loving with yourself? Do you trust yourself? Daniella's Question: Daniella has trouble ending relationships even when she knows they are not healthy. Daniella's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She felt like a misfit in high school. ? She may be confusing love with infatuation. ? She has low self-worth and low self-confidence. ? She's in an issue-based relationship. ? She deserves better relationships. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to see her relationship for what it is. ? She should look at what this relationship is teaching her. ? She should write a letter to announce she is not interested in getting back together. ? She needs to work on getting closure on her own. ? She should look at how she loves herself and treats herself. ? She should work through the exercises in Expectation Hangover. Action Steps: ? Get honest about your relationships. Make sure someone's words and behaviors match. ? If you know a relationship has reached its expiration date, get closure and have boundaries. ? Use these sentence starters to write a free-form letter you don't intend to send: ? Dear (name) I am saying goodbye to you because... ? Thank you for... ? I learned from you... ? I forgive you for... ? I forgive myself for... Sponsor: Freshbooks is easy to use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks wants to help you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial at Freshbooks.com/Christine, just use OVERITANDONWITH IT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram
00:34:17 1/9/2018
Life coach. Author. Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are. She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. We talk about the dangers of numbing out, why playing the blame game is only a way to off load pain, and how to have healthier relationships. You can learn more at www.yourkickasslife.com and get her new book "How to Stop Feeling Like Shit" at www.yourkickasslife.com/htsfls
00:37:19 1/6/2018
This episode is about trusting ourselves and changing our relationship with money and with people. Today's caller, Jillian, is low on self-love and self-trust and she finds herself buying love. Money and love have been combined and entangled her entire life and her self-worth is dependent on her net worth. However, she doesn't like having money. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode121] Jillian doesn't like money because it brings up things she doesn't want to face. Money was used as emotional currency in her family. All she wanted was love and attention. It's not the money she is angry at; it's her father. She has been craving love for a long time. This love/hate relationship manifests in a cycle. She makes money because she thinks she needs it to survive and then she gets mad at it because it triggers her past issues. Then, she spends it and then panics because she doesn't have any. The cycle then starts all over again. In order to have a better relationship with money, Jillian has to heal her past issues with her father. She has love and money paired together. It's incredibly confusing and has made her repeat the behavior of her father. If she were to disconnect money and love she would have healthier relationships. Anything we unconsciously fear, we test. Jillian has a fear that if she doesn't have money no one will love her so she tests it by almost sabotaging her financial well-being to see if someone will stay in her life. What are you unconsciously testing that you are actually manifesting? This is a great year to focus on self-love, self-acceptance, and self-care. The kinder and more loving you are to yourself the more love you have to give and share. My new journal, 40 Days to Increase Your Peace, Productivity and Prosperity can help you focus on what is important. Sign up for my newsletter at ChristineHassler.com so you know when it's available. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? How do you describe your relationship with money? ? What was your family's financial situation growing up and how did that affect you? ? Do you feel like someone tried to buy your love or apologized with material things? ? Have you ever tried to buy affection or attention with gifts or money? ? Do you trust yourself when it comes to money? Jillian's Question: Jillian has had money and trust issues since she was a little girl and would like to know how to separate love from money. Jillian's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She was told she would never have to worry about money. ? She doesn't know how to separate love from money. ? She craves love and connection with people. ? Her money challenges have always been solved with money. ? She doesn't have to buy love. ? She has a scarcity mentality when it comes to money. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to understand that she has been craving love for a long time. ? She should speak with her husband more about her fears. ? She should make a list of the ways she breaks trust with herself and make new agreements. ? She needs to uplevel her financial IQ. Action Steps: ? Make a list of the ways you break trust with yourself and make new agreements. Keep your word to yourself! ? Evaluate your relationship with money and up your financial IQ. ? Challenge yourself to be more intimate with people instead of giving them gifts. ? If you are having difficulty trusting yourself with money, go to the bank and set up a 'trust' fund. Sponsor: Freshbooks ? Allows you to focus on your core business and makes invoicing, online payments and project management simple and fast. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial at Freshbooks.com/Christine, just use OVERITANDONWITH IT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram
00:43:32 1/3/2018
Listen in as Christine wraps up 2017 and guides you through a beautiful meditation to bring 2017 to an intentional completion and begin to co-create 2018.
00:18:21 12/30/2017
This episode is about finding the true sweetness in life. Today's caller, Marina, feels like she is stuck, especially when it comes to resisting sugar and taking care of her body. As you will hear in the call, It's not actually sugar she is craving. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode120] We don't overcome our eating patterns with discipline alone. There is no one diet or one book that fixes it. Usually, there is a deeper issue at play that goes back to our childhood. When it comes to dealing with any kind of food addiction or self-sabotaging behavior when it comes to food or exercise it is important we get to the root of the issue and get support to start building new healthy habits. Most people try to change themselves because they want to get away from something. It may get them to a certain point but it is depleting because it employs criticism and restriction. This 'moving away from' motivation triggers your inner rebel which is why it usually doesn't work. Having 'toward' motivation is becoming a disciple and having a loving following of the thing you are moving toward, like your health and well being. I find, people who crave sugar didn't have a lot of sweetness or nurturing growing up. They internalize an overly critical or controlling parent or they use self-criticism as a motivator. Sweetness and nurturing is something we humans need. If you weren't soothed as a child food can become a soothing strategy. Give yourself the sweetness and nurturing you may not have gotten growing up. Sign up for my newsletter to get my tips on how to say goodbye to 2017 and to say hello 2018! Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel stuck or like you are sabotaging yourself in some area of your life? ? Do you have a sugar or food addiction? ? Are you hard on yourself especially when judging yourself as lazy or lacking self-discipline? ? Did you grow up with a lot of sweetness and nurturing in your life? Marina's Question: Marina feels limited in her ability to be happy and that she lacks discipline. Marina's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has created self-supportive habits for herself. ? She breaks agreements with herself when it comes to food and exercise. ? She has an emotional craving for sweetness. ? She grew up with fear and criticism as motivators. ? She is a rebelling against herself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should speak kindly to herself when feels stressed. ? She should soothe herself with something else. ? She should do grief work around what she wanted from her parents and be a loving parent to herself. ? She should find a way to do things without them feeling oppressive. ? She should research her blood sugar levels. Takeaways: ? Don't try to beat your sugar addiction with willpower alone. ? If you feel stuck in any aspect of your life become a disciple and find your 'toward motivation' to get what you want. ? Find ways to be sweet to yourself and self-soothe. ? Write an 'I wish' letter to your parents and then use it to give yourself the gift of inner sweetness. Sponsor: NOOM? Is a modern weight release program that turns temptations into behavioral breakthroughs. Use this link to receive your own customized course designed by psychologists, nutritionists, and physicians, 24/7 access to your own personal coach, and the first 2 weeks free + 50% off your subscription. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com University of Santa Monica Shift Your Health and Your Mindset ? A Coaches Corner with JJ Virgin
00:33:22 12/27/2017
Giovanni Marsico is the founder of Archangel - a community of superhero entrepreneurs, leaders and gamechangers that are making the world a better place through mission-driven entrepreneurship and philanthropy.   In this Coaches Corner we talk about the importance of finding your tribe or like-minded people ? especially if you are an introvert or feel like a "black sheep" in some way. Giovanni hosts his large-scale fundraiser in Toronto every September for thousands of entrepreneurs called Archangel Summit where all of the proceeds are used to support various charities and offer micro-loans to entrepreneurs creating positive impact.   He also runs a invitation-only, private community called Archangel Masters for highly successful entrepreneurs impacting the lives of millions of people. Learn more here: http://www.archangelsummit.com/
00:27:43 12/23/2017
The essence of today's episode is about breaking free of the roles we play in our families. Today's caller, Jenna, is not stepping into her potential ? specifically her financial potential ? because she is still playing the role in her family that she played as a child and teenager. She wants to make sure everyone else is okay and it is holding her back. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode119] Many of us deal with the same issue as we individuate and become adults. There is a certain way we fit into our family to get safety, security, and love. When we start to have success and abundance, there is a part of us that feels like we are unworthy or unsafe. This is what I call an Upper Limits problem. We often stop ourselves from moving forward because we are so concerned about what other people think. If you think your success comes at the risk of someone else not getting it, feeling small, or not understanding, you will keep getting in your own way. If you value fitting in and protecting your role over living your dreams, you may need to shift. Sometimes your very existence may trigger someone. If other people in your family are suffering that is their choice. If they are making choices that make them unhappy it is not your job to suffer with them. Break free of the role of carrying your family's burdens. Break free of trying to make everyone understand you. You cannot see your vision clearly or see your full potential clearly if you are watching and managing how people are reacting to what you are doing. Know that trying to make other people feel comfortable at the same time as living into your full potential is impossible. It is your job to fulfill your mission. If you resonated with this episode go back and listen to my coaching call #113 with Sarah about shining your light. BIG NEWS! I have four spaces open for my one-on-one coaching. If you want to uplevel your life and career email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to get an application. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? How are you getting in your own way? How are you sabotaging your own success, specifically financially? ? What role did you play in your family? What did you do to fit in, to please everyone else to keep yourself safe? ? How is that role potentially holding you back at this point in your life? ? Is there a part of you who is afraid to step into your full potential? Are you playing small because you don't want to make other people feel small? Jenna's Question: Jenna would like to become a bigger version of herself but feels something always pulls her back. She would like to uplevel her yoga business. Jenna's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is keeping herself small to make other people comfortable. ? She was a caretaker in her family. ? She felt embarrassed by her ambitions. ? She didn't want to make others feel small. ? She feels successful even with financial challenges. ? It's okay for her to share herself with confidence even if it triggers other people. ? If she doesn't shift she may end up resenting people. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should write letters she doesn't intend to mail, to cut the energetic cords to family members. ? She should realize people are capable of handling their own experience. ? She should write down some new beliefs. ? She should turn her efforts inward to help her and her little girl make her dreams come true. Takeaways: ? Write a letter to the people you feel you will upset without mailing it. ? Visualize and practice yourself looking forward, not backward. ? Write a list of your competing intentions. Get fully aligned with the intentions that put you where you want to go and accept that you can't make everyone happy. ? Consider how the role you played in your family is impacting your life right now and journal your thoughts. What is your new role? Sponsor: THIRDLOVE ? What if you could take the away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find your perfect size, even if it's a half size. Use the link to try your new favorite bra free for 30-days. True Car ? Are you looking for a simpler buying experience when you buy a new or used car? True Car will help you feel confident you are paying the 'true' price when buying a new or used car. You can even see what others paid for their cars. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com
00:39:52 12/19/2017
If things have been intense for you lately, you are not alone. Many of us are dealing with intense challenges and expectation hangovers. This is NOT the time to spiritual bypass or jump to the silver lining. This IS the time to dive deep and explore what the Universe is teaching you or calling you toward.
Listen in as Christine talks about the intensity of this time and takes you through a guided meditation to deal with the uncertainty.
Here is interview with Paul Chek on the Aubrey Marcus Podcast: https://www.aubreymarcus.com/blogs/aubrey-marcus/paul-chek-amp-128
00:18:57 12/16/2017
This episode is about self-honoring choices, ultimatums, and jealousy in mother-daughter relationships. Todays caller, Kristin, is looking for guidance in how to proceed after her mother gave her an ultimatum. We also look at the compensatory strategies Kristin has adopted in an effort to deal with things from her childhood.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode118]

What is a self-honoring choice? A self-honoring choice is an honest choice rooted in truth that comes from love. Kristin felt she was always in competition with her mother. She became a perfectionist as a compensatory strategy because she felt that she could only receive love if she was perfect. Through her growth work, she is starting to make self-honoring choices for herself.

What are you passionate about? What you are passionate about is often a tie into our spiritual curriculum and our parents are part of that curriculum. Remember, we choose our parents as our teachers. When our parents dont see us for who we truly are, it can seem cruel. But, part of our soul journey is to heal from past cruelty.

What do you long for from your parents?

Be sure to check out Coaches Corner. Last week I talked about ghosting and flaky behavior, the week before I interviewed Jill about selling skills and I even answer questions. So, if you have a question for me, email assist@ChristineHassler.com.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Is there someone in your life you are not speaking to or have a strained relationship with?
If you grew up with two parents, was one more challenging for you to get along with or close to?
Do you tend to be attracted, date or marry people you feel you must earn their love?
Do you know what self-honoring choices are? If so, do you make them regularly?

Kristins Question:
Kristin would like to know how to approach her mother about a recent ultimatum.

Kristins Key Insights and Ahas:
She was in an abusive relationship.
She made a self-honoring choice.
She was always in competition with her mother.
Her mother was passive aggressive.
She yearned for attention from her mother.
Her parents had a horrible relationship.
Her existence triggers her mother.
She chose her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should keep working on herself and stay strong to break the pattern of contorting herself to make her mother feel better.
She should realize her mom may not be able to face her issues.
She should continue making self-honoring choices.

Takeaways:
Where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying too much to please people?
And, where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying to be the bigger person vs. speaking your truth?
Why did you pick your parents and what are they here to teach you?
Let go of who you want your parents to be. Accept the fact that if your mother or father truly saw what they needed to see about themselves in order to give you the apology you crave, it might break them.

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00:38:58 12/13/2017
Ever been ghosted which is when someone you were in communication with all of a sudden totally disappears with zero explanation. Most often it happens in dating. You are seeing someone and texting frequently and then all of a sudden . . . crickets. Ghosting can also happen in friendship.
It is incredibly painful and frustrating because you are left with no reason other than the reasons you make up in your head (which are usually not very healthy!).
Listen in as Christine goes on a rant about ghosting, explains why people do it from a psychological point of view and gives you tips to get over being ghosted.
00:14:07 12/9/2017
This episode is about moving from awareness to integration. Todays caller, Natalie, has been on the path of personal growth for two years but is finding it difficult to integrate her new awareness and make real change happen in her life.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode117]

Awareness is great but its only a step to actually making changes in our lives. We have to take awareness and shift it into changes changes in the way we think, changes in the way we react and process our feelings, changes in our behavior. And, not from the perspective that there is anything wrong with us or that we are broken but from what am I going to do with this awareness now that I have it?

Trusting yourself is very important. You must stop doubting yourself and stop breaking your word with yourself in terms of commitments and self-care. If you do, consciously re-negotiate with yourself. When we dont have self-trust it is torture. We agonize over a decision and we search for someone out there to give us the answer or make us feel safe. No one else can do it. It is an inside job.

Be sure to check out this weekends Coaches Corner! I will be addressing ghosting and flaky behavior.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you find it challenging to move from awareness to integration?
Do you have a parent who has been absent in some way? A divorce, death, emotional unavailability and you sense it could be affecting your current relationships?
Can you relate to the feeling of being anxious in a relationship because of a fear that a person may leave and stop liking or loving you?
When it comes to trust, how are you at trusting others and do you trust yourself?

Natalies Question:
Natalie would like to know how to use her awareness to be happier with herself and in relationships.

Natalies Key Insights and Ahas:
She had a loving and supportive relationship with her parents.
She expects men to betray her and has fears of abandonment.
She created a story to block out her fathers affair.
She doesnt keep the self-honoring choices she makes to herself.
She had a strained relationship with her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should be more patient with herself and less critical of her development.
She should read or listen to the book, Attachment.
She should start connecting with her inner child.
She should trust herself and rely on her inner resources.

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00:44:36 12/6/2017
If you have a service based business OR are considering hiring a coach do not miss this episode. Listen in as I sit with Jill, who has worked with me for over eight years, and talk about:
1. Why sales and enrollment is not icky and really is a service to people
2. How to overcome objections and turn them into coachable moments
3. The most important things you need to do to build your service based biz and become successful and comfortable with enrollment
4. What to watch out for when hiring a coach
We also do a role-playing session where I play the client full of objections about money and Jill coaches me through it.
To contact Jill about coaching email jill@christinehassler.com
00:43:32 12/2/2017
This episode is about breaking out of a self-imposed prison cell and taking a conscious action which will lead to change. Todays caller, Shanna, needs to squelch her limiting beliefs and embrace her strengths and her power.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode116]

Shanna has been punishing herself. Shame does that to us. When we feel ashamed about something we overcompensate and that becomes our punishment.

Anytime we are in overcompensation mode and do not allow ourselves to live the life we really want, we keep ourselves in a self-imposed prison.

Its a humbling thing to realize that we are the common denominator in situations we dont want. But, its important that we dont blame ourselves. When we find ourselves at this crossroads, it is time to start creating the things we want instead of the things we dont want.

Where are you procrastinating and what will it take for you to change?

One of my favorite ways to empower people is teaching retreats. So, in March 2018, I am hosting my annual signature retreat. It is an intense, 3-day, women-only spring event with only 20 spaces available. This is the last time I will lead the retreat, as I am training others. To find out more e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com or check out Spring Retreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you feel stuck in a job or relationship and you feel you cant get out of it?
Do you feel over-responsible in your life but is responsibility an area that could use some growth?
Are you really free? Are you locked in a self-imposed prison because you dont think you have any choices?
Do you procrastinate in making a change until you are forced to do so?

Shannas Question:
Shanna is having a hard time leaving a job she feels is a toxic environment.

Shannas Key Insights and Ahas:
She feels she may not find a better job.
She doesnt feel worthy of help.
Parenting is the hardest thing shes ever done.
She felt shame around her pregnancy.
She is brutally hard on herself.
She doesnt believe she can make an internal shift.
Her fear-based predictions of how things will go are off.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should start looking for another job.
She needs to believe she can succeed at what she wants to do.
She should avoid letting her outer experience dictate her inner experience.
She should remove the word try from her vocabulary.
She should uplevel her responsibility and embrace her power and strength.
She should write out her plan of action.

Takeaways:
You have the ability to respond to situations in life as you choose. How are you choosing to respond to things?
If you are stuck, what is your why? Why are you procrastinating and making excuses?
Stop trying to figure things out. Make the necessary internal shifts and take action.

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00:45:28 11/29/2017
Most people think mental toughness when they imagine a Navy SEAL. What they don't expect is the thoughtful, yoga-innovating, joking and laughing, professor of leadership named Mark Divine.
Through Marks teaching, entrepreneurial endeavors and travel to foreign countries, he noticed the power of mental toughness, emotional resilience, intuitive leadership and a healthy spirit for anyone wanting breakthrough performance. They weren't solely for combat or restricted to the business world or one culture. He'd watch them transform lives in people from every background, nation and belief system. So he wrote and self-published his first book, Unbeatable Mind, in 2011 and launched its at-home study program.
Listen in as Christine learns about having an unbeatable mind from Mark and don't miss the incredible breath work exercise he takes us through!

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00:45:49 11/25/2017
This episode is about vanquishing self-criticism, letting things go that no longer serve you, and how to get what you want from life.

We are not always good friends to ourselves and it can be reflected back to us in our friendships like it is today in my call with Claire. One of Claires friendships has just reached an expiration date and she is learning valuable lessons from it.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode115]

Other people can be mirrors for us and often, it takes someone else to wake us up. If a friend treats us bad enough it causes us to look inside ourselves to understand what it is showing us. It can show us the kind of friend we are being to ourselves.

Don't stay in an unhealthy friendship or one that doesn't serve either of you. We tend to hold on to friendships just a little longer because we don't have to see the person as much. We justify putting up with it or we think we need to stay in the friendship because of the history. Or, we don't have the guts to end it because we don't want to upset somebody.

When we have a fierce inner critic it doesn't compartmentalize. It doesn't cheer us on in our career and then pick us apart physically. It is pervasive in all aspects of our lives. A fierce inner critic can impact our confidence. We can take something personally to our detriment or we can take it personally toward our growth.

To get what you want, you have to believe that what you want is out there. Your longing is your psychic knowing.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you compartmentalizing your life? Are you stuck in one area that may be caused by an unresolved issue in another area of your life?
If you talked to or treated your friends like you do to yourself would you have any friends?
Is your confidence down? Do you find yourself on the receiving end of criticism from other people?
Do you have any friendships that have passed their expiration date and are no longer healthy for you to continue?

Claires Question:
Claire wants to get unstuck in her life after an emotional falling out with friends.

Claires Key Insights and Ahas:
She found a friends comments inappropriate.
She can be critical of herself and lack self-confidence.
Her friend is a mirror of how she treats herself.
Questioning herself has impacted her career momentum.
She goes through cycles of emotional sensitivity.
She doesnt enjoy certain aspects of her job.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should leverage this experience to perpetuate her growth.
She should write down 50 things about herself she is grateful for.
She should write out a description of what she wants from her work.
She should collect evidence about why the job she wants does exist.

Takeaways:
Do a friendship inventory. Look at the friends in your life and ask yourself Is this an aligned friendship? Has this friendship passed its expiration date and is it time to complete this relationship and move on?
How can you be a better friend to yourself? Start being kind to yourself.
Write a detailed list of what you want. Get a picture in your mind and take action.
Make a list of 50 things you are grateful for.

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00:45:32 11/22/2017
Christine speaks with Women For One Founder and author Kelly McNelis about her new book Your Messy Brilliance. This is a must listen for all perfectionists and over-doers out there. Learn how to embrace ALL parts of you, even the messy ones, and live a more authentic life.
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00:34:09 11/18/2017
This episode is about understanding the basis of relationships that feel like an addiction. Todays caller, Arelle, has some unresolved daddy issues which keep her latched on to a much older man.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode114]

When we have a strong co-dependent relationship and it feels like an addiction or a drug it generally comes from a childhood wound. It is important, developmentally and psychologically, to have a healthy relationship with our parents. If we don't have a healthy relationship with our parents and as adults, we don't resolve our issues through inner work, therapy, coaching or spiritual practices, we go look for what we didnt get from our parents from the people we date. Often, it is our younger self who picks our relationships. Our survival instinct tells us that if our parents are not there for us we will die. This is why codependent relationships can feel like a death when we try to separate from them, it is because it is triggering the child in us to feel like they may not survive.

Arelles relationship issue was more about her father than it was about her guy. Arelle may not have fully grieved the relationship she didn't have with her father. She never received the validation and attention she wanted from her father so she is playing out the scenario with her guy.

If you relate to this on-again-off-again relationship, you have to choose to stop your relationship. Accept that it is not good for you and get out. A codependent, abusive, toxic relationship is not safe and its not what you want.

One of my favorite ways to empower people is teaching retreats. So, in March 2018 I am hosting my annual signature retreat. It is an intense 3-day, women only spring event with only 20 spaces available. This is the last time I will lead the retreat as I am training others. For early bird pricing or to find out more e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com or check out Spring Retreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you in a relationship that some part of you knows is not good for you but you cant seem to permanently break it off?
Are you going through withdrawal because you recently ended a relationship and are tempted to rekindle it?
Did you lose a parent at a young age from death, divorce, or abandonment?
Do you find yourself looking for safety and security in someone else and identify with being a bit dependent or are do you provide that to someone else?

Arelles Question:
Arelle would like to end her codependent relationship but cant seem to stop going back to him.

Arelles Key Insights and Ahas:
Her father passed when she was young.
There is a significant age difference between her and the guy.
She has difficulty feeling safe.
She may have not completely dealt with her fathers death.
She has an eating disorder.
She has left her addiction six times.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should find a counselor who is able to connect her past relationships with her present relationships.
She should consider going cold turkey and not see or speak with her guy again.
She should research codependency support groups and see if there is one in her area.
She needs to be a grown up and set herself up for success.

Takeaways:
Take off your rose-colored glasses. Make a list of the things that are true about your relationship and what you fantasize it to be.
Find a counselor or coach who will help you connect the dots. There is no shame in going to counseling.
If you are in an on-again-off-again relationship, turn it off. Do something that is good for you and end it for good.

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00:36:33 11/15/2017
Its 11/11 do you know the significance of that number? Listen to find out!

In this Coaches Corner Christine also teaches the difference between a trigger or issue based choice and a preference. She empowers you to honor who you are and what you like and let go of FOMO.

She then shares some great take-aways from top speakers like Brene Brown, Jane Fonda, Shonda Rhimes and Marianne Williamson that she just heard speak at a big event.

Christine reveals one of her preferences when it comes to massive crowds and events that may help you feel more like yourself the next time you are in a social situation.
00:18:02 11/11/2017
This episode is about shining your light and stepping into your full potential. Todays caller, Sara, wants to break her pattern of self-sabotage, stop playing small and to live an abundant life.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode113]

We dont just arrive at our full potential. We take steps to move into our full potential by not limiting ourselves, by sharing our gifts, by expressing ourselves authentically, and by going after what we truly want and not feeling any guilt or shame about it wanting it or having it. We fear success and are worried about what other people will think or feel, particularly leaving people behind, because we are growing at different rates. We doubt the goodness coming into our lives and we wait for the other shoe to drop. We end up sabotaging our health, wealth and relationships. But why?

Sara had a habit of creating intimacy through people needing her, through pleasing people or through having a problem or issue she could commiserate about. She would make herself small to create a bond or connection with someone else. I helped her realize what was the payoff of why she was scared to shine her light.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you currently, or has there been a time in the past, where things start going great and you sabotage it?
Are you afraid of shining your light because of what other people might think or you may leave people behind?
Do you long to feel connected to people so much that you engage in people pleasing or caretaking just because you want to feel like you matter and you want to be connected?
Are you willing to admit that you live in a scarcity mindset instead of an abundant mindset?

Saras Question:
Sara would like to break her cycle of self-sabotage when it comes to her business and health.

Saras Key Insights and Ahas:
She fears she will be separate if she lets herself shine.
She may be addicted to suffering.
She is scared to disrupt the dynamic that creates intimacy.
She is afraid of how powerful she really is.
She grew up in a scarcity mindset.
She is trying to be in both scarcity and abundance.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She needs a new picture of what success and health will look like for her.
She should shine brightly from her essence without comparing it to others.
She needs to shine so she can empower others to do the same.

Takeaways:
If you are engaging in self-sabotaging behavior, determine what the payoff is. Write down a new way to get the same payoff. Reflect on any limited beliefs you may have inherited.
Think about people who are shining their light and how they inspire you. Get a new picture of what living into your new potential looks like.
Write down what your life would look like if you were shining brightly.

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00:38:40 11/8/2017
Picture a time, maybe it is even now, when you have been preparing for something BIG like an interview, event, presentation, or the release of some creative endeavor. Now consider how much mental, physical, and emotional energy you put into it.

Was it a lot -perhaps too much? Did you find yourself stressing out about it?

On top of that did your perfectionist start to kick in like you kept tweaking and editing and trying to make it better?

Where is the line between healthy preparation and perfectionism/obsessing?

Thats exactly what Christine covers in this quickie episode of Coaches Corner.
00:11:58 11/4/2017
This episode is about acknowledging successes and how releasing emotional weight can help release physical weight. Todays caller, Lindsay, is continuing on her course to personal mastery but she feels stuck when it comes to her health and wellness.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode112]

If you are wondering why is it so hard to implement personal growth efforts, its because neural pathways are created over time, especially when you have been doing things the same way for years. Simply being aware of something doesnt create change. Growth is a process, not an event.

And growth is part of being human. There is always more growing to do and with the right tools the easier it becomes. We have to stop approaching growth as a fix-it, self-improvement, something is wrong with me project. Its important to celebrate how much growth you have experienced and how far youve come towards personal mastery.

If you need emotional release, do the Temper Tantrum exercise in Expectation Hangover. As you work through the emotional residue you will need less and less of the emotional release work but It takes more than one time to deal with suppressed emotions.

Practice is the key to transformation.

Lindsays Question:
Lindsay has been successful in shifting many parts of her life but is still struggling with health and weight issues.

Lindsays Key Insights and Ahas:
She has shifted her relationship with herself.
She is on a strict food diet.
She has taken my Personal Mastery course.
She has an emotional relationship with junk food.
Her parents divorce may still be affecting her.
She feels not worthy.
She is going to get off the diet treadmill and get healthy.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should find a holistic nutritionist and learn what her body needs.
She should write an apology and a thank you letter to her body.
She should choose to be worthy.

Takeaways:
Watch the Why You Are Not Losing Weight Despite Doing Everything Right, Why Willpower Isn't Enough When It Comes To Emotional Eating videos I did for FitLife.tv.
Write a letter to your body for how hard youve been on it and ask it what it needs.
Consider what you didnt get from a parent and start giving that to yourself.

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What Are You Truly Craving? with Alexandra Jamieson
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00:48:07 11/1/2017
Scott Stabile is the author of Big Love: The Power of Living with a Wide Open Heart. His positive outlook and the inner and outer experiences he shares in Big Love offer striking examples of the power of love in action. Whether trying (as we all must) to silence shame, show up for friends, or overcome dreaded what-ifs, the hard-won insights that Scott shares are sure to help us do so with a renewed sense of love.

His inspirational posts and videos have attracted a huge and devoted social media following, including over 350K Facebook fans and counting. A regular contributor to the Huffington Post, he lives in Michigan and conducts personal empowerment workshops around the world. Visit him online at http://www.scottstabile.com.
00:39:23 10/28/2017
This episode is about making yourself a priority and living in the now. Todays caller, Montana, is wondering what she should do professionally. She is waiting for something to happen instead of making it happen for herself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode111]

We all have seasons in our lives. Our ability to travel to the past and the future in our minds may make us miss out on the present moment. When we are constantly thinking about what is next, we forget about what is now.

When our minds are in the future we are not honoring the season of the life we are in. Consider what season you are in. Are you honoring that season? When you take the time to honor the current season it is easier to leverage the learning opportunities and you will have a greater appreciation for the next season you are in.

Montana found it hard to make a clear choice because she has a fierce inner critic. Often times, clarity comes when we stop thinking about something or we get curious and try different things to get feedback.

Would you like to be coached on this show? E-mail assist@ChristineHassler.com.

Montanas Question:
Montana would like help navigating through her confidence issues with regards to her professional life.

Montanas Key Insights and Ahas:
She will be spending the coming year at home with her child.
She longs to have a passion for what she is doing.
She feels like she always has to have it all together.
She was criticized instead of encouraged when she was younger.
She equated love with validation.
She should be grateful for where she is right now.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should accept the season of life she is in.
She should feel proud of herself and not make her self-love conditional.
Every night she should write down three things she is proud of herself for.
She should be curious about career possibilities.

Takeaways:
If you are self-critical or had an overly critical parent, or parents, you need to reinforce the feeling of pride within yourself. Every night write three things you are proud of yourself for.
If you are confused about what to do professionally, reach out to people and request an informational interview.
Consider taking the What Do I Want To Do with My Life career course.
Enjoy the season you are in and live in the now!

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Coaches Corner Decision-Making Tips
00:36:05 10/25/2017
In this episode of Coach's Corner Christine give you some tips on how to make a decision. So many of us hang out in limbo WAY too long when it comes to making a choice - and limbo is hell. Listen in for some advice on how to make a self-honoring choice and get two really powerful exercises you can do to get clarity about a current decision that you may be struggling with.
00:14:18 10/21/2017
This episode is about health and well-being. Todays caller, Tiffany, is a month away from having surgery and would like to understand what her body is attempting to teach her.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode110]

Having a physical ailment caused Tiffany to be more vulnerable and to reach out to more people. Our bodies need to know we got the message and that we have a plan of forgiveness and healing. The body will then know it doesnt need to alert us by way of physical symptoms anymore.

I hope after this call you can see the power and the wisdom our body has for us. And how physical symptoms, ailments, or diseases often have emotional roots with powerful messages. However, I do not want to plant the seed that we cause our own health conditions. You dont have a physical condition because you did something wrong. If you are suffering from something, be open to looking at the cause or the message without going into a cycle of self-blame.

I will delve more into this topic with Brandy Gilmore on an upcoming Coaches Corner. She has taught me a lot about how our thoughts and feelings show up physically.

If you need a strategy to remove your internal blocks and turn your struggles into your superpowers, join me for my Over and On With It Personal Mastery 7-week online course. Enrollees get videos, guided meditations, personal guidance, and more. Plus, graduates of my Personal Mastery course receive a ticket to a one-day retreat in San Diego. Email Jill@christinehassler.com to register. Sign up ends on October 19, 2017.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you or have you dealt with a physical condition or pain?
When it comes to physical ailments how do you deal with it?
Do you have a chronic physical condition you cant get to the bottom of? Have you considered exploring the emotional or psychological roots of it?
Are you harboring heartache? Is there someone or something you have not forgiven?

Tiffanys Question:
Tiffany is wondering about the significance and the lesson of her upcoming surgery.

Tiffanys Key Insights and Ahas:
She is experiencing a lot of internal changes.
She believes her physical ailment could be caused by her emotional past.
Its time for her to find her guide.
She needs to forgive herself for past judgments.
She may have hidden behind her ailment.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should write down her gratitude towards the fibroid and write down her agreements to herself to let it go.
She needs to find someone to guide her before her surgery.
She should do the exercises from the Emotional section of Expectation Hangover.
She should let her feelings drain away through a comforting bath.

Takeaways:
If you have any pain, disease, or physical ailment try having a dialogue with it to see what the message is.
If you are harboring emotion, resentment, or old heartbreak, it is time to get it up and out. Often, those emotions turn into physical symptoms.
Join my Personal Mastery course to learn how to let go of any emotional baggage you have been carrying around.
Make agreements with your body and stick to those agreements.
Perform rituals to assist your unconscious mind to let go.

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00:42:55 10/18/2017
Youll LOVE this conversation. Drew came over to my house and we had an incredible chat that covered a lot of ground: healing our past, forgiveness, relationships, health and weight release, detox, and SO much more.

Fueled by small-town values and a big vision for a better planet, Drew Canole begins each day with one simple goal in mind to positively impact the lives of others. Through his work as a Personal Coach and endeavors such as EnrichYourExistence.com and FitLife.tv, Drew aims to inspire and motivate others to search deep within themselves to create an abundant, healthy and fulfilling life. "Improve one life; improve the world."

Drew was born and raised in the small, rural community of Lake City in Northern Michigan. After attending Central Michigan University, he launched a successful career in finance before recognizing that his greatest talent was helping others discover their untapped potential. He currently resides in San Diego, where his work as an author, fitness specialist and transformation expert has made him one of the most reputable Personal Coaches in Southern California.

Drew is committed to the conviction that people are at their best when challenged. He pushes others to bust through personal barriers and reach new heights in physical, mental and spiritual well-being.

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00:47:06 10/14/2017
This episode is about how a compensatory strategy is an action. Todays caller, Melissa, wants to know how to deal with difficult in-laws who are triggering her compensatory strategy.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode109]

A compensatory strategy is a behavior we adopt to feel safe, validated, and worthy. These strategies block us from seeing and being who we truly are, keeping us stuck.

Usually, we get stuck when we are attempting to do two things at once. Melissa was attempting to navigate standing up for herself AND she was attempting to keep her compensatory strategy in action. We can't live in our truth and be in our compensatory strategies. She had competing intentions.

People who trigger you are your spiritual teachers. They are illuminating something for you to see. When you feel you are being triggered, look back at the events in your life that have led up to it.

You don't need to justify or explain your truth. Its time to start having boundaries and using your voice. Often, setting boundaries will upset the people you are setting boundaries with because they are used to you being a pushover. Setting boundaries is a self-honoring choice.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are there some difficult people in your life? Are you hurt by them when you just want them to like and understand you?
Are you a caretaker and want to make sure others are happy?
Is it hard for you to stick up for yourself and set boundaries?

Melissas Question:
Melissa feels judged and criticized by her in-laws and wants to know how to move past it.

Melissas Key Insights and Ahas:
She feels surrounded by people who are trying to bring her down.
She looks to others for validation.
Shes a caretaker.
She hasnt set boundaries with her husbands family.
She feels she needs to keep people happy to keep them around.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should ask herself how she can grow and heal, not how should she fix herself.
Get her emotions out by using the Release Writing or Temper Tantrum techniques in Expectation Hangover.
She should take a long, compassionate, loving look at herself.
She should start being an example to her daughters and create boundaries.
She should look at which beliefs she holds that make her feel more valuable when she fits in.
She should take the Mastery Course.

Takeaways:
Join the free Master Class and sign up for the Mastery Course.
Remember the people who trigger you the most are your spiritual teachers. Look at the learning opportunity they offer you.
Have boundaries. If you are not good with replying in the moment, write some thoughts down and practice saying them.
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00:46:38 10/11/2017
Christine gives you an experience of her Bali retreat and talks you through a powerful process.

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00:14:48 10/7/2017
This episode is about listening to your intuition and getting clear about what you want from a relationship. Todays caller, Sandra, realizes she may want to continue her current relationship due to familiarity or comfort and not because it is truly what she wants from a relationship.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode108]

Be mindful of what you are scared of and what you are making your number one fear. Sandras fear of losing herself should have been the fear she is paying attention to.

What legitimate fears should you pay more attention to? For example, the fear of losing someone you may be doubting the relationship with or the fear of spending additional years in an unsatisfying relationship? The fear of leaving your job and having less money for a while and dealing with uncertainty or the fear of spending the rest of your life in a career you hate?

Fear can serve us in some way. It can light a fire in us to make necessary changes and when we take action we dont need the fear. But if you are tapped into the wrong fear you start doubting yourself.

Sandras soul wants to know who she is, independent of who she is in a relationship. Will she make the choice that serves the highest good?

If you want to learn to bring your unconscious to your conscious mind so you can remove obstacles from your life join me for my free No Regrets Master Class. Awareness is only the first step. You need a strategy to turn your struggles into your superpowers. During the class, I will share the Iceberg Principle to show you how to do it. Sign up and join me on October 11, 2018. Let me help you live your life with no regrets.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Is there something in your life you are uncertain about?
Do you feel guilty about something you have done in a relationship?
Would you love for someone you are in a relationship with to change?
Are you struggling with a decision but deep down you know what to do?

Sandras Question:
Sandra would like some clarity around her current relationship.

Sandras Key Insights and Ahas:
Shes afraid of losing herself in her relationship.
She hasnt had any time alone in her adult life.
Shes not sure the relationship is healthy.
She felt responsible for fixing the relationship.
She may be asking for permission to make a decision.
She may be playing her fathers role in an effort to get closer to him.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should take three months to do some soul-searching.
She should write down the reality of what the relationship was.
She should make some self-honoring choices.

Takeaways:
Get clear on which fear you need to be paying attention to.
Look at the parent you are most like or becoming.
Where do you need some space in your life?
Use prayer or meditation to find out what is the highest good for all involved.
Join my No Regrets master class.

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00:40:08 10/4/2017
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00:40:45 9/30/2017
This episode is about suppressing feelings and being comfortable in our own skin. Todays caller, Becca, could have been a millennial who was accustomed to instant gratification and unrealistic expectations when it came to working. But, it wasnt what she struggles with at all. I didnt stereotype her or jump to conclusions, instead, I asked her what the most challenging thing in her life was.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode107]

Its hard to get yourself motivated and inspired when there is no feeling associated with what you are doing. Often, we think something external is the problem but there is no external without the internal. When we dont know how to process our feelings, we numb the pain and keep upping the numbing technique. Its important to learn how to process our Expectation Hangovers, our old hurts, our old pains.

When a pattern of discomfort has become too comfortable we may just want to change our lives, but like in Beccas case, this can lead to extreme behavior. And, if you are holding on to shame, release it. Get it out into the light. Shame comes with blame. Its time to forgive yourself and to forgive the other person because holding on to anger and resentment is only hurting you.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Would you consider yourself a bit of an extremist?

Beccas Question:
Becca feels something is holding her back from being committed to her work.

Beccas Key Insights and Ahas:
She is mimicking the patterns of her dad.
She distracted herself with drugs and alcohol to deal with her parents divorce.
Shes looking for quick fix.
She feels ashamed of contracting an STD.
She thinks of leaving her job when she needs a quick fix for a problem.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should forgive herself for distracting herself with partying.
She should bring her best to the job she is in now.
She can take responsibility for her choices without blaming herself.
She can do the exercises in Expectation Hangover.

Takeaways:
If you are bored in your job or relationship examine if you have difficulty being present.
Look at how some of your worst fears are already happening. Consider what you are going to do to change it.
Bring your shame out of the shadows. Forgive yourself and forgive others.
If you are bored in your work, or life, write a letter about everything that is wonderful about your situation. How can you bring more excitement from the inside out?

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00:43:50 9/27/2017
Listen is as Christine answers questions from listeners. Topics covered in this episode:
1. Masculine / feminine dynamics and emotional availability
2. Getting over impatience and trusting life to unfold in the best possible way
3. Not feeling depleted when you help someone else and ways to protect your energy
Link to blog that Christine referenced:
http://christinehassler.com/2017/05/how-to-protect-your-energy-so-you-have-more-of-it/

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00:16:38 9/23/2017
This episode is about abundance, prosperity, and how to overcome blocks to getting your financial life to where it feels healthy. I coach todays caller, Doreen, on breaking some limiting beliefs around money and shifting her spending and earning patterns.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode106]

As children, when we see our parents struggle we often make a vow or promise to ourselves that we will never end up in the same situation. We need to recognize that we manifested the intention, then explore the lessons from it. Then, shift to the next level of putting new beliefs and behaviors into place. Change your orientation from self-improvement to self-upgrades or up-leveling.

If you are a coach its important to stretch your clients but not until they snap. Be sensitive to where they are and give them a step that is reasonable and realistic, like I did with Doreen around energetically releasing her mother from her care.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you feel you have blocks or issues when it comes to money?
Do you have a lot of debt?
Do you quickly spend what you have and sabotage your financial success?
Is it hard for you to ask for what you are worth and is it hard to receive?
Do you feel guilty when you have money?
Do you believe it is possible to shift your relationship with money?

Doreens Question:
Doreen would like to manifest financial abundance into her life.

Doreens Key Insights and Ahas:
She may be following in her parents financial footsteps.
She wants to be taken care of.
She doesnt want to be like her mother.
She feels guilty that she is doing better than her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She needs to parent herself about where true safety comes from.
She should write a letter to her mother she doesnt intend to send, about her relationship to money.
She should make a list of her new belief system about earning, money, and what she wants to create.
She should stop parenting her mother.
She should focus on herself and stop playing small.

Takeaways:
Consider if there were any vows you made to yourself as a child such as I will never be like that and look at what it is creating in your life. Do those vows need to be re-negotiated?
If theres someone you need to break energetic ties to, write them a letter you never mail, stating what you are no longer taking on.
If you want to up your financial IQ I recommend you read The Abundance Book, The Science of Getting Rich and Money: A Love Story.

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Christy Whitman on Coaches Corner
The Abundance Book, by John Randolph Price
The Science of Getting Rich: How to make money and get the life you want, by Wallace Wattles
Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want, by Kate Northrup
00:38:35 9/20/2017
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00:26:57 9/16/2017
This episode is about taking responsibility for the part you play in relationships and realizing you did nothing wrong. Todays caller, Mary, is having a challenging time letting go of an ex. She is obsessing over his new relationship and cant seem to get over it, even in therapy. During the call, Mary makes a major shift.

Mary is critical of herself and hard on herself for the choices she makes. Her unprocessed anger, sadness, and lack of fulfillment in her own life were leaking out onto her partner.

The more unsettled and unhappy we are in our own life the more we tend to be irritable, snappy, impatient, or mean often to the people we love the most. I recently wrote a blog, #1 Tool to Avoiding Conflict in any Relationship to address this.

As women, It is important for us to know when we are in our masculine and how it throws off the polarity in a relationship. I highly recommend the work of Alison Armstrong and David Deida can be useful resources for understanding how polarity works in any type of relationship.

Also, when we obsess about others we avoid looking at ourselves. We can not fixate or attempt to understand someone else without understanding ourselves first. Even if we werent 100% our best selves, we need to bring the focus back to ourselves and look for the lessons.

What is your Expectation Hangover teaching you?

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Is there something from your past you are having a hard time letting go?
Are you obsessing about a person so much that it is taking up your mental energy and preventing you from moving forward?
Can you admit you havent always shown up as your best self in a relationship?
Are you willing to take 100% responsibility for your life?

Marys Question:
Mary would like to know how to accept her breakup and get over her ex.

Marys Key Insights and Ahas:
She has been seeing a therapist.
She has been cheated on in past relationships.
Her father was emotionally unavailable.
She would fight with her ex.
Fixating on her ex is distracting from learning a lesson.
She may believe the relationship ending is her fault.
She doesnt want to have to take action to get him back.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should take responsibility for 100% of her 50% of the breakup and realize she didnt do anything wrong.
She should take three months to focus and no contact with her ex.
She should envision forward.

Takeaways:
Take responsibility, even when you want to feel like a victim, and own your end of something that didnt turn out like you planned?
Forgive yourself. Beating yourself up will not help you learn, grow, or heal any faster.
Is there someone in your life you need a break from?
Always look for the lessons. Any Expectation Hangover is bringing you an opportunity to heal. Instead of asking Why is this happening to me, ask Why is this happening FOR me?

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Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
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Expectation Hangover
Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Course
The PodcastOne Survey
Christy Whitman Coaches Corner
Alison Armstrong
David Deida
00:43:13 9/13/2017
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00:31:15 9/9/2017
This episode is about a romantic relationship, specifically the end of a romantic relationship. Todays caller, Jobe, cant seem to get over his ex-girlfriend. My coaching went in a direction that surprised us both as it seemed Jobe needed closure in more than one relationship.

There were three main areas I coached Jobe in so he could move on.

One, Jobe had a lack of self-love. He sourced his love from his ex. Its hard to get over someone when they are our source of love because we need love. We go through withdrawal because love can be an addiction.

The second thing that makes it hard to move on is wearing rose-colored glasses when looking at the relationship in the rear view mirror. Jobes relationship was an issue-based relationship. There was a lot of chemistry but it wasnt healthy.

And, I sensed a lack of forgiveness in Jobe. We move on when we forgive. Forgiving isnt condoning a behavior, forgiving is about letting go of judgment, resentment, regret, and anger, so you can be free.

We have a hard time moving on from a relationship when there is a lingering issue that needs completion. Often our consciousness doesnt let something go when we need to go back and clean something up.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you having a hard time getting over an ex? Do you still need closure?
Are you in a relationship that is passionate, but also volatile?
Are you in a romantic relationship with someone who has a child?
Do you source love from other people?

Jobes Question:
Jobe would like to know how to get over his ex for once and for all.

Jobes Key Insights and Ahas:
He is struggling to get his ex out of his head.
He relied on his ex as a source of love.
The relationship had many ups and downs.
He had a good relationship with his exs child.
He has been selfish since the breakup.
Its time for him to figure out who he is.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
Its important for him to express his feelings to the child involved.
He should reassure the child to help her gain closure.
He needs to generate a source of love from within himself.

Takeaways:
If you are getting over an ex, you need to cut the cord and focus on yourself. Be the best partner you can to yourself.
If you are seeking closure with someone, think about where you need to forgive, let go, and where you might be out of integrity. Is there something you need to clean up to be complete?
Make new agreements of how you want to show up in a relationship. Write vows or commitments to yourself about the kind of partner you want to be and honor those agreements.

Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Course
The Art of Charm Podcast, with Jordan Harbinger
Facing Love Addiction, by Pia Mellody
00:47:17 9/6/2017
Christine is joined by one of the smartest minds in the health industry, Mark Sisson. They dive into a conversation that simplifies the lifestyle you need to achieve optimal results when it comes to fitness, disease prevention, energy and optimal performance.

Mark Sisson is the author of a #1 best-selling health book on Amazon.com, The Primal Blueprint, as well as The Primal Blueprint Cookbook and the top-rated health and fitness blog MarksDailyApple.com. He is also the founder of Primal Nutrition, LLC, a company devoted to health education and designing state-of-the-art supplements that address the challenges of living in the modern world.

To learn more about becoming a Primal Health Coach and learning from Mark and Christine (who is the Coaching Director of that program) go here: www.primalhealthcoach.com/

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00:54:54 9/2/2017
This episode is about motivating a millennial out of their comfort zone. Todays caller, Jane, is a mother of a 28-year-old daughter who is still living at home. We dive into how Janes needing to be needed can impact relationships in a not-so-positive way.


The millennial generation was the most over-parented generation. The parenting advice at the time was to be your childs friend and that everyone is a winner. It has created a failure to launch, because the children never learned to make their own decisions. As a result, they may not do well when faced with challenges or uncertainty.

A lot of 20-Somethings blame their being dependent on the economy or the job market, but its more about a comfort zone. But, what is comfortable is not always what is healthy. 20-Somethings who are still financially or emotionally dependent on their parents are experiencing adult-a-lescence.

Adulthood is about being emotionally responsible for yourself, making your own decisions and falling on your face a few times, struggling a bit and paying your dues.

If you are a 20-Something who is still living at home its time to cut the umbilical cord. You are delaying and avoiding becoming an adult. Stop being afraid to struggle, suffer or fail.

If you are a parent you need to cut the cord. You are enabling your child if you allow them to rely on you, financially or emotionally. You may be setting them up for a lifetime of not learning how to truly trust and depend on themselves.

If you are looking for support, encouragement and love, my Personal Mastery Course, Over It and On With It is the most comprehensive virtual coaching program I have. You receive 6-weeks of personalized coaching with me, guided meditations, videos, and I engage with you live on Facebook Lives and in group coaching calls. This course starts in October, and its only offered once per year.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you a parent whose adult child is still living at home, and you like it?
Are you a millennial who is still living at home?
Does being needed make you feel good?
Is there someone you think you are helping but may actually be enabling them by not giving them a chance to take care of themselves and to not learn their own lessons?

Janes Question:
Jane would like to know how to motivate her 28-year-old daughter to get out of the house.

Janes Key Insights and Ahas:
Her daughter doesnt have any friends.
She has played a role in her daughters failure to launch.
She may be perpetuating her daughters belief that she is unstable.
She wants to fix all of her childrens problems.
She doesnt want to see her children suffer.
She is enabling her daughter to be complacent.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should read 20-Something Manifesto.
She should speak with her daughter the health of their relationship and create a plan to help her to be on her own.
She should stop giving her daughter so much advice.
She should find something that makes her feel purposeful.
She needs to shift her focus from her daughter to herself.
She should realize she did the best she could.

Takeaways:
If you are a millennial living at home or have a millennial living home, create a launch plan.
Work through the exercises in 20-Something Manifesto.
Look at where you may need to be needed and let go of it. It may be reinforcing co-dependent behaviors and patterns.
Look at how you may be enabling people by over-caretaking and rescuing them. Are being loving or enabling?

Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Course
Adam Carolla Podcast with Christine

Recommended Books:
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life
20-Something, 20-Everything
20-Something Manifesto
00:40:30 8/30/2017
Christine has the As to your Qs!! In this episode she responds to four questions and covers: dealing with infidelity, overcoming superstitions, and getting over major fears in relationships.

If youd like your question answered on air, email assist@christinehassler.com
00:15:35 8/26/2017
This episode is about making self-serving decisions. Todays caller, Renae, is married, and questioning whether or not her marriage has reached its expiration date. As you can hear in the call, Renea intuitively knows what she should do but she needs to be empowered so she can take action.

Do all relationships where one person is on the growth path, and the other person isnt, have an expiration date? Not necessarily. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to know when its time to leave a relationship. When there is abuse, addiction, or toxic behavior, or the other person is unwilling to invest in the relationship, you have to be honest about why you are still in this type of relationship, and whether it is really serving your highest good.

When it is time to evaluate a relationship, or when its time to end it, be honest with yourself and listen to your intuition. You may already know the answer. When we seek counsel with others, we want to hear from someone else what we may already know. Sometimes we are looking for someone to give us permission.

If you are a parent who feels they may have messed up their kids, your fear is not helping you or them. What does help is to help them learn how to make self-honoring decisions. You should start equipping them with the personal development tools and mindset to help them break generational patterns, and to not personalize the situation. Children shouldnt feel that anything was their fault.

And, actions speak louder than words. We must give someone the dignity of the process but honor our own boundaries. Dont be a victim. Consider Al-Anon, and find other people you can connect to. Dont bond over wounds, but find other people who understand your background. It will help empower you.

If you are looking for support, encouragement and love, my Personal Mastery Course, Over It and On With It is the most comprehensive virtual coaching program I have. You receive 6-weeks of personalized coaching with me, guided meditations, videos, and I engage with you on Facebook Lives and in group coaching calls. This course is starting in October, and its only offered once per year.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you questioning your current relationship? Are you in, or did you grow up in, an abusive environment?
Do you know what to do, but wish someone would give you permission to do it? Have you been attempting to change someone else, but realize the most important person to focus on right now is yourself?

Renaes Question:
Renae wants to know if she should stay in her current long-term relationship.

Renaes Key Insights and Ahas:
She grew up in an environment of physical and verbal abuse.
Her husband is verbally abusive to her and her children.
She doesnt focus on herself.
Her 15-year-old daughter wants her to get a divorce.
Shes afraid to make the wrong decision.
She recognizes she needs to change her life and to give her kids a different environment.
Shes known what to do, but needed validation to move forward.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She needs to make a decision to break patterns and to change things.
She needs to start documenting abuse.
She needs to stop beating herself up, and practice self-love and self-care.
She needs to believe in herself, and give herself positive encouragement.

Takeaways:
If you are questioning your relationship, ask yourself, What is this relationship teaching me? What patterns do I need to complete? Could it be time to go? What do I need to do to make a shift?
If you are a parent, and feel that your children have seen things in your life or marriage that have been tough and they are struggling, get them help! You cant be their therapist, counselor, or coach. They may need an objective person they can talk to, and to give them new tools.
My Inner Circle community can be a great place to find the love and support from people who know what you are feeling.

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Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler
Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Course
00:37:07 8/23/2017
CC: Gut Health Part 2 with Dr Allison Siebecker

In this episode I talk to one of the leading experts on gut health and SIBO, Dr. Allison Siebecker. Listen in as we break down how very important gut health is and take the shame off any digestive issues!! We discuss the causes and cures of SIBO, IBS and how our gut impacts so many aspects of our life.

Allison Siebecker, ND, MSOM, LAc, has worked in the nutritional field since 1988 and is a 2005 graduate of The National University of Natural Medicine (NUNM), where she earned her Doctorate in Naturopathic Medicine and her Masters in Oriental Medicine. She was the co-founder and former medical director of the SIBO Center for Digestive Health at that Clinic and has specialized in the treatment of SIBO since 2010.

Dr. Siebecker is passionate about education- she is Instructor of Advanced Gastroenterology, shes on the IBS Board of Advisors & Faculty for the GI Health Foundation, Co-Founder & Curriculum Coordinator of the 2014-2016 SIBO Symposiums, teaches continuing education classes for physicians, and is the author of the free educational website siboinfo.com.

In 2005, 2013 and 2015 she received the Best in Naturopathy award from the Townsend Letter, for her articles: Traditional Bone Broth in Modern Health and Disease, "Small Intestine Bacterial Overgrowth: Often Overlooked Cause of IBS" and SIBO: Dysbiosis Has A New Name.

Dr. Siebecker is currently writing a book synthesizing the SIBO data into one source.
00:46:12 8/19/2017
This episode is about taking action when faced with fear and anxiety. I coach todays caller, Suzanne, through her pattern of catastrophic thinking, worry, and anxiety, to allow her to respond differently to her fear-based thoughts. If you can relate to feeling like fear and anxiety stops you, or if you are a bit of a worrywart, you will receive a lot of value out of this coaching session.

Worry is using our mind to come up with and visualize worst case scenarios, instead of using the power of our mind to visualize what we truly want to occur.
On some level, we think its protecting us or keeping us safe. But all its doing is creating more anxiety.

When we feel fear, its important that we first be with the part of us that feels scared and anxious. When we get scared as adults, we need to learn how to respond to it in a way that feels reassuring. A big part of this can be addressed by self-soothing. Most of the ways we attempt to soothe ourselves are not about soothing at all. We may be numbing or distracting ourselves. We run away from the fear by working, eating, sedating ourselves with drugs or alcohol, or using social media for hours.

But the more we ignore it, the bigger the monster becomes, so instead of running from your fear, face it head on. It doesnt mean you have to conquer it, just be with it. What does it need from you? If the fear has a message for you, whats the message? Can you trust yourself to sit with it rather than run? Tell yourself you are safe, and that everything is OK. Be a reassuring voice to yourself.

As you will hear in the call, Suzannes sense of self, and ability to feel safe regardless of external conditions, wasnt developed, so she didnt feel safe when she was outside of her home.

Like many of us, Suzanne said she understood my coaching intellectually but she still found it hard to shift in the moment. But, its the follow-through that matters.

Thats why I designed my Inner Circle membership community to focus on a certain quality every month. We focus on moving something from awareness into integration. So change actually happens. Its more than learning concepts, you learn to integrate what you are learning into your life.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you worry a lot? Do you have a tendency to imagine worst-case scenarios, or have a habit of waiting for the other shoe to drop?
Do you think that preparing for the worst protects you from being disappointed?
Did something challenging, traumatic or catastrophic happen to you as a kid, so you live with nervous anticipation that something bad will happen again?
How are you soothing yourself when you go into fear, anxiety, or panic? Are you able to calm yourself down? What are your coping mechanisms?

Suzannes Question:
Suzanne wants to know how to take action when she feels crippled by anxiety.

Suzannes Key Insights and Ahas:
She is a catastrophic thinker.
She doesnt deal with losses well.
She didnt feel emotionally safe as a child.
She had an eating disorder in college.
She surrounds herself with mentally stable people.
She tries to put her emotional health first.
She practices negative self-talk.
She seeks reassurance from outside herself.
She lets her mind run the show.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should find a new way to relate to herself to get a consistent experience.
She needs to acknowledge when she is in the midst of catastrophic thinking, and practice self-soothing techniques.
She should do the Release Writing exercise from Expectation Hangover.
She should practice Kundalini shaking to get rid her nervous energy.
She should start owning who she is, what she feels and what she loves about herself.

Takeaways:
Find a way to self-soothe, read My Best Tips for Reducing Anxiety about calming yourself down and dealing with anxiety.
Make sure your sense of self is not externally referenced. Look at where you are projecting a feeling of safety. Do you feel like you need to get it from an outside source?
Imagine your best-case scenarios instead of using your imagination to imagine things all the things you dont want, imagine all the things you do want.
The Future Forecasting exercise in Expectation Hangover is a great way to start visioning your best-case scenarios.
Allow yourself to get excited about things!

Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler
Podcast One
00:42:24 8/16/2017
This episode is about making self-serving decisions. I coach todays caller, Michelle, through a decision about her long-term relationship. As you can hear in the call, Michelle intuitively knows what she should do, but she needs to be empowered so she can take action.

People feel most confident to make a decision or choice when they feel empowered. We feel most empowered when we arrive at our own answers. During the session, I reflected back to Michelle, and I asked her a lot of questions so she could get to her own answers.

Michelle was invested in saving her husband, but was it more about him or her? Her intentions were pure, but she was outsourcing her self-worth by trying to save him. There was a limiting belief that if she saves or heals him it gives her value.

Its important to unhook yourself from the role of caretaker or savior. Go back and listen to my after-the-call breakdown of Episode #97 with Trinette for my explanation of what codependency is.

All of us struggle, at one point, with a breakup, a challenging relationship, or lack of a relationship. Our struggles are often a catalyst to dive into personal growth work. We all want love and we all desire healthy, fulfilling relationships.

This is why I designed a special course, Get Over Your Breakup & On with Love. It includes all of my best stuff when it comes to love and relationships. It is for anyone who is looking to get over a hurt and step into self-love and a loving relationship. Over and On With It Podcast listeners get $100 off the course until Sept. 1st. Simply use the promo code: PODCAST.

Also, thanks to those of you who signed up for my Summer of Love Challenge. There are more Challenges coming, so sign up to get a daily email about spreading and sharing love, from me. Plus, when you sign up you become eligible to get 6-months free in my Inner Circle Membership Community.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you still hanging on to an ex, either emotionally or physically, even though you know its unhealthy to still be engaged?
Do you love taking care of others? Is part of your identity to help others or save others?
When it comes to self-love, are you good at taking outward actions, but maybe not so good at the internal compassion?
Are you more concerned about someone elses feelings than your own?

Michelles Question:
Michelle wants to know if she should move on after her partner broke up with her.

Michelles Key Insights and Ahas:
Her partner was abused as a child.
She was shocked when her partner broke up with her.
She felt unable to communicate her needs in the relationship.
She feels abandoned after giving so much.
She put herself on the backburner and put his needs first.
She would love to focus on her own needs.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should give herself love and compassion.
She should make self-honoring choices.
She should learn to be ok with being alone.
She should practice positive self-talk.

Assignments:
Check out my Get Over a Breakup and On with Love course.
Make a list of your healthy agreements in relationships.
Make a list of all the things you are good at doing for other people, and then do them for yourself.

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Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler
The Spouse House
00:38:10 8/2/2017
This episode is about being your authentic self and speaking your truth. I coach todays caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation, and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband, and herself, about her needs.

Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically, or we dont have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection to ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.

Speaking your truth is when you say whats true for you, and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth?

Many of us think people pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you, and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve.

Its great to make other people happy but its more important to please ourselves first, by making self-honoring choices. People pleasing could be the reason you are feeling isolated. On some level, people pleasing is draining.

Drop the people pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices and get out there and find your tribe!

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you feel isolated? Are you craving more connection?
Are you in a marriage or relationship where you feel isolated? Do you feel like you are dependent on your partner or you are living according to their dreams and desires more than your own?
Are you a people pleaser? Do you have a hard time making your needs a priority?
Do you find it challenging to speak your truth?

Judys Question:
Judy wants to know how to find herself and how to raise her self-esteem.

Judys Key Insights and Ahas:
She has been continuously moving for a year.
Her husband tries to support her but he doesnt really get it.
Her husband has a stronger personality than she does.
Shes dependent on her husband and doesnt go places on her own.
She always puts other people first.
She has a hard time saying no.
She takes care of people, hoping it will help to build intimacy.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should be honest and vulnerable with her husband about her feelings.
She should speak up when she feels she wants to say something.
She should lean more into authenticity and less into people pleasing.
She should spend some time on her own engaging with other people.

Takeaways:
If you are in a relationship with the opposite sex, and would like to improve your masculine/feminine communication dynamics, consider studying the subject more.
If you are feeling isolated, start with a goal of talking to five new people every day, and then build on that number. Start getting yourself out there and finding your tribe.
Speak your truth authentically. If you have trouble doing it, join the Inner Circle community. Authenticity is this months area of focus.
Communicate your needs to the most important people in your life.

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Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler
The Queens Code, by Alison A. Armstrong
Understand Men PAX Program by Alison Armstrong
David Deida
00:40:43 8/2/2017
I recently found out I have SIBO. What the heck is that you ask? It stands for small intestinal bacterial overgrowth. I am actually relieved with this diagnosis because it has really brought my awareness about GUT HEALTH to the surface.

In this episode I share about my journey, the symptoms that led me to get tested (and ironically I was not really having stomach/digestion based issues), and the healing opportunity this has presented.

I also talk with Gut Health Expert Dr. Sayed A. Shah, MD. His personal journey with Integrative Medicine started when his son was diagnosed with Autism. By using Integrative Medicine practices, they have been able to overcome many of the challenges his son has faced. Integrative Medicine is personalized medicine that deals with the root cause of disease instead of just treating symptoms. Dr. Shah will search for underlying triggers that are contributing to your health problem through cutting edge lab testing and create a customized protocol to your specific needs as a unique individual. He seeks to promote wellness and healing by working together with you!

Learn more about Dr Shah and his center here: https://mimqc.com/
00:45:38 8/2/2017
Avoid Pointless Fights, Have Better Sex, And Dominate Your Life Together - doesnt that sound like an awesome kind of relationship? It is possible and my guest on Coaches Corner, Jayson Gaddis, teaches us how.

Listen in as we discuss how to handle conflict in your relationship in a way that leads to more love. I also get Jaysons advice to women for how to get your man to be more communicative and emotionally available.

Learn more about Jason here: http://www.jaysongaddis.com/
00:22:43 7/29/2017
This episode is about moving past your fears and getting over it and on with it. I coach todays caller, Lindsey, on how to move from awareness to implementation. She knows the next steps to take but cannot figure out why she isnt taking them. She thinks her problem is about time management, productivity, and balance but, as you will hear in the call, its not about that at all.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode98]

What do you think about failure? Imagine you fail, or you get a no, or your endeavor is a complete flop. What happens inside of you? What do you think and feel? Are you embarrassed?

A healthy relationship to failure is an essential ingredient to success. Failure is defined as lack of success. But defining success is more difficult because if success is learning something, growing, or having experiences that make us stronger and wiser, then we never really fail. In my opinion, the only way you fail is if you go into the hopeless, helpless victim mode.

Stop playing it safe just because you want to avoid failure. Get out of your comfort zone, and jump in the pool instead of taking teeny, tiny baby steps so you can move forward.

You have to drop the guilt and give yourself permission to do what you want.

Sign up for the Summer of Love Challenge. Get a daily email about spreading and sharing love, from me. Plus, when you sign up you become eligible to get 6-months free in my Inner Circle Membership Community.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
How are you at moving from awareness to implementation?
How do you feel about failure? What has been your biggest failure to date?
What steps do you know you should take, but dont seem to be taking?

Lindseys Question:
Lindsey would like to know how to take action and use her time more wisely.

Lindseys Key Insights and Ahas:
She lives in an Expectation Hangover.
Shes never made a step without having a plan in place.
Shes feeling paralysis from analysis.
The fear of change is holding her back.
There is a piece of her that remains unfulfilled.
She knows the status quo will lead to regret and remorse.
She has a fear that no one will want to work with her.
She feels guilty about her lack of focus.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should give herself permission to do what she wants to do.
She needs to take steps that dont threaten her sense of security but are still out of her comfort zone.
She needs to write out the expectations she makes of herself and then create agreements with herself.

Takeaways:
Take a risk and let yourself fail.
Write down your expectations and then make agreements with yourself, and stick to them.
Give yourself permission to go for your dreams, even if it means failing.

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Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler
Primal Blueprint
00:38:10 7/26/2017
Are you ready to untame your soul?? That sounds really good doesnt it? Or maybe it doesnt - maybe it sounds terrifying. Either way, I have one of my best friends and soul sisters here for you on Coaches Corner to talk about it.

Meet Elizabeth Dialto. She is the founder of Wild Soul Movement. Her mission is to build community, curate conversations, and create content, events, and experiences that turn your relationship with yourself into one of the most wild, passionate love affairs of your lifetime.

The Wild Soul Movement program provides a grounded and loving practice in self-discovery designed to get all parts of you in right relationship with each other. Elizabeths aim is to meet you where you are and guide you to where you want to be while always keeping primary focus on cultivating your trust and faith in the idea that everything youve ever needed has always been inside of YOU.
We talk about what the wild soul moment is about and Elizabeth shares how she learned to love herself and her body by stripping away at everything that was preventing her from seeing what already was, and she is committed to help you do the same
I am personally taking this course and am a part of the WSM, you can join me at wildsoulmovement.com/christine
And to join the Summer of Love Challenge go to christinehassler.com/love-challenge
00:28:32 7/22/2017
This episode is about going back to a relationship even when you know its not what you want. Todays caller, Trinette, is in a volatile relationship, but we uncover that its not about him but what he triggers in her.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode97]

Do these issues always go back to our parents? Not always. However, our formative years were when our mind programmed the belief systems that govern our current choices. Its when most of our core wounds occurred because we didnt have the tools or support to process them in a healthy way.

I dont like to put labels on things, but I used the term codependent with Trinette to help her understand and relate. Codependency, when boiled down, is really a lack of a healthy sense of self. Codependent people get their self-worth from the approval of others or by taking on others as projects. They can also be people pleasers.

It is possible to heal codependency. Recognizing you are codependent means you are ready and willing to commit to having a healthy sense of self. The first step is to get out of the codependent relationship.

A healthy sense of self means we recognize that we are whole, lovable, and complete, and dont need anyone. Relationships can be an expression of love and connection, rather than an attempt to fill the void.

To my Aussie Friends My annual trip to Australia is slated for the first 2 weeks of October 2017. I will make time for private intensives and possibly a personal growth retreat or mastermind for wellness entrepreneurs. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com and let me know what you would like me to create while I am there.

Also, I am launching a relationship course called Get Over Your BreakUp and On With Love. Its about healing your old issues and creating the love you want. The 1st 10 people who email Jill@ChristineHassler.com and tell her you want to be in the course will receive a 10% discount.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you in an on again-off again relationship? Do you keep going back for more, even though its really not what you want?
Can you relate to not feeling unconditional love when you were growing up?
Do you experience anxiety or sadness when you are not in a relationship? Do you settle for unhealthy relationships?
When it comes to self-love and self-trust, can you admit you have room to grow?

Trinettes Question:
Trinette would like to know why there is so much back-and-forth in her relationship.

Trinettes Key Insights and Ahas:
Shes judgmental towards her boyfriend.
Sometimes her boyfriend gets physical.
She felt like her parents were immature.
She has a trust issue with love.
The relationship feels addictive to her.
She had to do many things on her own growing up.
She feels like she has been in survival mode her entire life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should acknowledge herself for recognizing the issue.
She needs to stop going back for more.
She needs to give love to herself.
She should research co-dependency.
She needs to make a choice about her relationship.
She needs to let go of the fear that she is like her mother.

Takeaways:
If you keep going in and out of a relationship you recognize as codependent, commit to choosing to get out of it.
Try these resources on codependency Melody Beatties Codependent No More, Pia Mellodys Facing Codependence and Expectation Hangover.
Joining my Inner Circle membership community will give you both the tools and the support you need.
Forgive the parents who set up your codependent patterns. Write down everything they taught you. Even the things they taught you through contrast.

Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler
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00:38:53 7/19/2017
In this Coaches Corner Christine answers three listeners questions. The first one has to do with unhealthy dating patterns. The second question from Joe is about healing old childhood wounds. And the final question is about how to handle a friendship that may have reached its expiration date.

Listen in as Christine dishes some advice you can immediately apply to your own life!

To get your questions answered on air and/or be added to the waitlist to be coached, email assist@christinehassler.com
00:15:55 7/15/2017
This episode is about shifting your external world while making internal changes. Todays caller, Jenn, has been through transformational changes, and believes she is confused about her work as a relationship coach. Anyone who is on the growth path will relate to this call in some way.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode96]

As we uncover and heal our issues, either in relationships or in the physical, we shift our vibration. Our energetic selves change, which creates a shift in what were attracted to and what we attract. Dis-ease and/or toxic relationships are heavy in energetic weight. As we heal, clear, and forgive, it shifts our vibration and it creates changes in our outside world. Some changes happen naturally and some just give us an unsettling feeling about something not being right.

As we shift consciousness our identity shifts, and as it does it can feel confusing, because our external life is not congruent with our internal life.

Just because you dont have clarity about something, or something doesnt feel as fulfilling as it used to, doesnt mean you are confused. You are in a time of change and transformation. For something to transform, it must go through a period of chaos and uncertainty. Dont rush to figure it out allow it to be revealed.

To my Aussie Friends My annual trip to Australia is slated for the first 2 weeks of October, 2017. I will make time for private intensives and possibly a personal growth retreat or mastermind for wellness entrepreneurs. If you are interested email Jill@ChristineHassler.com ASAP!

And as we are coming up on the 100th episode of this podcast, Over It and On With It has caught the attention of the PodcastOne network. It means exposure to a much larger audience, and access to advertisers who help pay production costs. Yay! Im hoping this allows me to add more coaching episodes.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Is there some aspect of your life that doesnt feel right, or just feels off?
Have you healed a relationship or physical issue that has catalyzed wanting to make changes in other aspects of your life?
Can you relate to being a chameleon to stay safe? Are you a people pleaser?
Are you scared of being vulnerable or being seen?

Jenns Question:
Jenn feels she has lost her inspiration and passion towards her business. She wants to gain clarity around her coaching business.

Jenns Key Insights and Ahas:
She had a falling out with her mother.
She was physically ill.
She internalizes her mothers issues.
She was a people pleaser and chameleon around her mother.
She has always been there for others.
Her relationship coaching feels shallow to her now.
Shes committed to getting out of her head.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should bring more of her own voice into her business.
She shouldnt underestimate the value she brings to her clients.
For guidance, she should look at the way the people she appreciates share their stories.
She should share her emotional depths.

Action Steps:
Get Expectation Hangover if you dont have it already, and in the spiritual section do the lesson quest exercise under the role of the seeker.
Take an inventory of your external life. Does it match your internal life?
How can you be more vulnerable and honest? Think of the ways you are a people pleaser or play small. How can you step into a deeper level of authenticity?
Where are you telling yourself you are confused when you are not? Can you allow yourself to be in uncertainty?

Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler
00:35:30 7/12/2017
A surprise gig that happened for me this year is co-hosting and being a relationship expert on a TV show!! This week my co-host from the show, Dr Isaiah, joins me and we talk about our experience as experts on this show - it was quite a ride.

Tune in to see us in action on The Spouse House which airs Sunday nights beginning July 9th on TLC.

A little more about the Doc:
Dr. Isaiah Pickens is a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in consulting, counseling, and educational services for families, teens, and young adults. Dr. Pickens is currently Assistant Director of the Service Systems Program at the UCLA-Duke National Center for Child Traumatic Stress (NCCTS). In this role he is responsible for supporting efforts to make child- and family- service systems more trauma informed. He works on initiatives that will promote the identification, referral and appropriate support for culturally diverse children, adolescent, and families who have experienced trauma. He presents all over the world and speaks on the subject of mental health. He is also the founder of iOpening Enterprises, a multi-media company that specializes in health messaging through the creation of books, films, and life skills workshops for youth and the adults who care for them. He is also a regular contributor to Psychology Today, Huffington
Learn more here: www.iopeningenterprises.com
00:33:09 7/8/2017
This episode is about follow-through and commitment. Todays caller, Jill, has a pattern of giving up on everything she begins. She recently quit her job, but she fears she wont follow through with her new endeavor, based on her past patterns.



Do you identify with starting things but not sticking to them? When your enthusiasm wears off, do you quit and then judge yourself? Its a vicious cycle. Its important for you to get out of it.

If you have someone to blame, you are not going to change. Instead of hanging on to your scapegoats and excuses, shift your patterns by hanging on to your goals. Connect to your why and commit to your action steps, and stop quitting when things get hard.

If you feel you were over-parented, you cant blame your parents anymore. You need to set boundaries with them and parent yourself through your challenges. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable. Adversity is one of the ways we grow.

Coaches:

Before giving clients insight or advice it is important to get into their model of the world. Ask them why they think they have the behavior.

When a client is in their pattern when speaking to us, sometimes we miss it. As a coach, we should be more committed to their breakthrough than to solving their complaint.

Todays caller Jill is part of my Inner Circle Membership Community. She has access to daily practices and meditations to help her grow in all aspects of her life. She can reach out to a like-minded community when she needs support, and so can you if you join. Learn more about Inner Circle by emailing Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

And, the TV show I have been working on, The Spouse House, premiers on Sunday, July 7th on TLC. I am the co-host and relationship coach to seven men and seven women who are ready to find their spouse, get engaged and get married, before they leave the house. My co-host Dr. Isaiah Pickens joins me on this weeks Coaches Corner to discuss our experience.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Can you relate to a pattern of starting and stopping? How did your parents react when you experienced adversity? How is it affecting your level of commitment and being able to move through things?
Are you putting too much on your plate?
Do you have a story about giving up? Are you blaming a person or past situation for why you cant stick with things or be accountable for things in your life?

Jills Question:
Jill would like to know how to follow through with the projects she starts.

Jills Key Insights and Ahas:
She resents her mother for saying it was OK to quit.
She doesnt remember her parents giving her affection when she was a child.
She is giving away her power by resenting her mother.
She got love and attention when she gave up on things.
Shes not fluent in the experience of moving past resistance.
Shes not connected to her power.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She should forgive her mother, and take responsibility for her own life.
She needs to connect with her inner coach and her own voice of encouragement.
She needs to learn to love herself through any resistance she encounters.

Action Steps:
Stop blaming others. Take full responsibility for your life.
Become fluent in the voice of encouragement. Stop looking for reasons to quit or permission to stop.
Breakdown overwhelm into small manageable steps.
Look at your incomplete cycles of action. Set a date to complete something or let it go. Commit to something you want to do for consecutive 40 days.
Join my Inner Circle community to get a healthy support system.

Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
00:43:30 7/5/2017
In this quickie episode Christine discusses her top core value: Freedom. She explores what freedom truly means and how we can experience it no matter what are circumstances are. Are you free? Or are you sentencing yourself with judgment and restraining yourself from expressing the awesome-ness that you are? Are you are trapped in not-enough-ness because you are comparing yourself to others? Or perhaps you are imprisoning yourself by choosing to experience anxiety and suffering. Or maybe you are a prisoner of your own story and locked away from your own truth because you are constrained by the opinions of others. Listen in and step into your freedom.
00:05:52 7/1/2017
This episode is about moving into acceptance and forgiveness. Todays caller, Jen, is having a hard time getting to forgiveness because she doesn't believe her parents did the best they could. Her grudge may be costing her the very thing she longs for the most.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode94]

One of the ways we get to forgiveness is knowing people did the best they could, even if we believe they could have done better. Knowing they did the best they could with the tools they had is one of the ways we can get to forgiveness. It can be difficult, especially when it was a parent or a loved one.

Holding on to anger, blame, and resentment is toxic. It will eat you up inside and keep you from what you want. Continuing to use the past as a scapegoat for why you dont have want you want gives your past power. Until you move into acceptance and forgiveness, your past will infiltrate every aspect of your present and your future.

Look at the places where you are not letting love into your life. Are you focusing too much on the people that didnt love you in the way you wanted, and missing out on all the love around you?

Would you like to connect more with me and receive a resource to help you transform into owning your purpose? Use this link, ChristineHassler.com/SpiritJunkie to enroll in Gabby Bernsteins Spirit Junkie Masterclass by June 29th and receive access to the class, a one-hour one-on-one coaching session with me, a one-month membership to my Inner Circle Community, a download of my guided meditation CD and more.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Is there someone you have not been able to forgive because you truly feel what they did is unforgivable?
Is there someone you are blaming for your not having what you want in your life?
Do you tend to imagine worst-case scenarios and feel that things just dont go your way in life?
Did you grow up around addicts or as the child of addicts?

Jens Question:
Jen would like to forgive her mother and accept that her parents did the best they could.

Jens Key Insights and Ahas:
She didnt get the love and attention she wanted as a child.
She wants closure with her mother who recently passed.
She feels broken.
Shes created the healthy family she always wanted.
She is keeping herself from fully appreciating and accepting the love of her current family.
She is using her past as a scapegoat.
As a child, she had low expectations so she wouldnt be disappointed.
It wasnt her job to save her parents.

How to Get Over It and On With It:
She shouldnt identify with the victim role, and understand she received what she needed.
She should stop mimicking her mothers behaviors.
She should do projection work and let the love that exists in her current life in.
She should have appreciation and have life-affirming and positive thoughts.

Takeaways:
If there is someone you want to hear something from, some kind of forgiveness, write a letter to you from them. Write down all the things you wanted to hear from them and read it to yourself.
Do projection work. Look at judgments you have towards others and see how you may be doing it in your own life, externally or internally.
Be honest about the cost of holding onto a grudge and write down what it is keeping you from. Write down all the blessings you have in life and how you may be blinded to them because of the grudge.
Have positive expectations and use your imagination to consider the best-case scenario.

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Resources:
Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Coaches Corner with Gabby Bernstein Turn Your Pain Into Purpose
Inner Circle Membership Community
@ChristinHassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
00:31:54 6/28/2017
Anxiety has been up for a LOT of people lately. So if you're feeling it, you're not alone. Listen in for my top tips on handling your anxiety.
00:10:40 6/24/2017
This episode is about disordered eating and yo-yo dieting. Today's caller, Alyssa, was diagnosed with an eating disorder when she was younger. She has been to therapy to help her understand abuse she endured as a child, but has not yet overcome the effect it had on her. For Alyssa to experience true healing and transformation she needs to make shifts on emotional, mental, behavioral and spiritual levels. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode93] Many people have the experience of making progress only to see old patterns re-emerge. It can be discouraging and frustrating it can be to feel like you are backtracking, but you can get off the rollercoaster and experience growth without major setbacks. During my coaching session with Alyssa, I held a space of compassion for Alyssa without reinforcing her victim story. There were people who would pity her and people she could blame, but pity and blame are not going to stop her from binge eating. In fact, it would trigger the behavior. We can take our power back by making choices that create change. So, I created steps to help her feel empowered. A lot of people who were abused hold on to weight as a protective measure. because it's our body's response to the message from the mind of 'I want to hide. I want to be invisible.' If this resonates with you, listen to the podcast I did with Drew Manning, "Transforming Your Inner Critic into an Inner Coach". Joining my Inner Circle Membership Community is a great place to get support from a loving, high vibe, compassionate community. If you are someone who has dealt with body image issues or eating disorders, and have made it to the other side and would like to know how to turn your pain into your purpose, don't miss Gabby Bernstein's Free Training Videos. Plus, I will be announcing a very special bonus for those of you who enroll in Gabby's Master Class on June 23rd. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you struggle with gaining and losing weight? Perhaps so much so that you may have an eating disorder. ? Have you processed your issues and made progress in therapy regarding your past, but the old habits keep coming back? ? Do you sabotage your health and well-being? Is it hard for you to be disciplined and stick to a plan? ? Do you feel safe to be seen? Alyssa's Question: Alyssa would like to know how to move past her eating disorder for good. Alyssa's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has always felt not good enough. ? She's forgiven people from her past. ? She didn't feel safe as a child. ? She feels she should be beyond her issue. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She shouldn't identify with herself as a victim. ? She needs a behavioral shift to make her feel safe in her body. ? She needs to send love to a picture of her younger self. ? She needs to reframe the belief that she can trust people. ? She should ask God to help to make her feel safe and protected. Action Steps: ? If you have a re-emerging pattern like binge eating, what's the payoff? It's serving a purpose. Do some journaling as to what purpose it serves. ? If weight is something you struggle with move, into acceptance. Ask the weight what it needs. When you get the answer, create your own holistic treatment plan. Pick one thing on the behavioral, emotional, mental, and spiritual level you can commit to. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts My Favorite Summer Life Hacks! Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community ? This month's focus is sexuality and sexiness. @ChristinHassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@ChristineHassler.com
00:30:27 6/21/2017
Gabby has been a close friend for over a decade. We "grew up" together in the personal growth field and I have seen first hand her professional success skyrocket. I also know the incredible amount of inner work she has done that has influenced all aspects of her life and made the inspiring leader she is today. Gabrielle Bernstein is the #1 New York Times best-selling author of The Universe Has Your Back and has written four additional best sellers. She was featured on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday as a "next-generation thought leader," and The New York Times named her "a new role model." She appears regularly as an expert on The Dr. Oz Show and co-hosted the Guinness World Record largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra. In our chat on Coaches Corner we talk about her training "Spirit Junkie Master Class" which teaches both the inner and outer work that is necessary to get your message out into the world. You can access the FREE training videos she is offering here: http://bit.ly/2sfG00b I am a proud partner for her upcoming course, stay tuned to hear about my VERY special bonuses
00:33:34 6/17/2017
This episode is about removing inner blocks and eliminating blind spots. Today's caller, Jon, is struggling with how his business is structured and the people he is hiring. He thought he was calling for some practical how-tos but the call went in a slightly different direction. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode92] To shift our outer experience we must look inward first. So often we attempt to figure it out. We try to find solutions to our problems with our mind, and look for the actions to take to fix something. But in doing so we miss the incredible chance to look within and extract the learning opportunity from the situation. My coaching to Jon was about getting him out of his head and more into his heart. There was no issue with his accountability or drive; the block was more about how he was perceiving himself and his situation. Whenever you are presented with a challenge, or when things in your life feel off or aren't going the way you want, ask "What is the message?" and "What am I learning?" Answers become clear when we stop mentalizing everything so much. When we are attempting to figure things out on our own, it's more challenging to get a new insight. The spiritual definition of a miracle is a change in perception. My Inner Circle Membership Community is an easy way for you to find like-minded people and get more access to me and my coaching. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to ask about membership. And, don't miss my Coaches Corner episodes. There is new content every Saturday. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a situation you can't seem to figure out? ? Are you an entrepreneur, business leader, or manager who would like to be better at making money and managing people? ? Do you think sales is a dirty word? If selling is part of your job, do you resist it? ? Do you have a clear vision of your why? Do you know why you do what you do, and do you feel passionate about it? Jon's Question: Jon is finding it difficult to find the right people for his business and would like to find a remedy. Jon's Key Insights and Ahas: ? He finds sales frustrating. ? Rejection is a pain point for him. ? He understands the fear of survival. ? He hasn't connected his freelancers to his why. ? He keeps himself protected from rejection. ? He will make his people feel like they are part of a team. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should focus more on his clients and enroll them into his why. ? He should find out why his freelancers want to work with him. ? He should consider how he has bridged gaps in the past. ? He should become less transactional and lean into connection. ? He should consider himself more of a leader and less of an executor. Action Steps: ? If you're stuck or challenged in any area of your life, how can you look at it from a different perspective? Stop trying to figure it out and be curious. Explore different ways of approaching it. ? What's your avoidance trap? Is it rejection? What do you spend so much time avoiding, that you are not focusing enough time on bringing in the things you want? ? If you are in sales, is there something you need to shift, in terms of your perception of it? Do you need to become more enrolling instead of just selling? Sponsor: Audible ? Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community ? This month's focus is sexuality and sexiness. Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com
00:38:11 6/14/2017
This is A MUST LISTEN for anyone on the personal growth path!! Listen in to a juicy conversation with Danielle about her latest book, White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path from one seeker to another. Danielle LaPorte is an invited member of Oprah's inaugural Super Soul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey's words, "is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters." She is author of The Fire Starters Sessions, and The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul?the book that has been translated into 8 languages, evolved into a yearly day planner and journal system, a top 10 iTunes app, and an international workshop program with licensed facilitators in 15 countries. Danielle's website: http://www.daniellelaporte.com/ Get your copy of "White Hot Truth": http://www.daniellelaporte.com/whitehottruth/
00:48:42 6/10/2017
This episode is about being able to accept love. Today's caller, Samantha is in a new loving relationship but has anxiety about it which is causing her to push her partner away. Ultimately, she fears she will sabotage the relationship. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode91] When we lack self-love and acceptance we doubt our own lovability. When what we really want is coming to us we get scared and push it away, because we doubt our own lovability. When we doubt our own lovability it makes us do some sabotaging things when it comes to relationships. I gave Samantha some practical behavioral shifts, because awareness alone does not create change. If we think our past is part of who we are, we will never be truly free of it. We need to get the point where we realize the past is the past. It happened but it doesn't have to be who we are. Many times when we have a difficult experience in our past, we hold on to it because having it gets us pity, love, compassion, and attention from others. On an unconscious level, we hang on to it because we think it is how we can get compassion and be connected to people. When we hold on to our story too much, it gets us in a trap of consistently attempting to heal the past, rather than make the behavioral choices that create what we want in the present and for the future. Eventually, you have to drop the story. You'll notice I used a tough-love approach when coaching Samantha. To understand why I did it and the profound shifts that can occur because of it, check out my Coaches Corner ? Tough Love and People who Have Helped Me in Profound Ways. In last week's Coaches Corner, I interviewed my friend Amanda Steinberg, author of Worth It. The episode is about embracing your relationship with money. And, don't miss this week's Coaches Corner with thought leader Danielle Laporte. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you want love, especially in the form of a romantic relationship, but it scares you? ? Are you in a romantic relationship now, and engaging in sabotaging behavior? ? Have you talked about your past and your story, but things aren't shifting for you? Is the anxiety you feel about being in a relationship still there? ? Are you willing to get out of your comfort zone to break some patterns? Even if it's scary? Samantha's Question: Samantha would like to know how to be free of the fear and anxiety she is feeling in her new relationship. Samantha's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She's afraid of being hurt. ? She puts up a wall and shuts down when speaking with her new partner. ? She is trying to protect herself. ? She still identifies with her story. ? She is giving the people from her past too much power in her current life. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to go back and deal with her past. ? To move to the next phase she needs to change her behavior. ? She should do release writing when instead of zoning out. ? She needs to understand she is not alone. ? She needs to do the opposite of her current conditioned response. Action Steps: ? Take a look at your old story about love; write it out. What are you still carrying around from your past, you keep playing out? Make a list of the things you think are protecting you. ? It's time to break patterns and shift your behaviors. You have to lean in and get a little uncomfortable, if you want change to happen. Sponsor: ONNIT: Get a 10% discount on your order by using this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover Coaches Corner ? Tough Love Inner Circle Membership Community ? This month's focus is sexuality and sexiness. Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com
00:40:30 6/7/2017
Christine talks to Amanda about how to shift your relationship with money so that you can get out of debt and/or over spending and build a secure financial foundation. This is a must listen for anyone who wants to be more prosperous. More about Amanda . . . Amanda Steinberg launched DailyWorth in 2009 to bring a fresh voice and an outsider's perspective to personal finance. Today, DailyWorth's newsletter reaches more than 1 million subscribers. In 2015, she started digital investing service, WorthFM, which received front-page coverage in The New York Times Business section Oprah selected her to the exclusive SuperSoul 100, and Forbes named her one of 21 New American Money Masters. Amanda has also appeared on GMA, Today, CNN, and MSNBC. She's also the author of Worth It: Your Life, Your Money, Your Terms released in February 2017. https://www.dailyworth.com/
00:33:17 6/3/2017
This episode is about helping people instead of being a savior. Candace is a health practitioner suffering from work-related anxiety. She is wondering how to decrease the amount of anxiety that comes from feeling responsible for helping people, and she questions whether or not she is good enough to truly help them. We cover why we should not take on the responsibility of helping others, why it's important to be of service, and not a savior, and what is truly at the root of a desire to help or save others. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode90] I asked Candace why she worked in a health and service position. She said it makes her feel she has a purpose. Having a purpose is wonderful, but when your purpose is tied to core issues from your past ? you are attempting to heal through your work ? you will perpetuate an unhealthy attachment to your work, and you may suffer from anxiety or not-enoughness. Her unresolved hurts around her emotionally unavailable parents are creating a huge attachment to her work, and anytime we have huge attachment, we feel a huge burden of responsibility, which creates self-doubt, because we are taking on way too much responsibility. We become saviors instead of truly being of service. It's not our responsibility to make sure people change, and it is not our responsibility to make sure they don't suffer. I know it hurts to watch other people suffering, but we can not take away other people's pain. By holding a space for the suffering, instead of taking it on, we can truly help by way of compassion. The more comfortable we get with our own suffering, the more we can hold a space of love and compassion for others. If we take on the belief that it is our responsibility to fix someone, then we assume they are broken, and not equipped to heal themselves. One of the biggest gifts we can give to others is to see them as whole, and having all the inner resources they need. People save themselves. Sign up for my weekly blog and vlog. Last week I posted, How to Make and Nurture Friendships. Friendship is a key ingredient to your well-being so, don't neglect it Also, subscribe to Christine Hassler on Youtube. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you enjoy helping people? Do you find yourself overinvested in making sure they change or heal? ? Does your sense of worthiness or value come from being needed by others or helping others? ? If you are in a helping profession, do you ever feel like a fraud, or like you don't have what it takes to truly help? ? Do you suffer from anxiety at work, or do you ever feel depleted or drained after being with someone who is struggling or suffering? Candace's Question: Candace wants to free herself from the anxiety she feels from her alternative health work. Candace's Key Insights and Ahas: ? Helping people gives her purpose. ? She had to beg for attention as a child. ? She is trying to give others the attention she didn't get as a child. ? She feels emotionally drained at the end of the day. ? She is continuing to do to herself what her parents did to her. ? She has anger towards her father. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should recognize it is not her responsibility for her patients to get better or for her to fix them. ? She should stop projecting her fears onto the people, and give them the dignity of their process. ? She should make a list of her new beliefs about her clients. ? She should make a list of self-care practices she will start, stop, and modify. ? Use Expectation Hangover to work through forgiving her parents. Action Steps: ? Give your younger self the attention and love he or she needs. ? Move into forgiveness of anyone from your past who is reinforcing a negative pattern of taking on responsibility. ? Get crystal clear on what your responsibility is, and what is not your responsibility. ? Up your self-care game. Pick one thing you want to stop doing, one thing you want to start doing, and one thing you want to modify or change. Do it for 40 days. ? Share this episode if you feel someone else could benefit from hearing this information. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover "How to Not Take on Someone Else's Pain" Blogpost Coaches Corner ? How to Set Healthy Boundaries Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com
00:30:35 5/31/2017
I get a little more personal on this episode of Coaches Corner and talk about some of the amazing coaches and people that have helped me in profound ways. And often the profound ways have involved a dose of "tough love" which is not always easy to take in. I share with you how to receive tough-to-hear feedback in a neutral way so that you can shift old patterns and beliefs.
00:11:03 5/27/2017
This episode is about reassurance. Laura is a people pleaser. She goes above and beyond for people and doesn't get it back in return. She then feels disappointed. I work with her on understanding why she people pleases, why it's selfish to be a people pleaser, and how to shift out of the pattern. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode89] You may have heard me say this many times before, but people pleasing is selfish. It's really all about you. You are the one who doesn't want to upset people, you want to avoid confrontation, and you are the one who is worried about how people perceive you. Laura knows how to be loving and giving; she just needs to direct it towards herself. Use this call as a catalyst to look at your own patterns without judgment, and without beating yourself up. The key to personal development is to work on yourself, without thinking anything is wrong with you. No one outside of you can give you the acceptance and love you need. And, to shift out of a pattern, we have to let go of things from our past. We have to come to peace with the fact that some people in our lives are never going to change. Many people don't have the tools to change, or they don't want to change. The older they get, the more their patterns are reinforced. If you feel like the black sheep of the family, or you don't fit it, it's ok. You may be the change maker and the lightworker. You may be the one who is willing to break generational patterns. You can love and accept your biological family but find your soul family. As Gandhi said, be the change you wish to see in the world. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you relate to being a people pleaser? ? Can you acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments, but struggle acknowledging yourself for just who you are? ? Do you feel like the black sheep of your family, and sometimes you are afraid to be who you are because you might lose your family's approval? Laura's Question: Laura feels she goes above and beyond for people, and they don't return the effort. She wants to know how to break the pattern of being a people pleaser. Laura's Key Insights and Ahas: ? People don't put as much effort into her as she does for them. ? She continues to look for the love and acceptance she wanted from her mother and father in other people. ? She is looking for attention and validation. ? She feels genuine in her job as a social worker. ? Her father never told her he loved her, and she resents him for it. ? She blames herself for what happened to her as a child. ? She is ready to break past patterns. ? She is the lightworker in her family. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should accept her parents didn't give her the love and acceptance she wanted, and give herself the love, acceptance, and validation she didn't get when she was little. ? Everything she wants people to say to her, she should say to herself. ? She should accept her position as the lightworker in her family. Takeaways: ? When you are doing things for others, check in with yourself to see if you are giving without any expectations or attachment to getting something in return. Ask yourself is this giving really coming from love. ? Reverse the golden rule ? Do unto yourself as you do unto others. ? Forgive the past. Let it go. and stop expecting people to change. ? Have gratitude and acceptance if you are the black sheep of the family, and find your soul family. Sponsor: ONNIT: Get a 10% discount on your order by using this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com
00:33:27 5/24/2017
I have been hearing a lot of people complaining about being single lately and approaching their relationship status as some kind of disorder that needs to be treated. I observe so many single people, especially the ladies out there, consistently working on themselves to find their "soulmate." In today's Coaches Corner I encourage you to be grateful for whatever your relationship status is - single, dating, divorced, engaged, married or it's complicated - and embrace it because there is tremendous growth, love and even FUN that comes with each one. I also share some of the perks I have found from being single.
00:05:49 5/20/2017
This episode is about getting over feeling lost, and getting yourself unstuck. During the coaching session with Lena, we uncover some past trauma and guilt which is causing her to feel as if she is living in a black hole. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode88] If you can identify with Lena and are feeling stuck yourself, know that you are headed in the right direction towards getting yourself unstuck. Some people just go through life just going through the motions, and not being inspired. If you are aware of it, you are more likely to discover the trigger, and move past it. If you are a coach, take note of the question I asked Lena when she said she had been doing some personal growth work. Find out what your client's awareness level is, by asking them what personal growth work they have been doing. This helps you avoid telling them something they already know. Also, notice how I reacted when she told me she had cheated, in contrast to my reaction when she divulged the traumatic experience with her father. I acknowledged Lena for her vulnerability, and responded neutrally to the incident, because she already felt shame around it. But, my response to her traumatic experience let her know it was a big deal, and was the cause of her feeling lost. When something traumatic or scary happens, we go into survival mode and we disconnect. We suppress the emotional response because we didn't know how to deal with it. I recommended Lena look into Somatic therapy to help her overcome her past trauma. My Inner Circle Membership Community is an eclectic community where anyone can find a home. Transformations and bonds are created by people sharing and connecting with each other. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com about joining. Or, ask Jill about a private one-on-one session. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel lost, stuck, or just blah? ? Is there a situation from your past you haven't fully processed? Maybe you hoped time would heal the wound, but you never really dealt with the issue. ? Are you questioning a relationship you are currently in? Lena's Question: Lena wants to know how to get out of her "black hole," and get unstuck from her current feelings of discomfort. Lena's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She was scared by the actions of her father, and felt he turned his back on her. ? She feels guilty about the breakup with her ex-boyfriend. ? She suppressed her feelings of trauma, fear, and guilt. ? She has lost herself. ? She doesn't want to be in her current relationship. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should work with a Somatic therapist to deal with her trauma. ? She should stop compromising in her current relationship and show up authentically. Takeaways: ? Is there anything you haven't forgiven yourself for, or a reason you may be punishing yourself? Where do you think you did something wrong? Why do you think you can't have what you want? ? Get Expectation Hangover and do the Release Writing or Temper Tantrum techniques to help you get unstuck. ? Google Somatic Therapy to learn more about it. It may be helpful in your getting over a trauma from the past. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com
00:38:49 5/17/2017
Listen in as Christine answers the most common questions she gets: How do I have more energy? Also how do we stop taking on other people's stuff? And how do we go out and engage in our daily lives without feeling depleted? Don't miss this quickie tip!!
00:05:20 5/13/2017
This episode is about overcoming the fear of success and the fear of failure. During the coaching session with Becca, it is clear she intellectually knows what she needs to do to build her business, but she can't commit to doing it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode87] Everyone defines fear and success differently, but usually our fear of success has to do with being seen more, feeling unsafe, feeling more responsibility for changing, or changing or losing ourselves in some way. Our fear of failure normally has something to do with rejection, loss of money, or status, or security, judgment from others, or our own self-criticism that we endure if we fail. So, how do we overcome these fears? It's about more than taking action steps towards your goals. Maybe, you have tried to overcome it by just doing whatever it is. But, until you upgrade the beliefs and old triggers, which perpetuate the fear, you will continue to find yourself in your own way. Many people think money will make them feel better about themselves or make them more confident. But it doesn't ? confidence is an inside job. We can't create self-worth from money, but we can create net worth from self-worth. When we have self-worth and do the internal work, we express our gifts and align with our higher purpose. We are then able to attract money to us. It is important for us to have a wealth consciousness. Aubrey Marcus and I are facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin, Texas over Memorial Day weekend for men and women. The focus of the retreat is Love: Practice Makes the Master. There will be yoga, breathing exercises, ecstatic dance and more. Come and become part of the tribe. My Inner Circle Membership Community is an eclectic community where anyone can find a home. Transformations and bonds are created by people sharing and connecting with each other. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com about joining. Or, ask Jill about a private one-on-one session. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? What are your fears around failure or success? Do you know what to do when it comes to your business, but you aren't doing it? ? Is there a part of you that has longed to fit in? ? Do you feel guilty if you have too much good in your life? Becca's Question: Becca is about to start a new quest but she finds herself unable to get started. Becca's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She didn't like growing up privileged. ? Cooking is her way of connecting to people. ? Guilt and shame were at the core of her eating disorder. ? She enjoyed having a secret, which was her eating disorder. ? She has an unhealthy relationship with money and success. ? Her guilt prevents her from stepping into her passion. ? She is scared not to have connections with people. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs a new image of what success and wealth look like. ? She should write out her new definition of fitting in, and her definition of success. ? She needs to give herself a feeling of longing and connection. ? She needs to work on feeling grateful. ? She should get a business coach. Takeaways: ? Write out your new definitions of success and failure. Get clear about how you want to define success. ? Write out your worst-case scenarios around success and failure. ? Identify the payoff of your negative emotions and find a way to get the payoff in a positive way. ? If you are starting a business, invest in a coach to help hold you accountable. Sponsor: Audible ? Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial with this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com Love: Practice Makes the Master Retreat Sean Croxton Sessions Quote of the Day Show with Sean Croxton
00:34:25 5/10/2017
Listen in as Christine gives you the cure for comparison and jealousy. This advice is transformational if you implement it (and is way more effective than just attempting to "stop comparing!"). If you use this advice, you will see how comparison can actually be a very wonderful thing.
00:05:50 5/6/2017
This episode is about becoming a loving parent to ourselves. My coaching session with Joanne is a beautiful example of how important it is to give ourselves the love or attention we did not receive from our parents. Even if you had super loving and attentive parents, you should still be giving yourself the same kind of love. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode86] A lot of people believe they can heal the wounds from their own childhood by being a different kind of parent than they had. And while breaking generational patterns is incredibly valuable, it is only 50% of how we heal. We must mother or father ourselves with the same unconditional love and attention we give our children. Two things often come up as blocks when we attempt to take quiet time for ourselves. One, the guilt or expectation that we should be doing other things that are "more productive." Two, feelings we may not want to deal with can surface when we take quiet, meditative time. People who have children sometimes say, "My children are my teachers." When you have children it is common for things from your childhood to be triggered. Suppressed or forgotten memories start to come forward. It is important for parents to acknowledge there may be something for them to learn from it. Aubrey Marcus and I are facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin, Texas over Memorial Day weekend for men and women. The focus of the retreat is Love: Practice Makes the Master. There will be yoga, breathing exercises, ecstatic dance and more. Come and become part of the tribe. My Inner Circle Membership Community is an eclectic community where anyone can find a home. Transformations and bonds are created by people sharing and connecting with each other. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com about joining. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? What kind of parent are you to yourself? Would you talk to or treat a child the way you talk to or treat yourself? ? How did you feel loved and nurtured by your parents? Are you giving the love and nurturing to yourself? ? How did you not feel loved and nurtured? How can you start giving that to yourself? ? When it comes to self-care and making time for yourself, do you find other 'to-dos' take priority? Joanne's Question: Joanne finds it challenging to provide herself self-care on a routine basis. She continually gives other things priority over her self-care. Joanne's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She's aware of how important self-care is. ? She feels mom guilt when she is not spending time with her baby. ? She is mirroring a pattern her mom had when she was growing up. ? She wanted love, attention and acceptance from her mother. ? She broke generational patterns. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to mother herself in a way she wasn't mothered as a child. ? She needs to acknowledge herself for the mother she is. ? She should talk to baby Joanne and be with her in a mothering way. Takeaways: ? Make 'you time' a priority, and leave a space open for your feelings to come forward. Suppressing your feelings through distraction will eventually wear out. ? Give yourself the love you crave from your parents, or that you got from your parents. ? If there are issues from your parents to be addressed, write them a forgiveness letter and let them off the hook. ? Have a conversation with your younger self, and tell them anything you yearned to hear from mom or dad but didn't. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com Love: Practice Makes the Master Retreat University of Santa Monica
00:27:41 5/3/2017
Christine responds to questions from listeners. The first topic is around how to set healthy boundaries and break toxic patterns with family members. The second question is regarding whether avoiding disappointment is possible. Listen in as Christine talks about dealing with "Expectation Hangovers" and how to purse goals without setting yourself up for a let down. Links: Join Christine and Aubrey Marcus for a retreat open to men and women: LOVE, PRACTICE MAKES THE MASTER. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/love-practice-makes-the-master-tickets-33443861490 Dealing with disappointment? Want to learn how to transform what Christine calls an "Expectation Hangover" into a massive opportunity for growth? Be sure to get her latest book here:https://www.amazon.com/Expectation-Hangover-Overcoming-Disappointment-Work/dp/1608682412
00:12:14 4/29/2017
This episode is about taking steps towards your dream. Today's caller, Daniel, is passionate, and his enthusiasm is contagious when he talks about his music. When he deviates from his dream to take jobs just to pay the bills, he gets depressed. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode85] I like to say, dreams are actually our inner psychic knowing what is to come to us. Things we feel called to, from our heart. How do we know what is coming from our hearts and what is coming from our ego? Get clear about it by reading my What's the Difference Between Sacrifice and Compromise? Vlog post. Our head has wants; our heart has desires. When we are not listening to our heart or we are not pursuing the things we love, a part of us may start engaging in self-sabotaging behavior. It's important to not have the soul sucked out of us. Feed your soul and do things to fulfill your creativity and your passion. Don't let anything suck the soul out of you! Aubrey Marcus and I are facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin, Texas over Memorial Day weekend for men and women. If you don't know Aubrey, go back and listen to the Coaches Corner, Go For Your Win. He is a seeker who appreciates consciousness above all else. The focus of the retreat is Love: Practice Makes the Master. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? What are your dreams? Are you giving yourself permission to pursue them? ? Have other people's doubts or comments about your dreams prevented you from listening to your own inner guidance? ? Do you have a limiting belief that you are too old, too unqualified, or too poor to go after what you want? ? If you are in pursuit of a dream, are you actively and consistently taking steps toward it? Daniel's Question: Daniel wants to know which action steps he should take to pursue his dreams. Daniel's Key Insights and Ahas: ? He feels pressure to get a regular job. ? He is a perfectionist. ? He doesn't know if he is practical or irrational. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should go for it 100%; get his work out there, and identify people to emulate. ? He should put together a demo reel. ? He should hustle for a year before making a decision about additional schooling. ? He should compose his personal mantra. Action Steps: ? What is your dream? ? Are you going after your dream? If not, why not? What is your excuse? ? What is one action step you can take to move toward it? ? Post your action step as a comment to the show notes so that I may root you on! Resources: Christine Hassler What's the Difference Between Sacrifice and Compromise vlog post Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com Love: Practice Makes the Master Retreat Upwork Elance
00:33:37 4/26/2017
Listen to this reassuring message from Christine that will remind you of the truth of who you are.
00:06:15 4/22/2017
This episode is about not feeling good enough. Today's caller, Jen, knows it is not good to believe she is not good enough, but she feels her problem is insurmountable. The essence of who Jen is isn't broken, it's just a pattern she's comfortable in. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode84] Jen is experiencing a limiting belief. It shows up in a variety of ways, like her feeling not deserving, feeling broken, or not being lovable. It can lead to insecurity, people pleasing, body image issues, eating disorders, and accepting dysfunctional relationships. During the call, I allow Jen to go on for a while because I am waiting for her to ask for help. For those of you who are being coached or in therapy ? If you are more committed to keeping your story than to truly letting go of it, you are uncoachable. We all get attached to our limiting beliefs, because they are familiar, comfortable, and often get us the attention we are seeking and the validation or sympathy for how hard life is. There is merit to discussing our past, and healing memories. But, we must do it with vulnerability, compassion, and forgiveness so we can let it go, to get over it and on with what we want to create. Awareness without action is merely psychological entertainment. Aubrey Marcus and I are facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin, Texas over Memorial Day weekend. If you don't know Aubrey go back and listen to the Coaches Corner, Go For Your Win. He is a seeker who appreciates consciousness above all else. The focus of the retreat is becoming masterful at love. Sign up for this incredible retreat. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com about joining my Inner Circle membership community. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you struggle with not feeling good enough? Do you doubt you are worthy or capable of having the things you truly want? ? When you get close to the things you want, do you often sabotage it or doubt you can keep it? ? Do you make your 'enoughness' conditional? Jen's Question: Jen wants to know how to move past her past traumas, and change her narrative. Jen's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is holding on to an old pattern because it's comfortable. ? She believes her failed relationships and loss of friends is her fault. ? She withdraws and isolates herself. ? She gets her value from external validation. ? She is not seeing her life accurately. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to commit to shifting and interrupting her ingrained patterns. ? She can stop her thoughts of not being good enough, and create a new neural net. ? She should take a lesson from the children she works with. ? She should get a photo of her younger self and talk to it. ? She should create of voice memo of positive sayings to herself. Assignments: ? How attached are you to your story? Stop telling your sob story. ? Practice release writing to release emotions. ? Stop your thoughts and redirect them with the help of the 'Whoaing' technique in Expectation Hangover. ? Get a picture of your little one and use it as a way to generate love and self-acceptance. Sponsor: Audible ? Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com Love: Practice Makes the Master Retreat
00:42:11 4/19/2017
Jennifer is a therapist who is feeling physically depleted after working with clients. Christine gives her best tips for protecting her energy and serving people in a way that is energizing, not depleting. James is 54 years old and has worked at the same office job for three decades. He is interested in shifting to becoming self-employed but is disappointed he has not been able to get his new career off the ground. Listen in as Christine addresses both these topics. Links mentioned: Love: Practice Makes the Master! Join Christine and Aubrey Marcus for an empowering and transformational retreat in Austin. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/love-practice-makes-the-master-tickets-33443861490 EP 83: Letting Go of Parental "Mistakes" with Cathy. Make sure to listen to this episode to hear Christine talk about the difference between sympathy and compassion.h christinehassler.com/2017/04/episode83/
00:12:54 4/15/2017
This episode is about breaking the cycle of generational patterns. Today's caller, Cathy, experienced corporal punishment as a child, and finds herself doing the same thing to her daughter. As you listen to the call, I hope you are able to separate her character from her behavior. Her behavior is a reaction to her past. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode83] I've said many times, parenting does not come with an instruction manual. Often, we play out behaviors we learned from our parents. It requires a conscious awareness to know what behaviors we want to leave in the past, and which we pass on to our children. We need to have deep compassion for our parents and then forgive them, to stop repeating generational patterns. Stopping the cycle entails awareness, healing of our past hurts, and then the reparenting of ourselves to become the loving parent we never had. Abuse continues because the victim never heals. The victim either becomes the abuser or internalizes the abuse. Often, people do not share about past abuse, because there is so much shame. This is not just true for abuse, it is for any generational pattern. Coaches Tip ? When clients share things that are hard to hear, don't go into judgment or sympathy. If you catch yourself doing so, say, "I forgive myself for judging or feeling sorry for this person," then shift back into compassion. Aubrey Marcus and I are facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin, Texas over Memorial Day weekend. If you don't know Aubrey, he is the CEO & Founder of the human optimization company, ONNIT. The focus of the retreat will be about Mastering Love, for men and women. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com about joining my Inner Circle membership community. Keep These Distinctions in Mind: ? Acceptance versus judgment. ? Compassion versus sympathy. Cathy's Question: Cathy wants to understand how she may have adversely affected her daughter's self-esteem. Cathy's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels she made mistakes with her first daughter. ? She finds herself going back to the parenting tactics of her parents. ? She didn't like being a girl growing up. ? Her daughter is mirroring her. ? She has unresolved issues from her childhood. ? Her mother didn't defend her. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should talk to her younger self through a photo, and tell herself she did not deserve the punishment she received. ? She should work with a counselor or a coach who has experience with childhood traumas. ? Research parenting and discipline tools. ? When she gets triggered, she should practice giving herself a time out. Assignments: ? Get a picture of little you and commit to sending love to the little boy or girl inside of you. ? If you are aware of your need for healing, get professional to walk you through it. ? If you find yourself triggered by something, give yourself a time out. ? Use the scientist technique of Expectation Hangover and become an observer in your life. ? Consider what patterns you want to pass along to your children, and which ones you want to break the cycle of. ? Read Family Secrets by John Bradshaw and Conscious Parenting by Shefali Tsabary.
00:44:03 4/12/2017
Ready to end the vicious battle with food and stop hating your body? Then you'll love this talk Christine has with Samantha Skelly, founder of "Hungry for Happiness" Samantha also mentioned her program that will take you on a healing journey to end your battle with food and find self acceptance. You can learn more about her course and community here: http://hungryforhappiness.com/ChristineHassler
00:29:27 4/8/2017
This episode is about overcoming the pain our inner bullies create. Today's caller, Ravi, was bullied as a child, and uses his inner critic as a protective measure. He became isolated and disconnected from his intuition, and he cut off listening to his heart because he didn't want to feel. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode82] When we cut off our feelings we not only cut off the pain, but we cut off the love and inspiration as well. What happened in the past does not have to create your future. You can get over it and on with it, but you must be consciously committed to letting it go. To transform, you need love, wisdom, and compassion from your heart, and alchemy. I guided Ravi through a heart meditation, like this one from a Coaches Corner episode. Ravi experienced clarity after the meditation. His heart said it wanted expression through art. The next step was to transform his trauma and pain, but Ravi said he didn't want to go there. Remember, the fear of feeling pain is what keeps you from transforming it. It is possible to alchemize passion, or suffering, into something you love. It takes a lot of energy to suppress pain. If you have had trauma, it can be scary to go there on your own. You should find someone to work with, someone who can go there with you to hold a space for you. The more you listen to your heart, the more it speaks to you! Join me this September at my retreat in Bali. Visiting a magical place with like-minded people will transform your mind, body, and spirit. It's a unique experience where you can experience significant healing that will last the rest of your life. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you trying to figure out your issues or challenges in your head? ? Were you bullied, teased or criticized as a child or a teenager, and it still haunts you today? ? Do you have a past trauma you are terrified to address and feel? ? Would you say you live more in your head than in your heart? Ravi's Question: Ravi wants to know how to find purpose in his life. Ravi's Key Insights and Ahas: ? He disconnected from his conscious mind to cope with the trauma. ? He internalizes the external bullying. ? He's scared of failure and being made fun of. ? He has managed his pain, but has not yet transformed it. ? He is in an avoidance pattern and protective mode. ? He's been in the midst of self-loathing. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should tap into the passion he experienced to create art. ? He could help other people who have been bullied. ? He needs to listen to his heart. ? He needs to start alchemizing his pain. ? He should practice release writing when he feels sadness. Assignments: ? Read The Lesson Quest and Your Life's Purpose in Chapter 9, The Spiritual Level in Expectation Hangover. ? Be honest about what you are attempting to figure out, and alchemize it. ? Listen to my Coaches Corner with Jim Kwik. ? Volunteer and be of service to someone else to help you with your inner critic. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Over It and On With It Listener Survey Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page
00:35:40 4/5/2017
This episode ROCKS!! Listen to Jim share some brain-changing tips that will change your life. Get ready to take some notes and have your mind blown in the best possible way as Jim shares tips for learning, improving memory, rewiring your brain, and altering your self-talk. Learn more about Jim and get some free goodies here: https://kwiklearning.com/ And check out his Kwik brain podcast here: https://kwikbrain.com/podcast
00:40:10 4/1/2017
This episode is about issue-based relationships. Today's caller, Rachel, has been in a relationship for 6 years, and for most of that time she has been uneasy and lonely. She says she doesn't know if she should leave the relationship. But as you will hear in the call, Rachel knew the answer to her question before she even asked it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode81] More often than not, the issue that comes up in our romantic relationships has to do with our parents. Whatever we craved but didn't get from our mother or father, is what we tend to look for in a mate. And, until you heal your core issues, you will continue to seek out approval or attention from your parents, in your romantic relationships. During the call, it was clear to me Rachel was in an issue-based relationship. Issue-based relationships have a lot of chemistry, and the couple is super-attracted to each other. The physical part of the relationship, especially the making up, hooks you in. One of the reasons you are attracted to the other person is because your issues dovetail. The beautiful thing about issue-based relationships is they are learning opportunities. They bring unresolved issues to the surface, which makes them easier to identify and heal. It is time to be honest with yourself about the kind of person you are attracted to. Are you playing out unresolved issues from your past in your current relationships? I recommended Rachel join my Inner Circle Community to give her a support system, and a place where she can openly share. It is truly a place where you can invest in yourself. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Whose love, attention, or approval did you crave the most as a child? How has that played out in your relationships? ? Are you in a relationship you are questioning? ? Do you know you should be single, but you are frightened by the thought of it? ? Is your connection with a higher power something you would like to deepen? Rachel's Question: Rachel wants to know if she should stick with a relationship she feels uneasy and lonely in. Rachel's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She's not sure what she loves about her partner. ? As a child, she craved her father's approval. ? She entered into the relationship without knowing who he was, because she wanted to be chosen. ? She feels like she is falling apart. ? She's unfamiliar with being by herself. ? She needed permission to trust her intuition. ? She feels it's time to fly. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should take a break from the relationship, and work on herself. ? She should ask for help from her higher power. ? She should take a year off from dating. ? She should move out on her own. ? She needs to get some outside support. Assignments: ? Think about whose love, attention, approval, and affection you craved the most, your mom or dad's? How are you still searching for it in other people? ? Start journaling. A good sentence starter is ... Dear Mom, I wish you ... or Dear Dad, I wish you ... ? Get individual therapy or coaching. ? Ask for help. ? Make yourself your number one priority. ? Join my Inner Circle Community for support from those who WANT to support you. Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Over It and On With It Listener Survey Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page The Work by Byron Katie
00:38:08 3/29/2017
Your wish is my command :) Many of you asked for a guided meditation to support you in listening to the wisdom of your heart so here it is. Enjoy. Big love from my heart, Christine
00:11:20 3/25/2017
This episode is about freeing yourself from pain and anxiety. Today's caller, Nicole, is struggling to find her true intuition. She feels it may be lost to her, or clouded over by her deep-seated anxiety. She has used her anxiety for many years to protect herself, but she now realizes it is time to get over it and on with it. We made a beautiful discovery together I hope helps you connect some of the puzzle pieces in your own life. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode80] The wonderful thing about pain and anxiety is that we have the power to free ourselves from it. Many of the overwhelming feelings we are having now are rooted somewhere in our past. Something devastating caused our young minds to create a program to follow, so we didn't have to feel that way ever again. As we grow, the ability to address our fears, and overcome our 'victim story' becomes available to us. We are able to comfort our younger selves by self-parenting and through work that is healing. We also have the ability to acknowledge our need for protection, thank it for its service to us, and move our energy to where we need it now. We can then replace our impulsive responses with our inner voice, which is guided by our intuition. When we find our higher purpose, we find another more self-honoring, self-supportive way to get it. Retreat Information ? Enrollment is now open for the upcoming Bali Retreat in September. Step into your dreams. Don't let excuses stop you. Contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you suffer from anxiety? Is there something you would like to be free of? ? Whenever you try anything new, does it come with a lot of fear? ? Do you prefer control over uncertainty? ? Did something happen in your past that might still be impacting you, but you are not sure what to do about it? Nicole's Question: Nicole has anxiety-driven panic attacks, and lacks self-confidence. She longs to have a deeper life and become connected to the world. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She uses her anxiety as a source of protection. ? She needs to feel she is in control of a situation. ? As a child, she felt vulnerable. ? Her intuition will be clearer when anxiety subsides. ? She needs to respond rather than react. ? It's OK for her to make mistakes. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should tell her younger self, "things will be alright." ? Say, "I accept," and then, "I am choosing to." ? Interrupt the patterns of anxiety. ? Turn up the volume of her calm inner voice. ? Understand the difference between resignation and acceptance. Assignments: ? Think about the "big deals," or significant events in your life. What belief systems were formed then, that might be impacting you today? ? Tell yourself the things you needed to hear during your "big deals." ? Understand that it was not your fault. ? How does your protective mechanism serve you? Give it a new job description. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page
00:27:17 3/22/2017
Listen in as Christine answers two listener questions. The first is about how to handle very different decisions making strategies in a marriage. The second is about opening your heart and being more vulnerable in dating after you have been hurt in the past.
00:15:53 3/18/2017
This episode is about self-sabotage. Today's caller, Drew, is an inspiring entrepreneur who has overcome odds such as being homeless and obesity but he is still getting in his own way. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode79] I acknowledge Drew for being honest, real and raw during our call. He is a seeker who is committed to his growth. He truly believes he is worthy and is committed to shifting. Often, we doubt ourselves because we haven't made the changes we want, or haven't achieved as much as we would like. The discomfort that comes from the feeling of not living into our potential, and the seeker who emerges from within us, are feedback to let us know we are well on our way. We do not optimize ourselves overnight. Part of living into our potential is feeling and dealing with the pain of not being there yet. It's how we polish the diamond of our spirit. The problem is we label it as suffering because it's uncomfortable. What if feeling a desire to transform is a symptom of being a seeker? It's important to keep going. You will eventually feel a shift. You will start feeling less pain and more purpose. Your focus will shift from yourself to your mission and vision. You will heal core wounds and let go of limiting beliefs. This will attract different things into your life. What you do is not as important as how you do it. Allow your choices and subsequent actions to come from a place of self-love, acceptance, and service. A podcast I did with my friend Aubrey on his podcast is a great supplemental resource to this session with Drew. We talked a lot about self-love, judgment, and the inner critic. The Aubrey Marcus Podcast #89 ? Self-Love and Psychedelic Medicine. Retreat Information ? Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the upcoming Bali Retreat in September. Step into your dreams. Don't let excuses stop you. Contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. Learn ways to trust yourself in my Inner Circle private membership community. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you overcome huge obstacles, but still don't feel over the hump, or are still facing large obstacles? ? Do you feel like you have something to prove, and is it often the fuel that drives you? ? Are your self-worth and self-love conditional? ? Do you have an expectation to be strong and confident, but feel rejected on the inside? Drew's Question: Drew would like to know how to stop self-sabotaging himself and how to find the strength to pursue and achieve his goals. Drew's Key Insights and Ahas: ? He knows he is not broken. ? He feels he needs to prove himself. ? He sees himself through a lens of judgment. ? He puts conditions on his self-worth. ? He has a huge, low ego. ? He has felt invisible and rejected most of his life. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to create a daily practice around own his worth. ? He needs to become a better friend to himself. ? He should remove the conditions he puts on love, acceptance, and worthiness. ? He needs to stop trying to prove himself. ? He should use the Release Writing exercise in Expectation Hangover before meditating. ? When he feels himself drifting into self-sabotage he should remind himself of his why, his worth, and his true value, and feel love. Assignments: ? Examine what is driving your behavior. ? Write out your conditions of worthiness. ? Write out new rules, or the truth about your worthiness. ? Try a heart meditation. Allow love to fill your entire physical being. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page The Aubrey Marcus Podcast #89
00:40:50 3/15/2017
This is a MUST LISTEN!! So real, raw and FULL of wisdom. Christine speaks with Ali Golden, the author of "A Good Soldier." When Ally Golden heads off to college, she breathes a sigh of relief; she is ready to discover herself, independent of her mother. However, this newfound freedom and several failed attempts at intimacy soon leave Golden feeling adrift. But even as she withdraws from the world, Golden feels an all-powerful emotional connection to the woman who raised her. Moving into adulthood, Golden tries to envision a future in which she can begin her own family?as the mental decline of her mother reaches its lowest point. Will Golden be able to heal her relationship with her mother before it's too late? Golden's raw honesty and stunning emotional insights will comfort anyone who has been on the chaotic and unpredictable journey with a mentally ill friend or family member. Check out A Good Soldier on Amazon in trade paperback or ebook
00:32:03 3/11/2017
This episode is about being conflicted when making a choice. Today's caller, Anna, wants to leave her marriage but is unsure as to whether or not it is "the right thing to do." [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode78] There is no right or wrong when it comes to ending anything. Giving up or getting out of something just because it's hard or takes work is quitting, but opting out of something because it doesn't align with your core values is a self-honoring choice. So, how do you know if you are quitting or giving up too early, versus when something has reached its expiration date? I believe any relationship takes work, and can be transformed, but sometimes it doesn't serve either partner to stay together just because they made a commitment, if there is a drastic difference in values and vision. And, having guilt is useless. We feel guilty when we judge ourselves for doing something "bad or wrong," and we think to suffer through the feeling of guilt somehow makes it better. If you are not married yet, my advice is to wait to marry until you are in a place where you are not looking for someone to fill a void or to meet a need, but rather someone to share your life with. Trusting ourselves is important. If you want to live in integrity, you have to have self-trust. You can learn ways to trust yourself in my Inner Circle private membership community. Retreat Information ? Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the next Bali Retreat in September. If you have objections, but you really want to do it. Don't let excuses stop you. Contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you in a situation that has reached its expiration date? ? Are you paying more attention to the opinions of others, rather than your own voice? ? Have you left a situation, but feel tremendous guilt about it? ? Do you tend to jump from relationship to relationship, believing that it will be different? Anna's Question: Anna wants to be sure she is not making a decision to leave her marriage from a place of fear. Anna's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She doesn't need someone to make her feel safe anymore. ? She doesn't want her marriage to work out. ? She doesn't know how to deal with the guilt of leaving. ? She needs to take ownership of her feelings. ? She felt she couldn't trust her own voice. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should acknowledge and appreciate everything her husband has done for her. ? She should use listen to her inner voice and find her own truth. ? She needs to forgive herself for buying into the misunderstanding that she was a bad person. ? She should be clear about why she is leaving, and honor it by being a partner to herself. Takeaways: ? If you are trying to stick it out in a situation out of pride, fear, or worry about what others will think, be honest with yourself, and make a self-honoring choice. ? Reach out to people who support you and can give you spiritual altitude. ? Make a list of all the qualities you want in a partner, and become all of those things. ? Find yourself during my retreat in Bali. Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Marie Forleo's B-School
00:43:59 3/8/2017
Listen in as Christine answers listener questions. The first if from Jessica who is new on the personal growth path and having difficulty dealing with all the awareness and changes that are coming up. She has found herself in a funk and wants to know how to get out of it. The second one is from Lara who is asking about the difference between spiritual bypass and actually doing the work. And finally Christine takes on a question from Kelly who wants to leave her "safe" job and go for her dreams but is scared of leaving the security of a salary and benefits. And remember: FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com / CHRISTINE and enter OVER IT AND ON WITH IT in the "How Did You Hear About Us?" section.
00:17:31 3/4/2017
This episode is about pursuing dreams, overcoming fears, and stepping into the freedom of being an entrepreneur. Today's caller, Katie, feels a calling to start a business as a coach, but fear is holding her back. We don't get out of fear with pep talks or trying to push our way through. We get out of fear through action. One of Katie's action steps is enrolling in B-School. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode77] Fear about what other people think of you will paralyze you, if you are not focused on service and impact. If you make your work about you, it will drain you emotionally. You will constantly be trying to protect yourself from criticism or judgment. It is not possible for everyone to like you. Feedback is feedback. You can choose to get triggered by it, and take it personally, or you can receive it neutrally. You have your own unique group of people you are supposed to help. Stop giving your energy to the people who aren't your people. If you stop analyzing everything, and start taking action, you will be able to use the energy to generate momentum in your business. Please stop wasting your time and energy obsessing about what other people think. If you feel a calling and feel like you have gifts to share, stop stalling, and trust your gifts; it wouldn't be there if it wasn't leading you somewhere. Your dreams and desires are not random. But, only you can turn them into reality. If you desire freedom of time and freedom of self expression, or you can feel a calling to do what you love, enroll in Marie Forleo's B-School. I use what I learned in B-School in my business. It has helped me to uplevel every aspect of my business. Enrollment ends March 3rd, so use the payment plan and get started. It pays for itself. I am offering 4 free 90-minute group coaching calls, access to a private Facebook group, guided meditations, mastermind day and other bonuses because I believe in the program so much. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel a calling, but fear is stopping you? Do you want to put yourself out there, but are concerned about what other people will think of you? Do you believe you need to be perfect, and have everything figured out, before you can help others or start a business? Do you worry about being too vulnerable? Are you wondering where the line is between being relatable and being professional? Katie's Question: Katie would like to know how to get through the fear and anxiety that has come with the attention her new business is getting. Katie's Key Insights and Ahas: She's afraid of what people will think about her. She is judging herself more than other people are judging her. She doesn't know where to draw the line, when sharing her personal situation. She knows sharing her story is important. She should lean into her excitement and not the fear and anxiety. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should focus on serving others, not on herself. She should own her feelings, and acknowledge she may not be completely through her stuff. She should acknowledge which stage her business is in. She should lean into what she wants more of, and how she wants to serve others. She should get excited about her new business. She should write out her mission and get clear on her why. She should focus on the people who resonate with her. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Marie Forleo's B-School The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level, by Gay Hendricks
00:41:28 3/1/2017
Listen in as Christine coaches Chip, a fitness entrepreneur who wants to increase his impact and income by launching an online course but is not sure of where to begin. You'll get to hear a different side of Christine's coaching as she puts on her business / entrepreneur hat and supports Chip in getting clarity on the specifics of his course and launch. If you are an aspiring entrepreneur and want a clear step-by-step plan for how to build or grow your business AND would love Christine's coaching then you will LOVE B-School which is the the world-renowned online business school for modern entrepreneurs. The 8-week online training offers step-by-step guidance on how to build a profitable brand that stands out, market your business in an authentic, non-sleazy way, and seriously increase your online presence so that you can spread your message to the masses - and make money! Enrollment opens only once a year, so if you're considering B-School do not delay! Go there to see the bonuses Christine is offering and to enroll: www.christinehassler.com/bschool
00:39:53 2/25/2017
This episode is about becoming getting over your past and becoming connected to your heart. Today's caller, Jane is still impacted by a traumatic childhood. She would like to move past it and find someone to share her feelings with. [For show notes go here: http://christinehassler.com/episode76] I acknowledge Jane for her courage and her vulnerability. Just calling in is a testament to how far she has come. It's true that when we are ready, we are guided toward our resources and teachers to help us heal. Jane said she felt anxious. For many people, anxiousness comes from having a chaotic childhood, not having structure, or having too much structure. If it's true for you, don't make yourself wrong, but also don't use your past as an excuse to either be a rebel, or to feel like you can't parent yourself or add structure to your life. You can. Our hearts are an intuitive voice of wisdom, guidance and reassurance. In our logical, mind-based world it is often easier to think than to feel, but emotional processing and healing cannot be done in our heads. People tend to be able to process and release emotions through writing. If you have been repressing your emotions, or distracting or numbing yourself, try writing down your feelings to help you hear your heart. Remember strength is not pushing through something. Strength is vulnerability. To truly live into our potential, we must connect to our hearts. Special announcement ? We hit 1 million downloads in February! I am so grateful to all of you, and to celebrate I am giving away a gift to 3 of you. The prize is one month in my Inner Circle membership community for free. You can win by sharing why you like #overitandonwithit on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Just post, tag me, and don't forget to add the #overitandonwithit hashtag! I recently spoke about the importance of connecting to our hearts at Aubrey Marcus's Go For Your Win event. You can listen to what is probably my favorite interview of all time, Coaches Corner episode with Aubrey, if you are not familiar with him. Would you like to connect deeply to your feminine power, and get clarity that leads to deep healing? At the end of September 2017, I am hosting a retreat in a place which has cracked open my heart. Enrollment is now open for my women's only Spiritual and Self Love Retreat in Bali. Contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com to register. If you want to actualize your dreams and have a heart-based online business, enroll in Marie Forleo's B-School. I am offering free mastermind day and other bonuses because I believe in the program so much. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there something from your past that is creating problems in your present? Are you frustrated, and believe you should be over it by now? ? Do you deal with rushing around, running late, and feel like you are not meeting your deadlines? ? Would you like to be able to feel and connect to listening to your heart? Jane's Question: Jane would like to finally like to move past her traumatic childhood. Jane's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She recognizes how strong she had to be, to get through her childhood. ? She has a lot of anger and sadness. ? She has felt alone for a large part of her life. ? She appreciates her ability to keep trying. ? She welcomes people in her life to share her feelings and to be honest with. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should practice more release writing. ? She should get Expectation Hangover and perform the Temper Tantrum technique. ? She should find a professional to help her process her feelings. ? She should tell the universe she is ready for her guides to come forward. ? She should find a place to volunteer with children. ? She should say 3 loving things to herself about herself. Assignments: ? Practice release writing. I teach you how to do it in Expectation Hangover. ? In your spiritual practice, pray for your spirits, guides, healers, or coaches to come forward in a physical human form. ? If you are processing pain from your childhood, volunteer with children or animals to feel unconditional love. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Marie Forleo's B-School
00:40:03 2/22/2017
Listen in as Christine answers listener questions. The first one is from Frank who is 34 and dealing with a massive career expectation hangover. He keeps experiencing setbacks at work which are negatively impacting his confidence and ability to financially support himself. The second question is from Debra who at 52 found herself having a very unexpected (and inappropriate) romantic connection with a 33 year old colleague. Also be sure not to miss the FREE video training series about how to build a business and life you love from Marie Forleo. Go here to check it out: http://bit.ly/2kl15Wg And for more info on Christine's retreat to Bali go here: http://christinehassler.com/bali-retreat-2017/
00:18:00 2/18/2017
Today's episode is about manifesting a relationship. Leila has been impacted by her father's happiness, or lack of it, much more than she realizes. She would like guidance on how to remove any blocks she has formed. [For show notes go here: http://christinehassler.com/episode75] As you heard in the call, Leila's true inspiration for calling in was the desire to be in a loving relationship, and to understand why she wasn't attracting the kind of relationship she wants in her life. Programming from our past can impact us more than we are aware. In Leila's case, she didn't realize her father's apathy towards his own life affected her. As a child, she felt like he wasn't excited to be with her, and she felt not chosen and not fully seen. She longed for a connection with her father. We can only give the love we give ourselves. A parent's impact on us is often more obvious when they have been abusive or suffer from an addiction. It's important to look at the more subtle things that may be affecting you. Leila also didn't want to take on the responsibility of fixing someone or making them happy. She felt taking on a relationship would be a heavy weight and a burden, and she would be responsible for making the man happy. It's important to note that the role of a romantic partner and role of a parent are two very different things. Listen to my Coaches Corner with Marie Forleo of B-School. B-School is an online business school that covers everything you need to know to start your own business, plus I am offering bonuses because I believe in the program so much. I am offering four live group coaching calls, a guided meditation and visualization for each module and some new surprises for 2017! Email Jill@christinehassler.com. And Andrea Owen from my favorite podcast, Your Kick Ass Life is offering her e-book and audio, How the Crap Talk in Your Head is Making You Crazy and 3 Ways to Change It, for free if you text 'selftalk' to 444999. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? How has your parents' overall level of happiness affected your level of happiness? Leila's Question: Leila would like to more deeply understand her feelings surrounding her father's work, to make sense of why she has difficulty with committed relationships. Leila's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She picked up her father's shame about his job. ? She doesn't share details of her life with her father. ? She never felt important to her dad. ? It is not her job to fix her dad. ? She is looking to fill a void. ? She feels an over-responsibility towards men. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? Make a list of what she wanted from her dad, and forgive him for not being able to give her those things. ? It is time for her to get a clear idea of what she wants from a romantic relationship. ? She should step into her divine masculine energy and give herself the validation, appreciation, and encouragement she longed for from her dad. ? She should let go of the belief she has a block towards being in a relationship. ? She needs to break the pattern of believing she needs to fix anyone. Assignments: ? Look at beliefs or ways of being you have taken on from your parents, and write a letter to them giving those things back. Rip it up or burn it, afterward. Do a visualization of you giving unwanted fears, judgments, or limiting beliefs you acquired from your parents back to them with love and forgiveness. ? If you want to attract a romantic relationship or upgrade the one you have, have a clear picture of what you want and what you have to give. ? Let go of the belief of a relationship block, or you are doing something wrong, and get excited about any investment you make in yourself in a way of giving to your future partner and family. ? If you want to make a change in your career, or take your business to the next level, look into B-School. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? Send your questions to Christine, to be answered on Coaches Corner. Marie Forleo's B-School Your Kick Ass Life Podcast
00:39:46 2/15/2017
I have such a treat for you all this week as Marie Forleo joins us on Coaches Corner. She drops SO much wisdom in this interview. Some of the topics we cover include: What "modern marketing" really is all about - and why it's not sleazy! How to overcome fear when it comes to your business and stepping into your purpose The reason why taking action is critical . . . even if you do not know your final destination How to get clarity in ANY situation What you can do to figure out if your business is viable idea Marie just released a FREE video training series where she gives you some incredible guidance on starting or building your business. Go HERE to get it. (http://bit.ly/2kMiqV0) Also, I am a proud affiliate partner of B School and will be announcing my special bonuses soon (one of them is coming to my home in San Diego for a free masterminding day with me!). Be sure to sign up at www.christinehassler.com for my emails so you stay in the know. A little more about Marie Forleo: Named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation and one of Inc.'s 500 fastest growing companies, Marie's mission is to help you build a life you love and use your gifts to change the world. She's the creator of the award-winning online show MarieTV with over 26 million views on YouTube with an audience in 195 countries. She's the founder of B-School, an online business school for modern entrepreneurs. Through her Change Your Life, Change The World initiative, every product purchased helps support a person in need.
00:48:05 2/10/2017
Today's episode is about stepping out of your comfort zone, and following your dreams. Mel has financial security in her current position, but feels called to do something more impactful. She would like guidance on how to get to where she wants to be. [For show notes go here: christinehassler.com/podcast/episode74] Mel was experiencing two major blocks: fear, and her own limiting beliefs about not being good enough. When we don't know what is ahead of us, we are faced with uncertainty, and with uncertainty comes fear. Our security doesn't come from an external source. The person who makes you safe is you and your connection to source. I encouraged Mel to take off the golden handcuffs. It may feel like safety and security to her, but it is not freedom if she is not happy, and she feels called to do something more. Financial security and wealth are available through various forms. There is a fine line between fear and excitement. If you are at the tipping point between excitement and fear, I encourage you to lean into the excitement, and stop fighting with fear. Mel's belief of not being good enough was something we all experience at one time or another. I reminded her that we all have an infinite amount of potential. During the call, the use of numbing agents came up. The use of pot, alcohol, shopping, etc., are common when we suppress both emotion and desire. Mel had some unprocessed emotion from her childhood, and she felt suppressed by her parents. But, as an adult, she was doing to herself what they did to her. If you use numbing agents to suppress your emotions and desires, listen to my Coaches Corner episode How to Stop Numbing with Pot. Special announcement ? We hit 1 million downloads! I am so grateful to all of you, and to celebrate I am giving away a gift to 3 of you. The prize is one month in my Inner Circle membership community for free. You can win by sharing why you like #overitandonwithit on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Just post, tag me and don't forget to add the #overitandonwithit hashtag! And, be sure to listen to my new Coaches Corner with Marie Forleo of B-School. And Andrea Owen from my favorite podcast, Your Kick Ass Life is offering her e-book, How the Crap Talk in Your Head is Making You Crazy and 3 Ways to Change It, for free if you text 'selftalk' to 444999. Also, I created an Over It and On With It survey, just for my listeners, and I would really appreciate it if you would take 2-5 minutes to fill it out to let me know what you like about the show, and what you want to hear more of. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel imprisoned by golden handcuffs? Do you struggle with the limiting belief of never being enough? ? Do you think following your dreams is careless or risky? ? Do you believe you deserve happiness, and are capable of creating it? Mel's Question: Mel would like to know how to lessen her attachment to her income and transition out of her current position to follow her passion. Mel's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She allows fear to make her feel not good enough. ? She doesn't completely believe she can feel happy and fulfilled. ? She believes being happy is being careless, irresponsible and selfish. ? She would like a closer relationship with her parents. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should get clear on what will make her feel prepared to make a change. ? She needs to stop using numbing devices and work through her sadness and anger directed at her mother and father. ? She needs to write or record her vision to reprogram herself. Assignments: ? Prepare yourself to make a change by getting clear about what you want. ? Stop using numbing devices to suppress your emotions and desires. ? Write down or record your vision. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? Send your questions to Christine, to be answered on Coaches Corner.
00:41:44 2/8/2017
I share BIG NEWS in this episode and give you a way to receive a FREE month into my inner circle. Also listen in as I answer two caller questions. The first one is about why letting of of ex's you know are not good for you is so hard. In the second question I cover challenges related to being the child of alcoholics.
00:17:53 2/4/2017
Today's episode is about how to let go of relationships from your past, and how to heal old wounds. Danielle is consciously aware of what she is going through, but is still triggered by things in her past. One frustrating part of the human experience is when we are consciously aware of something, but we are still affected by it in a negative way. We have to be gentle with ourselves, and know that when we go through a change, it is typical for a part of us to be a little freaked out. And, we don't get over it by giving ourselves a pep talk. We have to go back, and give ourselves permission to feel our sadness or our fear. Danielle was aware of her anxious attachment, and she knew it needed to stop. Her willingness to get over it created the insights and shifts she had during our conversation. If you want to get over a relationship you are invested in, you have to be willing to let them go. Danielle never felt chosen by her biological dad. She had more pressure on her, in her family, than support. She was there for everybody else, but no one was there for her. It was important to get Danielle out of her rational head, and into her heart. She consciously knew her issues, but she kept attracting the same type of relationships, because she never shifted emotionally. My work with Danielle was about going back and understanding what her younger self really needed. I asked her to go back and speak to herself as if she was her father speaking to her, and tell herself the things she wished he would have said. Let go of any belief someone will choose us and make us worthy. I created an Over It and One With It survey, just for my listeners, and I would really appreciate it if you would take 2-5 minutes to fill it out to let me know what you like about the show, and what you want to hear more of. I will be co-hosting a retreat for men and women with Aubrey Marcus in Austin, TX in April. More details to come! Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are there things you consciously know, but you are still being triggered and affected? ? Are you still attached, in a relationship or energetically, to an ex or another person in your life? ? Do you think there could be some hurt involving your parents, you haven't quite dealt with? ? Do you keep attracting the same type of person over and over again? Danielle's Question: Danielle was in a dysfunctional relationship for three years, and is still attached to the person, even though they broke up nine months ago. Danielle's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She kept her feelings hidden as a child. ? She chose a partner who reinforced her childhood belief that her feelings don't matter. ? Her ex was never there, and was never consistent with her. ? She started her dysfunctional relationship shortly after her father passed. ? She is still wanting a relationship with her father. ? She was told she was supposed to save her parent's marriage. ? She may not have discovered who she really is. ? She will have more compassion for herself. ? She will allow herself to feel her feelings without overthinking them. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to connect to her inner child, and make herself know she is worthy. ? Attend the Women's Spring Retreat in March. ? She should use the Release Writing or Temper Tantrum tools in Expectation Hangover. Assignments: ? Be honest with yourself about any dysfunctional relationships or anxious attachments, and be willing to let them go. ? Stop using your head so much. ? Allow someone else to help you, by getting a coach, or going to a retreat or workshop. Sponsor: Freshbooks Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com ? Send your questions to Christine, to be answered on Coaches Corner.
00:40:22 2/1/2017
Christine answers emails from listeners and covers two very important topics on this episode of Coaches Corner. The first question is about whether a young woman should stay in a job she absolutely hates. The second question is from a man who is in a relationship where he is facing domestic violence where leaving is not so easy due to other factors. Tune in to hear all the details. Be sure to check out one of Christine's favorite podcast "Your Kickass Life" with Andrew Owen. http://yourkickasslife.com/blog/
00:15:46 1/28/2017
Today's episode is about finding your true purpose, and how it relates to your career. Emily is longing for more confidence, and to show up more consistently in her work. She wants to feel more connected to her purpose and the people she feels called to serve. During the call, I switched roles with Emily, because when she felt like she was on the spot, her self-judgment took over, and she couldn't get to the level of clarity she wanted to. She kept coming up with reasons why she's not consistent and sharing scares her. Ask yourself, what are you not doing that you know you should be doing? With what are you inconsistent? Often, we are not all in, because we don't have a big enough why. And, without a big enough why, or a big enough vision, we lack motivation and inspiration. We all have to process enough of our pain to re-orient to be pulled by a vision. If you really wanted to be doing something consistently, you would be doing it. The only true and pure purpose of life is to grow and become more aware of the love and the oneness that we are. But for most of us, that understanding is not fulfilling enough. We yearn to share and express our love in some way. And like Emily, we feel called to make a meaningful impact in the world. And, please, please, please give me some feedback. I created a special survey, just for my listeners, and I would really appreciate it if you would take 2-5 minutes to fill it out to let me know what you like about the show, and what you want to hear more of. Women with a Vision Mastermind features brilliant speakers, and will cover building a heart-based business, accessing your intuition, embracing your feminine power, and creating an action plan to drive your vision forward. May 5-8th, 2017 in N. Carolina. Early bird pricing is available until March 7th. Go here for more info: https://sacredplanet.samcart.com/referral/5ikUEXGB/739197 Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is consistency an obstacle for you when it comes to taking action? ? Does striving for perfection stop you from taking action? ? Do you know what you should do, but just aren't doing it? ? What is your why? Do you have a vision that pulls you forward? Emily's Question: Emily is looking for guidance on how to be more open with her clients. Emily's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels people won't take her seriously. ? She is inconsistent in her business. ? She is self-absorbed and lacks a why. ? She lacks self-acceptance. ? She has unresolved pain from her past. ? She's on a mission to figure out who she authentically is. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to write out her why. ? She should commit to a consistent social media plan. ? She needs to meditate and create her ideal client avatar. Takeaways: ? Be honest with yourself about which pains are still pushing you. ? Get clear about your why. ? Join my Inner Circle community. Sponsor: Daily Energy ? Get 30% off of Daily Energy. It's the simplest life hack you can do for your health this year. Audible ? Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. I highly recommend Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com - Send your questions to Christine anytime.
00:33:22 1/25/2017
A mix and match episode of Coaches Corner this week!! Listen to me answer a listener question about using marijuana as a salve to soothe some hurts, anxiety and restlessness. I also have a chat with Zlata Sushchik about balancing masculine / feminine energy related to our workouts and nutrition. She also takes us through a step-by-step process to feel our own version of "sexy fit" And a reminder to take the SURVEY about this podcast. I want your feedback!!! www.christinehassler.com/survey More about Zlata here: http://sexyfit.com/
00:27:52 1/21/2017
Today's episode is about being confident in your current relationship. During this coaching session with Nicole, she tells me she is in her first serious romantic relationship, and she is afraid she is going to sabotage it. Nicole is to be acknowledged for her level of awareness and coachability during this call. It was fun to work with her to update her belief systems and to get her excited about learning how to be in a relationship. One thing we didn't talk about was her possible "Upper Limits" issue. Nicole is getting more love and emotional availability than she ever has before, which is what she wants; she just doesn't know what to do with it. I wanted to empower Nicole to enjoy the relationship she's in, because it's important to know the difference between when it's time to go back into our past and chip away at something, and when it's time to get over it and on with our lives. So, we worked on Nicole's belief systems, and I allowed her to adopt a beginner's mind. She didn't have a healthy model for being in a romantic relationship, so I recommended she learn about what a healthy romantic relationship is. Get my guide, 6 Steps to Intuitive Decision Making, free when you check out my fresh and updated website. My Inner Circle membership community is growing quickly. It's a place you can hang out with like-minded people, where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com, with any questions you may have. * There are only 2 spots left for my Women's Spring Retreat March 10-12. Sign up today, so you don't miss out. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there something in your life you are afraid of losing? ? Do you feel new at something, and feel you should just know how to do it? ? Are you aware or think you have some limiting beliefs from your past that are negatively impacting your current situation? Nicole's Question: Nicole would like to know why she feels triggered to leave romantic relationships. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She's afraid of losing the things she cares about. ? She felt her parents were emotionally unavailable. ? She feels it's better to be alone than to feel disconnected when she's with someone. ? She gets panicked in the moment. ? She will try enjoying her relationship more. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should reprogram her brain with her new belief system. ? When she feels panicked she should place one hand on her heart and one on her belly, and ask, "What do I need, right now?" ? She should get books to help her learn about love and relationships. ? She should have patience, get excited, and have fun. Assignments: ? Are you having an Upper Limits issue? Check out The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks and listen to my Upper Limits Coaches Corner. Make a list of all the reasons you deserve the good things that are happening to you. ? Update and reframe your belief systems. Go to Byron Katie's The Work for free worksheets. ? Have a beginner's mind. Sponsor: ONNIT: Get a 10% discount on your order by using this link. Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com - Send your questions to Christine anytime. David Deida Alison Armstrong Harville Hendricks
00:37:05 1/18/2017
Christine answers caller questions from Adam and Ally. Learn about why when life gets too good. we often freak out, worry it's going to end or accidentally sabotage it. This is called an Upper Limits Problem. Christine also coaches on how to get out of a victim funk, man (or woman) up and change your life.
00:14:13 1/14/2017
Today's episode is about moving from being single to being in a relationship. I coach Alex on uncovering fears and limiting beliefs that can keep us from being in a relationship, or anything we truly want. When we desire something, and it does not manifest in our life, we have a tendency to blame ourselves, do a spiritual bypass, or mentally obsess about what we need to change and fix about ourselves to make it manifest. Often, these strategies do not work. What does work is taking a deep and honest look at why not having what we want, is actually what we want. Consciously we want something but there is a hidden fear or limiting belief, that is creating a block. For Alex, it was her fear of rejection. Not being in a relationship feels safer for her. It doesn't matter how much she desires something, if part of her is scared to have it, it's hard, if not impossible, to manifest it. This is very different approach than the dating advice we often hear. A relationship is not a symbolic trophy of self-love. If you are single and want to be in a relationship, ditch the apps, the dating columns, and relationship advice for a while, and do some of the things I encouraged Alex to do. Get honest about what really scares you in having what you want. *Coaches ? Notice I didn't coach Alex into making a plan to date differently, to love herself more, or to step more into her feminine. Be willing to let go of trying to find a fix-it solution for your clients. Instead, guide them to discovering what is in their way. If your intention for the new year is to connect with a tribe of like-minded people, and to feel and act more confident, joining my Inner Circle will assist you with both. The Inner Circle is a membership community, where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com, with any questions you may have. There are only 3 spots left for my Women's Spring Retreat March 10-12. Sign up today, so you don't miss out. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you craving a relationship but not having much luck with dating? ? Do feel conflicted about having a relationship? ? Do you judge yourself, or think something is wrong with you, because you are single? ? Is there anything in your life, which is not manifesting, but you don't know why not? Alex's Question: Alex has reached a phase in her life where she thinks she would like to be in a relationship, but is not sure why she hasn't drawn in a romantic partner. Alex's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels as if she is always pursuing dating. ? She believes she isn't doing something correctly when it comes to dating. ? She is afraid any relationship she gets into will not be successful. ? She fears rejection. ? She knows she is a great catch but may not 100% believe it. ? She feels suffocated when she is overwhelmed by anything. ? She could be scared of herself. ? She feels with her head instead of her heart. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to write out guidelines for what she wants to feel in a relationship. ? She needs to be willing to be vulnerable, and open up her heart completely. ? She should incorporate a meditation and visualization practice into her life. ? She should drop the persona she created to keep herself safe, and let herself be truly seen. Assignments: ? Ditch the list of everything you want to attract in your life. Work instead to identify the fears that may be in your way. ? Be vulnerable. ? If there is something you want in life, but it's not manifesting, it may be time to reach out to a coach. There are two spots open for private clients. It's an investment of both time and money. Email Jill@christinehassler.com for more information. Sponsor: Daily Energy ? Get 30% off of Daily Energy. It's the simplest hack you can do for your life this year. Resources: "Being Single is Not a Disorder" Blog Post Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com - Send your questions to Christine anytime. Christine's Books ? Expectation Hangover ? 20 Something. 20 Everything
00:35:49 1/11/2017
This week I answer questions related to dealing with anxiety and panic attacks and overcoming financial blocks. To submit your question, email assist@christinehassler.com And exciting news! FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com / CHRISTINE and enter OVER IT AND ON WITH IT in the "How Did You Hear About Us?" section
00:14:48 1/7/2017
Today's episode is about breakups. I coach Jackie through what she calls an earth shattering, heartbreaking breakup, but the lessons that surface during the call can be applied to any type of Expectation Hangover. After a breakup, our hearts hurt, we feel grief, and we miss the person we ended the relationship with. The way to get out of grief is not to obsess over your ex, beat yourself up, or go out looking for someone else. The way through the grief is to milk it for all it's worth, and to see what it is bringing up for you to heal. In Jackie's case, her breakup is an opportunity to reframe old beliefs she had around betrayal. She continued to collect evidence for the story she believed from her childhood. Jackie was basically dating her dad. She was trying to get the love, attention and approval from her boyfriend that she never received from her dad. Remember, whatever you are going through, no matter how challenging it is, remember it is happening for you, not to you. We can get stuck in the loop of pain if we are just looking at the current situation. Don't think a relationship was a failure just because it ended. Some relationships have an expiration limit. Look for the lessons the relationship is there to teach you. Look for the reasons you brought the person into your life in the first place. If your intention for the new year is to connect with a community of like-minded people and follow through with your meditation goals, joining my Inner Circle will assist you with both. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com with any questions you may have. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? If you are going through a breakup, are you willing to see the pain as a catalyst for growth? ? Are there breakups from your past you got through, but never really got over? ? Could old wounds be impacting the people you are attracting to a relationship? ? Is there someone you know is bad for you to be in a relationship with, but you find yourself going back for more? Jackie's Question: After a recent breakup, Jackie would like to know how she can move past a relationship that was bad for her. Jackie's Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels people are deceptive and tricky. ? She felt lucky her ex chose her. ? She played small around her ex. ? She feels like it's unsafe to be her, and she wasn't good enough. ? She collected evidence to confirm her long-held beliefs. ? She longed for attention from her dad. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should ask herself what she is learning, and why she drew this person to her. ? She should release the judgment that being vulnerable makes her messy or weak. ? She needs to confront the truth that she was the daughter of an alcoholic. ? She should go back and communicate to little Jackie. ? She should find a connection with the divine masculine. ? Write out a reality check letter to herself. ? She should attend My Signature Retreat in March 2017. Assignments: ? Read and watch my blog and Vlog about How to Get Over a Breakup. ? Read my book Expectation Hangover. ? Take an inventory of your previous breakups, to see if you are repeating patterns in current relationships. ? Try to attend the ladies only Signature Retreat this March. Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com - Send your questions to be answered on Coaches Corner. Christine's Books ? Expectation Hangover ? 20 Something. 20 Everything
00:41:06 1/4/2017
Happy New Year! This is a guided visualization and meditation that will support you in completing this year and consciously creating the next. In this twelve minute journey, I guide you through identifying the lessons and blessings from the last year so that you can clearly envision and begin creating what you'd like to experience in the coming year. This is especially great to listen to around the New Year but you can listen to it anytime of year to complete your past, focus on your present and create your future. Set some time aside to gift yourself with this process. Sending you love for a prosperous and joyful New Year
00:11:52 12/31/2016
LIsten in as I coach Anneke on putting her self doubt behind her so she can make the career changes she longs for by tapping into her unique gifts. It is important we all take time to look at the gifts we were born with. They are the gifts that lead to your calling, and the gifts that make you, you. Often, we disconnect from our gifts and the truth of who we are. It is when we are too paralyzed and blinded by self-doubt that we forget about and disconnect from our natural gifts. This call with Anneke was the first episode of the Over and On With It podcast. This session stands out for me because we explored the question, "Who am I?" and because of the level of vulnerability Anneke shared. Remember, we get to choose who we are. Not being who we are can be suffocating. We are not defined by other people's views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It's up to us to embrace them and use them. After listening to this call I welcome you to revisit and complete the 'Who am I?' essence exercise from my introductory episode, The Why Behind this Podcast. Would you like to connect with a community of like-minded people and get all of my #lifehacks? You will when you join my Inner Circle. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel like you are really living authentically? ? Are you fully expressing who you are, or are you being a version of yourself? ? Do you struggle with loneliness? ? Are you in touch with your emotions? ? Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Anneke's Question: Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is, and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen. Anneke's Key Insights and Ahas: ? Acknowledging she sugarcoats her difficult emotions. ? She doesn't want to be a burden on others. ? Loneliness has been her friend, because it's when she gives herself a break. ? It's ok for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self. ? Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone, because those emotions are familiar. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? Try taking actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic. ? Don't compare yourself to other people, embrace your own essence. ? Be willing to remember the essence of who you truly are. ? Invite spirit into your space. ? Practice self-forgiveness. ? Don't be defined by what other people have told you about you. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Write out who you are, what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make 'I am' statements with your answers. ? Pick 2?3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with. ? Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts The 'Who Am I?' Essence Exercise Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
00:34:25 12/28/2016
Happy Holidays!! This is a beautiful and sweet time of year, which can bring forward so many feelings and experiences. Some of you may be absolutely blissful - you love this season and are in a place of peace. Others of you may be really struggling this time of year. Perhaps you feel alone. Or family dynamics are challenging. And some may be feeling a mix of both. You have moments of peace and joy and other moments of loneliness, anxiety or even sadness. Wherever you are is okay. Please remove the expectation that your holidays are supposed to be any certain way - otherwise you will just keep waking up with an expectation hangover! My intention in sharing this meditation with you today is to remind you about what is most important not only this time of year but in every moment of every day, which is LOVE.
00:12:24 12/23/2016
The holidays can be stressful. The good news is, you get to decide how much stress you are willing to take this holiday season. Oftentimes we have stress because we allow ourselves to have it. We say yes to too many things, and we hold an image of perfection, and it is the perfect, perfect, perfect BS, that stresses us out. Remember there really is no stress, only stressful thoughts. This can also be a very lonely time of year. Especially if you are not in a romantic relationship, or recently went through a breakup. There is a blessing to be found in a lonely holiday. It can be a time to turn within and nourish your relationship with spirit. We can practice self-love through the act of being kind, gentle, and accepting with ourselves. Then from a place of self-acceptance, you can set strong intentions, and take action to bring more love into your life. In today's incredibly moving coaching session, Daniel would like to know how to deal with anxiety when he is away from home or in social situations. He is working towards moving past the abuse he experienced in his youth, but he needs practical advice from someone who acknowledges him from a place of love. Our call was less about the why's of Daniel's anxieties, and more about coaching him into the experience of connecting with his younger self. It's his younger self that is being triggered by events, not his grown-up self. All kinds of abuse are painful. But, you do not have to be sentenced to a lifetime of suffering, because you are not a victim. I encourage you to break the cycle of abuse by healing your own. It is time to do healing work with the younger parts of yourself, so you can mentally process what happened, and tend to the part of you that went through the experience. Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt. If you are feeling guilt and shame about being abusive to others, your healing involves applying love to the places inside that hurt. Reach out and get support from real people. Therapists and coaches can be extremely helpful in working with you, through dealing with your abuse. Would you like a behind-the-scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Finally, a place to meet like-minded people! Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is anxiety something you struggle with, especially in social situations? ? Have you mentally processed your past, but can't seem to shake some of the feelings that went with it? ? Do you have a history of physical, mental, or emotional abuse? ? Do you tend to minimize things from your past, because they weren't as bad as things that happened to other people? Daniel's Question: Daniel would like Christine to help him through his anxiety in social situations, and to dismantle his protective shell. Daniel's Key Insights and Ahas: ? He feels physical discomfort from his anxiety. ? He is minimizing his abuse. ? He can't seem to shift his guilt and shame. ? He needs to tend to his younger self. ? He should talk to himself from a place of love. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should practice the "empty chair" process, and tell himself it's over. ? He should reassure his younger self through a handwritten a letter. ? He needs to be a loving, protective father to his younger self. ? He should visualize a safe place ? his grandma's house for example. ? He should start a meditation process. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Work through the "Empty Chair" process, which is included in my Mastery course. ? Create a dialogue conversation with your younger self, through journaling. ? Practice visualization. ? Bring your mind back to the present moment, with meditation. Sponsor: Daily Energy - Get an exclusive 30% off Daily Energy Superfood Solution. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts - Schedule a time for your personal session. Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Assist@coachescorner.com - Send questions you would like addressed on a future episode of Coaches Corner.
00:36:54 12/21/2016
"Agree to disagree." This is often what we attempt to do when someone else has an entirely different opinion. But it's not easy, especially when we feel incredibly passionate about something. And it's also not always the best advice. So what do we do when we are upset about another's opinion or viewpoint? This was the question I was challenged to answer for a group of High School students last weekend. I share about our conversation and give you tips on how to deal with people you don't agree with in this episode of Coaches Corner.
00:05:40 12/17/2016
Confidence is not something you can develop just by sitting in your house, thinking about all the things you will do when you feel more confident. Confidence is developed by going out and doing those things. Just like we gain courage by feeling fear, and then taking action anyway. We begin to feel more confident, when we actually do things we feel insecure about. In today's coaching session with Teisha, she would like to know how she can gain more confidence, and how she can truly believe she is a prize. We also discover why confidence has been a struggle for her up until now. She wasn't ready to learn the lesson of confidence. Having an understanding of our past is so important to move us forward. During our session, Teisha acknowledged she is safe. That was her key elementary lesson. After recognizing it, her entire energy shifted. She was able to release the judgment of not feeling more confident. It's hard to develop a new quality, when we are judging ourselves so harshly about not being good at it. Coaches, managers, parents, and teachers take note ? I got super specific with Teisha about the action steps she was committing to. When walking someone through behavior changes, you want to help them with clear, measurable steps they feel truly committed to. Is avoiding short-term pain preventing you from long-term happiness and fulfillment? What feels worse ? experiencing failure and/or rejection, or never stepping into your full potential? Failure is not bad. Failure is necessary if you want to learn, grow, change, and get the things you want from life. So is perceived rejection; if you spend your life avoiding nos, you will never get yeses. Would you like a behind the scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Also, I will be in Australia for a Business Training/Mastermind on personal and professional development. This training is perfect for you if you are a health coach, a life coach or entrepreneur. You could benefit from a session if you are dealing with fear, are getting in your own way, or are ready to take your business to the next level. Send an email to Jill@Christinehassler.com ASAP, for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Would you like to have more confidence? Do you spend more time thinking about the things you would like to do, than actually doing them? ? Are you terrified of rejection and failure? ? Did you grow up not feeling safe, loved, or seen? ? How are you at keeping your word with yourself? When you commit to something, do you actually do it? Teisha's Question: Teisha is constantly doubting herself, and would like to know how she can get more self-confidence. Teisha's Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her self-doubt serves her by protecting her from the pain of failure. ? She has a lot of 'what if' questions. ? She didn't feel safe growing up, but has kept herself safe as an adult. ? She will take action and go to a meetup group event, apply for employment outside of her comfort zone, and join a yoga class. ? She wants to be part of a movement to change perceptions about women and work. ? She knows she is a prize and a great person with a good heart. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should be curious about the people she encounters. ? She should be honest and vulnerable when she meets new people. ? She should give herself compliments and really mean them. ? She should ask herself if it serves her to believe the lies she told herself. ? She should give herself the spiritual and physical gift of yoga. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Is there something you need to feel or experience, before stepping into confidence? Can you accept you are ready to move to the next lesson? Can you see you've done what you needed to do, and are ready for the next step? ? Write down a list of all the unique qualities and gifts that make you, you. ? Get out of your comfort zone. Do things you may not be good at, or that may be embarrassing. ? Commit to taking action steps to create the feeling and experience of confidence. Make the steps measurable, specific, and give yourself a timeline. ? Consider joining my Inner Circle, where developing confidence will be an upcoming project. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. I'm reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Why not make this book your first download? Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:28:03 12/14/2016
There are many common, limiting beliefs when it comes to love and romance. One belief is the success of a relationship is based on the time it lasts. So, if there is a breakup or divorce, the relationship was considered a failure. Or, if you love someone, you must love them unconditionally and stay with them, for better or for worse, no matter what. Another limiting belief is, the purpose of a romantic relationship is to find THE one who completes you. In today's coaching session, we bust through the limiting beliefs to get down to love and truth. Today's caller, Andrew, finds himself at a challenging crossroads in his marriage. He would like to know how to be supportive to his wife after her recent cancer diagnosis without becoming a doormat. Andrew shared he is working towards a growth mindset, and up until now his wife has had more of a victim mindset. While I only got to hear one side, I didn't hear any blame or resentment from Andrew as he shared his story, so I sense his description of the situation is fairly accurate. That is why I coached him to love his wife, to support her and to hold space for her, as she and the entire family process this diagnosis. And in time, have a heart-to-heart with her about how they plan to journey through this Expectation Hangover together. Diagnoses can be an opportunity for deep healing and transformation. Sometimes, what is for the highest good is not always the easiest or most obvious choice. I coached Andrew through the distinction of spiritual connection and spiritual bypass. It basically comes down to love and truth. Andrew loves his wife, but in truth, they may be growing in different directions. Does this mean the relationship should end? I don't believe in shoulds. People in a relationship can be growing at different speeds, but still along the same path. Remember, spirituality is not tolerating people treating us the way they want to treat us. Love and truth go together. Self-honoring choices are often for the highest good of all, and that is the ultimate high road. We can love, encourage, support, and be an example for people, but we can not save anyone else, that is up to them. Would you like a behind the scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle tips which include beauty, health, and wellness. And, I will be in Sydney, Australia for another amazing Mastermind, possibly a training, and half- and full-day intensives. My visit will focus on the needs of small business owners or those of you transitioning into a new career. You could benefit from a session if you are dealing with fear, are getting in your own way or are ready to take your business to the next level. Send an email to Jill@Christinehassler.com ASAP for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: What soul lessons are you currently learning from your relationship or relationship status? Are you making your relationship with yourself or your higher power a priority? Are any of your relationships at a point where you are growing in a different direction from each other? Do you wonder if being there for someone else in a supportive way is putting your own needs at risk? What is the difference between having a spiritual orientation to your relationship, and doing a spiritual bypass and becoming a bit of a doormat? Andrew's Question: Andrew's relationship is experiencing trials and tribulations. He would like to know how to spiritually cope with his wife's recent thyroid cancer diagnosis. Andrew's Key Insights and Ahas: His wife's hormones have been elevated due to a thyroid problem. He feels spirituality calling him. It's not his responsibility to save his wife. He has recently started a spiritual practice. He doesn't believe his wife is a willing participant in the relationship. His current lesson may not yet be resolved. It is now up to him to re-parent himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: He should write his wife a letter to share what feels about her and how the diagnosis may be a wake up call to stay committed to working on their relationship. Also, let her know he can not do it alone. He should hug his wife every day. He needs to take 100% responsibility for his 50%. Assignments and Takeaways: Look back at your romantic relationships to see what lessons you have learned. Write down how each partner has been a soul mate. Nurture a relationship with a higher power. Do something intentional and devotional every day for someone you care about. If there is a difficult conversation you need to have, write a letter and either read the letter to the person or give it to them. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com An Uncommon Bond, by Jeff Brown
00:37:30 12/7/2016
Anahita Joon Tehrani - is a twenty-year veteran in the field of personal development. Having lived through many incarnations including sacred Dancer, Yoga Teacher, Activist, Coach, Poet, Shamanic Style Priestess, & Spiritual Psychologist, Anahita now embraces being all things and not just one thing. Anahita is fiercely devoted to serving the awakening of the divine feminine and is an advocate for radical self responsibility as access to power and embodiment. As the co-founder of the movement- Force of Nature Women Anahita is passionately leading the way for a new brand of Feminine Leadership and sisterhood www.anahitajoon.com
00:27:26 12/3/2016
Today's caller, Amanda, wants to know how to stop obsessing about calorie counting, her physical appearance, and working out. Like many of the sessions, you hear on this podcast, the focus of our conversation takes a different direction. Amanda acknowledges she felt controlled by her parents growing up. And, the biggest thing I taught Amanda is how we often pair certain behaviors with love. For example, we know our parents are supposed to love us, so the way they parent us is what we think is love. In Amanda's case, it was being strict because she knew her parents loved her. So, she formed a correlation between being strict and controlling, with love. Her attempts to parent herself, care for herself, and love herself the way her parents did, are a big part of her food and calorie counting obsession. She believes that is how she keeps herself safe, much like her parents thought their strict parenting would keep her safe. It ends up as a fear-based version of safety, and it's exhausting. Another thing at play was Amanda's history of rebelling. When we have one extreme that feels limiting, we go to the opposite extreme in an attempt to free ourselves. Amanda felt controlled, so to move away from it, she was rebellious and acted out to get free of the feeling of being controlled. Coaches and Health Professionals ? are you practicing what you preach? Are you attempting to save yourself through serving others? You can share your story and help others, but make yourself your own best client. We can't shift ourselves by saving other people. Remember, it's important for you to show people they do have a wisdom voice inside, and a part of them that is connected to a pure, untainted heart. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you a bit of a control freak in your life? Are there areas you are obsessive or rigid? ? Do you have an inner rebel? Does part of you act out or engage in addictive behavior? ? Are you in a profession where you are not practicing what you are preaching? ? Is your self-talk negative, and you would like to shift it? Amanda's Question: Amanda feels mentally exhausted. She wants to know how to trust herself and change her patterns. Amanda's Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her obsessing is her attempt to care for herself. ? She's afraid she doesn't deserve a good relationship. ? She believes she is broken. ? She has constructed her persona, and doesn't know who she is. ? She doesn't know how to talk to herself. ? She is trying to use her clients to help herself. ? She should practice what she preaches. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should talk to herself every day from a place of acceptance. ? She should parent herself in a way that is full of unconditional love and support. ? Attend Christine's Spring Retreat to help process her old belief systems. ? She needs to be able to lose control and to know she will be ok. ? She needs to read Expectation Hangover. ? She needs to treat herself like she treats her clients. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Identify and deconstruct certain behaviors that may be cross-wired with love. ? Consider getting a pet. A pet is a way to learn about unconditional love without getting into codependency. ? If you are in the pattern of control or rebellion, start a spiritual practice. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Women's Spring Retreat - March 2017 Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:37:48 11/30/2016
Chris Seiter is a professional relationship consultant specializing in breakups. He teaches men and women how to get over a breakup or even how to get back with an ex if the situation calls for it. He has been featured in publications like YourTango, Elite Daily, She Knows, Readers Digest and LifeHack. You can learn more about him at www.exboyfriendrecovery.com and www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com.
00:30:55 11/26/2016
Collectively we are all going through a rebalancing of masculine and feminine energies, not only in what it means to be a man or a woman, but what it means to be human. We are just moving into rebalancing this energy so masculine and feminine energies can be in flow together. While women struggle to find their place in the masculine energy, men struggle to fit into more feminine things, such as being vulnerable or pursuing more creative endeavors that may feel less manly. This is not a time to be discouraged. We are all longing for belonging and connection. This episode is about questioning the old paradigms and rules. Today's caller, Jake, thinks he is stuck, but from my point of view he is at a crossroads. Will he continue to let old programming and belief systems drive him, or will he make a commitment to move past the fear of old paradigms, and step into his full potential? During the call, I didn't want to take Jake down the road of investigating his past, because he had already spent too much time analyzing the past and worrying about the future. Jake said he had an easy-going upbringing without a lot of drama or trauma. Often, feeling that degree of comfort as a child makes it harder to take risks as an adult, because we don't have enough experiential evidence to recover from failure, risks, and things that scare us. We have to stop asking ourselves why, why, why. We don't have to self-analyze ourselves to death. We need to be aware of the patterns and self-limiting beliefs, so we can shift them. We all need to step up into our full potential, and not allow outdated paradigms hold us back. Men, it is ok to be vulnerable, to talk about your doubts, and to admit to confusion about who you are, and how to find your purpose. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you a man, or with a man, who is questioning his career path or purpose? ? Is fear something that is stopping you? ? Do you relate to sabotaging yourself? Jake 's Question: Jake feels drawn toward another career change. He wants to know how to get out of his own head to move forward. Jake 's Key Insights and Aha's: ? He is sabotaging himself. ? He has competing intentions. ? He has a propensity to not follow through. ? He battles with fear and low self-worth. ? He has time management issues. ? He has created motion toward what he wants by putting himself out there. ? He is afraid he won't live up to his full potential. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should invest in a coach. ? He should read The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida, and other personal development books. ? He should work on shifting his belief system and get clear about what his vision is. ? Over the next 40 days, he should do 10 things that get him out of his comfort zone. ? He should make a schedule for himself and stick to it. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Go out and engage in behavior which pulls you out of your comfort zone, to develop trust in yourself. ? Commit to rewiring your brain. Visit NeuroGym to learn more. ? Stop obsessing about what you think is a liability. ? Show up fully for yourself, be your own word. Make commitments and don't break them. If you do break them, re-negotiate and start again. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com NeuroGym
00:42:38 11/23/2016
"A core principle of my own life, and upon which this company was founded, is that one should leave everything and everyone better than you found them." Jordan Harbinger has always had an affinity for social influence, interpersonal dynamics, and social engineering, helping private companies test the security of their communications systems and working with law enforcement agencies before he was even old enough to drive. Forbes named him one of the 50 best relationship-builders anywhere and Inc. Magazine calls him "the Charlie Rose of Podcasting." Jordan has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks five languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped ? twice. The only reason he's still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that experience, and the system borne as a result, with students and clients. Find Jordan at: Twitter Facebook YouTube Subscribe to The Art of Charm podcast in iTunes here.
00:22:10 11/19/2016
This episode is about fulfillment and what to do when we start to feel restless, bored, or lose our passion for something. Today's caller, Corey, is feeling unfulfilled regarding his job, but many of you may be feeling unfulfilled in your romantic relationship or friendships. Corey thought the solution to his lack of fulfillment was changing his job, but he didn't know what to do instead. A lack of fulfillment often comes with a lack of clarity. Corey will gain clarity and feel fully, authentically self-expressed, the more he takes risks and listens to his heart. We think that changing the external situation of finding a new job, or finding someone new to be with, is the answer -- that is not often the solution. It could perpetuate the problem. So, what are you truly longing for? Tap into the longing, and instead of thinking you need to change your external circumstances, think about how you can give yourself what you are longing for, now. How can you take action, and create behaviors that support you? Before you quit your job, or end a relationship, get honest with yourself about what might be there for you to learn, and how you might be creating your own discontent. Often, we feel an inner call to reach out to someone, or to share something, and we ignore it. Please don't ignore it, because you never know what will happen. The only way you can get a no for sure, is if you never ask or never reach out. The only way you are ever going to fail, is if you never try. Regret is far more painful than risk. So, take that risk. Reach out to that person. Speak up. Do that thing your intuition has been nudging you to do. You never know how it will impact the person on the other end. Don't allow your self-doubt, or fear of another person's reaction, to stop you from listening to your heart. Let your intuition be louder than your inner critic. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there an area of your life in which you feel unfulfilled? Are you fantasizing about leaving your current job or relationship? ? Do you relate to being a "yes man," or a "yes woman"? Are you afraid to say no and stand up for yourself? ? Do you long to feel safe, validated, and accepted? Corey's Question: Corey is considering leaving his current job but is trying to figure out what is next for him. Corey's Key Insights and Aha's: ? He feels burnt out and unfulfilled in his current position. ? He felt he was always loved conditionally. ? He searches for external validation. ? He has no idea what is next for him. ? He comes up with excuses to keep himself safe. ? He doesn't feel authentically self-expressed. ? He realizes he has built a box around himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He should take steps to change his behavior and take more risks. ? Transform himself in his current position, so he can move through the reactive energy. ? He should establish a better relationship with himself. ? He should listen to his heart, and act on his intuition. ? He should celebrate who he is, and receive the compliments given to him. ? He should carry a picture of his younger self, and when he is self-defeating he should look at his picture. Assignments and Takeaways: ? If you feel unfulfilled how can you take responsibility, and change on the inside, instead of making an external change? ? What did you crave when you were little that you didn't get, that you need to give yourself now? ? How can your current soul family support you in making changes? ? Take a deep breath and breathe into the truth of who you are. Then, set the intention to be more authentically self-expressed. ? Speak kindly to yourself. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
00:40:30 11/16/2016
I have heard from so many listeners about how to deal with the Expectation Hangover they are experiencing regarding the presidential election in the states. This is a special edition of Coaches Corner where I share a few thoughts about this time and encourage you to choose love not fear. I also lead a guided meditation. I am reminded (and comforted) by the fact that sometimes a massive expectation hangover is needed to create massive change. This is a time where those of us who continue to choose love instead of fear are needed even more.
00:10:52 11/12/2016
When we are so paralyzed by the fear of making mistakes or failing, we don't develop grit. Grit is what gives us confidence. If we don't have to figure things out on our own we find ourselves paralyzed when making choices as we get older. When parents place too many expectations on their children, their children may grow into adults that don't know what they truly want. If you are a millennial, take the pressure off of yourself to make the right choice and allow yourself to make a mistake. Failure is how you learn. If you are the boss, manager or parent of a millennial, stop making all of their decisions for them. This episode will be useful for ANYONE at any age. Today's caller, Lorena, is having a highly-charged emotional reaction to the circumstances in her life. The pressure of living up to parental expectations is clouding her ability to decide what she truly wants. ? If you are a millennial and you are having difficulty with your parents, remember you are the child. It is not your responsibility to live up to their expectations. ? If you are the parent of a millennial, it's time to let them go so they can be their own person. Let them make their own mistakes. Stop telling them who they are so they can discover it for themselves. ? If you relate to having a high-standard of achievement, don't let achievement to become your identity. Don't let your self-worth be hooked to your achievements. People get tripped up when they start with the end game instead of having a vision of how they would like to feel. Sometimes it is just about taking the first step. Consider where you may be holding yourself prisoner by letting someone else define you? How can you step into freedom by defining who you are and making your own choices? Coaches - Lorena's belief system was triggering her emotional response. As you can tell by her response, it was greater than what was necessary for what was really going on. Remember, there is what happens, and then what we make it mean. When working with people you want to honor and hold space for their emotions, at the same time ask questions to shift belief systems. Your goal is not to coddle a person but to get them into their insight. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you ever feel upset over something you shouldn't be so emotionally triggered by? ? Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself to live up to your own expectations or those of others? ? Have you received a lot of external validation for your achievements, and you constantly crave it? ? Do you feel that you owe someone something, or that you have something to prove? Lorena's Question: Lorena has recently decided to start over and go back to school to give herself the opportunity to do something greater. But, she doesn't know what she wants to do. Lorena's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She wants to have an end goal. ? She excelled at academics and was praised for it. ? She feels she doesn't meet her parent's expectations. ? She may be too emotionally upset to reach clarity. ? She doesn't want to end up resenting her parents. ? She appreciates the difference in her life and her parent's life. ? She should use the gifts her parents have given her. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should realize she is the child and she doesn't have to live her life according to their expectations. ? She should express her gratitude toward her parents, plus let them know she needs to make her own mistakes. ? She needs to stand in her own choices. ? She needs to let go of her guilt in order to be free to explore. ? She should write a letter to her parents and ask them to support her. ? She should listen to her inner voice. Assignments and Takeaways: ? If you are having a difficult situation with someone, write a letter to them, even if it is emotionally charged. ? If you experience heightened emotions, take a deep breathe and ask yourself "What do I know to be true in this moment?" ? What belief systems are you wearing that just don't fit anymore, or are they actually someone else's beliefs? Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com 20 Something, 20 Everything, by Christine Hassler
00:40:25 11/9/2016
This is an incredibly important conversation to listen to. Alexandra and I talk about what is really underneath our food craving and how we can satisfy ourselves in a healthy and lasting way. As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives--by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. She is the creator of The Crave Cast, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a life-long learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology.
00:24:58 11/5/2016
Are you hard on yourself, especially when it comes to your appearance? Do you do something, and then immediately wish you had done it differently? Many of us allow our inner critics to expend energy on low-frequency, physically exhausting, nasty, self-defeating self-talk. You may not realize it, but your self-talk influences the way other people receive you. If you are happy and filled with self-acceptance, you send out a good vibe. If you are negative or hard on yourself, you can suck the life right out of the room. Today's caller, Gabby, is struggling with her weight and self-worth. She is clinging to the away-from-motivation of 'if only I this,' and 'if only I that,' instead of using toward-motivation, to get what she really wants. During the call, Gabby's energy shifts as soon as we discuss creativity and connection. This toward-motivation practice allows her to focus her energy on what she wants to bring into her life, instead of what she wants to move away from. This practice is sustainable, because she is focusing her energy on a positive outcome instead of a negative one. Obsessing about appearance and weight is a waste of energy. If weight is something you struggle with read my book, Expectation Hangover, and: ? Find a new way to soothe yourself. ? Get a new way to feed your soul. ? Commit and take actions towards your commitments. ? Stop making your weight mean something negative about you. You are enough. You are lovable. You can change and heal anything in your life. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you making your self-worth and acceptance conditional? ? Do you struggle with body image issues? Has losing weight been a constant theme in your life? ? Does fear of rejection haunt you? Does it keep you from taking risks? ? What are the sneaky ways you're being selfish in your life? Gabby's Question: Gabby has felt rejected a lot lately and would like to know how she can not worry so much about what others think. Gabby's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She feels undesirable and fears she is not good enough. ? She has body image issues. ? Food is her only source of pleasure. ? She is self-obsessed. ? She is jeopardizing her relationships by making everything about her. ? She may be attracting rejection into her life when she does, because of her self-rejection. ? She hasn't asked God to love and support her in dealing with her issue. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should stop waiting for external validation to find her confidence. ? She should realize she is not alone in how she feels. ? She should create a joy and creativity plan for herself. ? She should be present, curious, and connected in an authentic way. ? She could ask God for assistance in letting go of her obsession with her weight. Assignments and Takeaways: ? If there is something you want to shift in your life, make a list of your 'toward' motivations. ? Make a list of what you are committed to, and get an accountability partner. ? Take on a role to shift your confidence, and change the way you see yourself. ? Pray for help with your growth. Ask for help in making the shifts in knowing who you truly are. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Over It and On With It Initial Podcast Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
00:38:22 11/2/2016
This is a MUST LISTEN. One of my favorite people in the world and someone who is truly a soul brother to me, Aubrey Marcus, and I talk about purpose, relationship, having a tribe and going through the FIRE of life (aka the personal growth path). A little about Aubrey.... He is committed to empowering people to achieve their fullest human potential. He is the founder of Onnit, known for nutritional supplements based on a holistic health philosophy he calls Total Human Optimization. Aubrey Marcus has since grown Onnit into an industry leader, providing innovative peak performance supplements, foods, fitness equipment, and apparel. Aubrey has a degree in philosophy, a multi-sport athlete (check out his instagram page @aubreymarcus and see some of the crazy physical stuff) and lives life with intense focus and willingness to seek the Truth. He is about to start a new course which you can join in on "Go for your win" which you can learn more about at www.goforyourwin.com And get a discount on any Onnit product at www.onnit.com/christine
00:43:32 10/30/2016
The human experience is a beautiful thing, even when it's challenging. It is sacred when someone is vulnerable. Today's caller, Toni, shares her vulnerability as she asks for guidance. She reveals that many of the decisions of her life come from a place of fear. Toni is confused about what security and love really are. We talk about having a relationship with a higher power especially after she has gone through times in her life when she didn't feel there was any kind of God. There IS some kind of higher power. There are so many names for it, so many ways people interpret it, but to me, it is infinite unconditional love. It may be hard to believe in any kind of God, when there is so much suffering in the world. The best way I can attempt to understand all the horrible things that happen, is that they happen as a result of human choice and free will. While many human choices are still made from a place of pain and fear, we are in a time of awakening. We are in a massive shift in consciousness. What is available to us all, is to make the choice to see the world through spiritual eyes. See ourselves through more spiritual eyes, without judgment; to see through the eyes of infinite and unconditional love. To heal our own pain that is preventing us from feeling connected to a higher power. We are moving into more acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude. If you are craving a deeper spiritual connection, please don't wait for God to prove itself to you -- instead, open your heart, and pray to be shown the way. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You are one. You are love. You are connected. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel you are operating more out of fear than faith? ? Are you making a lot of decisions with fear or self-doubt? ? Are you a people pleaser, who is afraid of disappointing people? ? Is connecting to a higher power challenging to you? If you do have a connection, would you like to deepen it? ? Are there situations in your life that make you doubt whether a God exists? Toni's Question: Toni feels all aspects of her life are affected by her making decisions from a place of fear. She would like to find a way to think more productively. Toni's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She fears failing and disappointing people. ? Her self-worth is based on her people pleasing. ? She's confused about what security and love really are. ? She hasn't felt protected, or connected to her spirituality, since her father passed. ? She feels like she would be clearer, if she had a spiritual connection. ? She has been operating in survival mode. ? She should know she is not broken. ? She can change her relationship with herself, today. ? She can focus on her blessings, not on her fears. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should realize she can access her spirituality. ? She should start processing her pain, and remove judgment, to arrive at forgiveness and love. ? She should put herself in an environment where she can heal. ? She can start cultivating her relationship with God, by talking to him/her. Assignments and Takeaways: ? What is in your way of a connection to a higher power? ? What is keeping you in patterns of people pleasing and indecision? ? Do you have old trauma that needs to be processed? ? What beliefs may be keeping you from having beliefs? ? What religious upbringing did you have, which no longer resonates with you? ? You need to find which truth resonates with you. ? Look for a spiritual community of people who are committed to awakening, and who know we are all connected to source. ? Start to develop a relationship with your higher power. ? Pray. Pray for experiences, feelings, and pray to be shown the way. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Over It and On With It Initial Podcast
00:40:57 10/26/2016
So much good stuff in this coaches corner. Everything from dealing with a break-up, to dating tips (learn how to write a great online profile), to being better in your relationship. Listen to my friend and incredible dating coach, Marni Battista and I share about love and dating. A little more about Marni: Marni Battista has a Masters in Education and is a Certified Life Coach by the International Coaching Federation. She is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment, "The D-Factor," that helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are, or are not date-able, and what types of messages they are unconsciously broadcasting to others based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. Marni is also trained as a Facilitator and Mentor Trainer by the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. In addition, Marni is the on-camera Dating & Relationship Coach to Tristan Couveras, star of the new hit reality TV show, "ControlTV," produced by Seth Green and Ken Fuchs, producer of "The Bachelor." Get so much more from her here: http://datingwithdignity.com
00:27:09 10/22/2016
Do you feel a yearning to have a child? All women feel a desire to create, to give birth to things and to experience unconditional love. Sometimes, we project that on external things. Or, maybe we women feel we need to have a purpose. It may be that we need to move into a place of unconditional love for ourselves. We need to learn to love and nurture ourselves. You don't want to have a child and then expect the child to fill your inner voids, or to make up for all the places you don't love yourself. We should be as clear as possible about our decision to have a child, before bringing a baby into the world, so we do not project our emotional wounds on to the child. So consider, are you sure it is a baby you want, or is it something else you are yearning for? It takes courage to investigate what is true for us. Today's caller, Jenny, is struggling with whether or not she wants to have children. As we dig deeper, it becomes apparent her issue is really about her honoring her own truth, and how she may not be able to reach clarity on the issue until she clears up some old beliefs and patterns. They are many reasons why you may not be 100% clear about a decision you are facing. Your clarity may be affected if you are not at a good point in life to make the decision, or if you are too impacted by what other people think, or society's expectations of you. You may also have difficulty if you have issues from your past influencing you, or if you are considering the choice as an either-or. All of these things can keep you in limbo. Consider form versus essence, where the baby is the form, and the essence is everything you think that baby is going to make you feel. If you are longing to become a parent, what is it you want to feel, and how can you bring it into your life now? The more you trust you are able to mother or father yourself in a loving way, the better mother you will be. Practice forgiving any misunderstandings about what being a parent means, that you may have bought into when you were a child. My personal mastery coaching course, Over It and On With It, is now open for registration until October 20th, 2016. The 6-week course includes a 90-minute call every other week, worksheets, guided meditations and more. This course is the best of my spiritual practices and practical tips. An investment in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to register or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you feeling the pressure of your biological clock? ? Are you struggling with a big life choice? ? In dating, or any other relationship, do you struggle with your own authenticity? Jenny's Question: Jenny feels the subject of having children is coming up more and more during her relationships, but she's not sure where she stands on the issue. Jenny's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her early motherhood influences were not positive. ? She doesn't feel pressure from her biological clock, it's pressure from other people about her biological clock. ? She wants to be married in the future. ? She tends to be repeating the patterns of her mother. ? She may not unconditionally love herself. ? She wants to find the perfect partner. ? She can not seem to get to the root of her issue. ? Her definition of authenticity may need to be adjusted. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should stop looking to other people to help her make her decisions. ? She should find self-love and self-trust within herself, before making the decision to have a child. ? She should try to bring out the mother archetype within herself. ? She should trust her intuition. ? She should write out her misunderstandings she adopted when she was a child. ? She should ask for guidance during her spiritual practice. ? She should rephrase her authenticity statement. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Look at what is impacting your choices ? Are you too far ahead of yourself? ? Are you too impacted by what other people think? ? Are there issues from your past, clouding your judgment? ? Are you holding your choice as an either-or? ? If you are longing to be a parent look at the ways you can do it right now. ? Make new agreements with yourself, you are able to keep. Resources: Christine Hassler How to Make Change Happen and stick! FREE Webinar Valid until 10-20-2016 Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Coaching Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
00:36:41 10/19/2016
Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, actor, teacher and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling, "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day" (New World Library). She is the creator of the www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com, dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals. Now based in a tiny beach town outside of Los Angeles, CA, Bennett offers workshops, keynotes and private consulting. She also makes a heck of a roast chicken. Her latest book is, "Start Right Where You Are: How Little Changes Can Make a Big Difference for Overwhelmed Procrastinators, Frustrated Overachievers and Recovering Perfectionists" (New World Library, Nov. 2016)
00:18:48 10/15/2016
Today's caller, Emma, is seeking guidance after a breakup. She would like to move forward with building her business but finds herself battling with self-doubt and procrastination. Emma is taking ownership of the issue and has a high-level of self-awareness about it, but she needs to uncover what is holding her back. When we ask ourselves the question "what am I learning from this situation?" instead of "why did it happen to me?" we unlock something which is critical to our growth and healing. When a relationship ends, we are never 100% victims. We need to take 100% responsibility for the 50% which is our part. That said, we must do so without self-judgment or blame. We must accept we did the best we could with what we had at the time, and we now have an opportunity to do better moving forward. In future relationships, Emma has the opportunity to be more intimate. She was playing out the same patterns of withholding and people pleasing in her business, as she did in her marriage. Instead of being vulnerable she felt ashamed of sharing what was really going on in her life. People crave intimacy. Especially those who love us, care about us or want to get to know us. They want to feel like they are getting the real person. It's hard to love someone who is wearing a mask or people pleasing all the time because we never know how they really feel. If you withhold of yourself through people pleasing, perfection or because you don't trust people, it is time to examine that aspect of yourself. Emotional suppression holds energy back. Forgiveness can only begin after we bring acceptance and compassion to our feelings. We are unique but in many ways we are similar. We also have core pains and patterns that hold us back and once we move and shift those, we can move the needle in other parts of our lives. I address core pains and patterns in my Over It and On With It Mastery Course. My personal mastery coaching course, Over It and On With It, is now open for registration until October 20th. The 6-week course includes a 90-minute call every other week, worksheets, guided meditations and more. This course is the best of my spiritual practices and practical tips. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to register. Allow me to give you the support you need. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you a procrastinator? ? Have you gone through a breakup and blame yourself or the other person? ? Do you relate to being a people pleaser? ? Is intimacy challenging for you? ? Would you like to teach your children something you wish you had learned as a child? Emma's Question: Emma would like strategies on how to move forward after her breakup. Emma's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She feels as if she wasn't enough in her relationship. ? She is a people pleaser. ? She doesn't trust herself. ? She suppresses her emotions. ? She did the best she could with the tools she had at the time. ? She punishes herself for going after what she wants. ? She needs to get eliminate the belief she needs to be perfect to teach forgiveness. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to welcome the emotional aspect of her feelings. ? She should do forgiveness work around her self-blame. ? She should be compassionate towards herself to move into acceptance. ? She can empower her children with the tools she didn't have. ? She needs to believe she deserves her dreams. ? She should create a meditation course for others to help herself heal. Assignments and Takeaways: ? Write a letter to yourself or another person without sending it. It will help move the energy so it can be healed. ? Take a look at your life and see where you are withholding, not being honest, or people pleasing, and channel the energy to create something fun. ? Empower your children with the tools and knowledge you wish you would have had. Resources: Christine Hassler How to Make Change Happen and stick! FREE Webinar Valid until 10-20-2016 Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Coaching Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
00:38:26 10/12/2016
You'll love my interview with my dear soul sister Alexi who is seriously a major FORCE of light, love and inspiration in the world today. We talk about fear, the imposter syndrome, meeting the love of your life (and how it often looks different than you expect) and much more. A little more about Alexi: Alexi Panos is an author, transformational vlogger, entrepreneur and humanitarian who is on a mission to make personal development mainstream by synthesizing big ideas into fun, bite sized nuggets of goodness that spread throughout the world and create a ripple effect of positivity and love. Alexi helps people discover how to access personal freedom, love and REAL happiness through a blend of ancient wisdom, psychology, somatic teachings, NLP and philosophy?shooting straight from the heart with her no-nonsense and passionate delivery of authenticity, quirkiness and fun. She teaches people how to ditch their limiting stories and mindsets and set out to create the life they've always dreamed of. Whether she's speaking + facilitating workshops around the world with her transformational Bridge Method, drilling clean water wells through her non profit E.P.I.C., dishing insights from her own personal quest for truth in her books and blogs, or inspiring millions of viewers around the world as host of her compelling and inspirational YouTube Series, she's completely OBSESSED with creating experiences that matter, move + inspire people into their greatness and authentic selves. Alexi was was recently named ORIGIN Magazine's TOP 100 CREATIVES CHANGING THE WORLD, one of 11 NOTEWORTHY MILLENNIALS by Huffington Post, is the winner of Elixir Magazine's Millennial Mentor Award, one of 15 WOMEN THAT WOW by Creativ Magazine, and one of the stars of the breakout documentary THE ABUNDANCE FACTOR and RISE UP. To learn more about her work visit www.alexipanos.com
00:25:43 10/8/2016
Today's caller, Trish, thinks she is calling in for career advice but during the session, she discovers her own self-doubt is the barrier to her growth. It takes courage to look inward and see our biggest roadblock is ourselves. We must deal with these roadblocks with compassion and truth. Truth with love, compassion and gentleness is how we must deal with ourselves when we doubt ourselves, question our own worth or create our own suffering. You must not buy into the belief you must be stern or harsh with yourself in order to shift. Judgment only reinforces a disconnection with your own inner knowing. If you want to be able to tap into your intuition and make choices that are most authentically aligned for you on your soul path, you must be mindful of how you are with yourself. Be a compassionate and honest coach to yourself. Let your mission and your passion become more important than your self-doubt. A major trap for people seeking clarity about their life or career path is they get too far ahead of themselves. If you are full of self-doubt, that is the message you are energetically sending to the universe. Maybe, it is time to update what your definition of confidence is. Remember: Clarity comes from confidence and commitment. Confidence is full acceptance and compassion. Commitment is making your vision bigger than your biggest insecurity. Anything is possible. You can have what you dream of having and you can be free of what you want to be free of. If you are stuck in your career and you want to move forward with intention, freedom and passion, you can. You are able to remove your inner roadblocks to make anything possible. My very first online personal mastery coaching course, Over It and On With It, is now open for registration. The 6-week course includes a 90-minute call every other week, worksheets, guided meditations and more. This course is the best of my spiritual practices and practical tips. There is an early bird discount now that expires soon so don't miss it. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to register. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you working on determining what to do in your life? ? Do you have a career path in mind but feel uncertain about next steps? ? Do you feel you have to prove something in order to feel confident or capable of going after what you want? ? Is there a vision or mission you feel passionate about but you are letting your insecurities overshadow your commitment to your mission? Trish's Question: Trish would like help in figuring out her career path. Trish's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She feels fulfillment from working in a spirituality related business ? Her self-doubt is creating a barrier to her growth ? Her autoimmune disorder may be causing her negative self-talk ? She wants to take a holistic approach to her life ? She would like to feel confident about her abilities How to get over it and on with it: ? She should treat herself like she treats other people, with love ? She should trust herself more ? She should try not to look at her inner change as work ? She should make her own holistic coaching program and practice on herself ? If she gets in alignment with what she wants more opportunities will come her way Assignments and Takeaways: ? Design your own self-confidence program and become your own client. ? Practice speaking compassionately to yourself. ? Look to other people who are ahead of you on the career path you want to be on for inspiration, but not for comparison. ? Write out your vision for your life and then go for it. Resources: Christine Hassler Over and On With It Personal Mastery Coaching Course Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com
00:29:37 10/5/2016
Listen in to a talk with me and one of my soul sisters (who lives in Bali) as we talk about optimal health. If you have ever done (or want to do) a cleanse or detox, this is a MUST listen. Kate also shares about her own journey as a healer and the importance of learning boundaries and self-care. Be sure to listen to the end because Kate leads us through an AWESOME guided mediation to connect more deeply to your intuition. A bit more about Kate: Kate Reardon has two Bachelor Degrees in Health Science specializing in Complementary Medicine, Naturopathy and Nutritional Medicine. But early on in clinical practice she knew she was never going to be your typical Naturopath or Nutritionist... You see she has a very strong intuition that allows her access to see, feel and know things about people that they often cannot see within themselves. This 'gift', which she has had since childhood (yep she's been communicating with the spirit world a long time), has brought her enormous blessings and challenges throughout her life. She LOVES being able to infuse all of this together. Her work as a Naturopath and Nutritionist is deeply rooted in a holistic approach that aims to heal the body from the core cellular level. And her intuitive metaphysical channeling work incorporates healing on emotional and spiritual levels; therefore her approach to health and wellness encompasses a direct acknowledgement of the 'whole' person - mind, body, spirit. Connect with Kate or learn more: http://katereardon.com.au/
00:32:51 10/1/2016
Do you relate to yourself as a constant self-improvement project and find yourself overdosing on personal growth? Maybe, you should take a little break to enjoy life. Being in a state of learning and growing is different than coming from a place of "I need to fix me". You can not be fixed because you are not broken. Self-love includes accepting and being gentle with our inner critic when it pops up. We are human. We are not going to love everything about ourselves at all times. Self-love is a daily practice of forgiving ourselves so we can take responsibility for our actions without beating ourselves up. Today's caller, Aly, wants to move into acceptance of an illness but she is attempting to do it with a lot of judgment about herself and not from a place of love. Women endure a lot of negative energy and pain about their bodies. Practice appreciation over criticism and pay attention to the gifts your body brings, rather than the way it looks. If you really want your body to look different, commit to treating it differently. Be mindful of the food and substances you fuel it with. Be committed to moving it in a way that keeps it healthy and fit. Our relationship with our bodies boils down to choices. If you have a disorder, illness or are going through a job loss, what are you making it mean about you? We can not always control what happens to us but we can control what we make it mean. You can approach it from the orientation of being a true seeker rather than a fix-it project. Being a constant learner allows you to look at the most challenging things in your life through the lens of "What is my soul seeking to learn from this?" And, be cautious of always being right about your story. Be honest with yourself about how attached you are to your story. Often, people don't think they are able to change their story, but they may just be attached to it. We need to believe we have the power to shift our relationship to our stories. Pay attention to your "if-then" scenarios. Believing in "When I do this, I will be that" is conditional acceptance. I am putting together all of my best tools and resources for you. My video course is coming out in October and it will focus on acceptance ? because acceptance is the first law of spirit. My gift to you is to be on the list for the first announcement and for the early bird discount. Visit ChristineHassler.com/VIPlist to sign up. Australia friends, I will be in Sydney from September 27 - October 6. I am scheduling one-on-one sessions, half-day intensives and full day intensives. Sunday, October 2nd, I will be leading a workshop on building a meaningful and profitable business with heart. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for my scheduled openings. Also, applications are available for my Secret Sauce program which can help you take your business to the next level. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for program details. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you see yourself as a constant self-improvement project? ? Do you approach self-love with an all or nothing attitude? ? Are you hard on yourself ? Especially your body? ? Is there something you are attempting to get rid of by sweeping it under the rug or hating it? Aly's Question: Aly has spent many years trying to get rid of chronic disease and would like to know how to accept it and get unstuck. Aly's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She feels she is not good enough ? She can't seem to accept who she is ? She is afraid to be happy ? She uses her weight as a happiness meter ? She abuses herself and feels guilty about it How to get over it and on with it: ? She needs to realize she is not broken ? She should get the anger out by writing letters to the guys who broke her heart ? She should write an apology letter to her body ? She should give her body a love bath every morning ? By realizing she is proud of herself Assignments and Takeaways: ? Give yourself permission to write an F-U letter ? write it and then destroy it. ? Write an apology letter to your body using these sentence stems: ? I'm sorry because... ? I'm learning from you that... ? I forgive myself for... ? I forgive you, body, for... ? Give yourself a body love bath. ? Make self-honoring choices and make new agreements with yourself. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler New Video Series VIP List Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:37:53 9/28/2016
Christine shares some of the lessons and blessings from Bali with you!! This is an uplifting episode to remind you of how to feel more joy, connection and devotion in your life.
00:06:45 9/24/2016
Do you honor the changing seasons of your life? As humans, we love the seasons of life where everything feels good and we are full of inspiration. But can we love or accept the seasons that don't feel good? While the winter seasons of life can be brutal, eventually the spring does arrive. If we rush our process or try to push through things like grief and loss, we can harden and suppress emotion which is not healthy on any level. Today's caller, Brittaney, is grieving and finds herself in a challenging season of her life. She recently lost her grandmother and went through a romantic break-up at almost the same time. Brittaney doesn't feel like herself and feels she has lost her passion for life. She would like to get #OverItandOnWithIt but there may be something else she needs to experience first. If you are going through any type of loss, it is important to cry all of your tears. There is a big difference in indulging in emotion and going through the natural emotion of losing someone you love. If you are supporting anyone who is going through a loss, the best way to serve and support them is to hold a space of unconditional love and compassion for them. Let them cry all of their tears so their grief can move through rather than be diverted through distraction or be repressed by being strong. If your romantic relationship has ended, remember that in long-term relationships love isn't enough. The passion and chemistry of falling in love with someone are the fun parts. But it takes a lot more than that to have a healthy long-term relationship. I am putting together all of my best tools and resources for you. My video course is coming out in October and it will focus on acceptance ? because acceptance is the first law of spirit. My gift to you is to be on the list for the first announcement and for the early bird discount. Visit ChristineHassler.com/VIPlist to sign up. Australia friends, I will be in Sydney from September 27 - October 6. I am scheduling one-on-one sessions, half-day intensives and full day intensives. Sunday, October 2nd, I will be leading a workshop on building a meaningful and profitable business with heart. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for my scheduled openings. Also, applications are available for my Secret Sauce program which can help you take your business to the next level. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for program details. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you recently gone through a loss of any kind? Are you in a season of grief and are attempting to rush through it? ? Are you pushing through by attempting to be strong? ? Do you have people who hold a space for you while you are dealing with your grief? ? Are you someone who may be holding a space of unconditional love for someone else? Brittaney's Question: Brittaney is having a hard time getting over her expectation hangover. She has recently experienced significant losses in her life. Brittaney's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She feels she has lost her passion for life ? She accepted grief instead of pushing it away ? Her best friend has been taking the brunt of her hurt ? She has feelings of rejection after her break-up ? She may have been playing the victim recently How to get over it and on with it: ? She should talk with the person who has transitioned ? She needs to lean on other people in her life ? She should keep her heart open ? She should allow herself to be vulnerable ? She should be gentle with herself and honor the process of grieving ? She should have a good cry and ride the wave of her emotion Assignments and Takeaways: ? Do you have any buried grief? Maybe it's time to cry your tears and honor your process ? Write a letter to your heart and ask it how it is feeling ? Cultivate a relationship with those who have passed over ? If you need closure or completion, write a letter you don't intend to send ? Remember the power of vulnerability and reach out to friends or professionals ? Be gentle with yourself ? Get a copy of my book, Expectation Hangover Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler New Video Series VIP List Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:39:10 9/21/2016
Listen in for a candid conversation about what it takes to be build a business, create a community and take action on a vision with Jason Nazar. Jason is an active tech entrepreneur, investor, & writer & the CEO of Comparably, the online platform to understand workplace compensation & culture. Before Comparably, Jason founded Docstoc, the largest content site to help small business. Over 7 years Docstoc was one of the most visited websites in the world and grew to over 50 million members, before it was acquired by Intuit in 2013. Jason also created & hosts Startups Uncensored, the longest running and most widely attended technology gathering in SoCal. Jason received his JD/MBA from Pepperdine University & BA from UCSB where he was the student body president of both universities. He is currently serving as the Entrepreneur in Residence for the City of Los Angeles, appointed by Mayor Garcetti. He's a frequent and popular writer on Forbes, Wall Street Journal & Business Insider. Jason currently serves on the board of Carelinx, Collab Studios, & Flo.
00:37:21 9/17/2016
We all have issues or problems in our lives we need to overcome and heal. What things do you believe to be your biggest issues? The key to healing is how we relate to the issue. We can choose to be a victim and allow shame and judgment to rule our lives or we can choose to hang on to our issue because it makes us feel special or gets us attention. We can also choose to believe our problem is insurmountable and even though we feel we have tried everything to get over it, we think we never can. Today's caller, Jeanette, is feeling she is not enough and she struggles with an eating disorder she adopted in her early teens. She craves acceptance from her family because she has a low acceptance of herself. If there is something you are doing to get love and acceptance or helps you to fit into your family, you WILL have a hard time letting it go. You may have a fear of being authentically you because you worry other people will judge or make fun of you. Remember, we teach people how to treat us. If we continue to show up as a victim or play into the pattern, people will continue to see and treat us accordingly. If someone isn't in a loving, open-minded relationship with themselves, they will not be loving and open-minded with you. Not everyone is on the personal growth journey that you are on. Give the people you love the dignity of their own process. If you want or need to hear something, look into your own eyes and say it to yourself. Be you, step out of your box and don't take things personally. I am very excited to share an update about my new video course. I am putting together all of my best tools and resources for you. The first video is coming out in October and it will focus on acceptance, because acceptance is the first law of spirit. My gift to you is to be on the list for the first announcement and for the early bird discount. Visit ChristineHassler.com/VIPlist to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there something you have been carrying around for years you just can't seem to heal? ? Do you keep trying to change and to heal yourself but nothing ever shifts? ? Do you feel like your family or friends look at you through the eyes of your issue? ? Is an eating disorder or a body image issue something you struggle with? Jeanette's Question: Jeanette wants to know how to overcome her feelings of not being enough and an eating disorder she has had since she was 14. Jeanette's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She feels stuck where she is ? She is contributing to the way others see and perceive her ? She wants to be seen, loved and accepted ? She feels she will be put down if she shares her true feelings ? She is on a journey of awakening ? She needs to free herself from her emotional weight How to get over it and on with it: ? She should move fully into acceptance ? She should find her voice and speak her truth ? She should say, "I accept myself and I love myself unconditionally", every day ? She should write a letter to her mom and her sister, she will never send Assignments and Takeaways: ? Look into your own eyes and say the things to yourself you long to hear from others. ? Write a letter (you will not send) to get your feelings out and to arrive at the completion of the issue and the pattern. Use these sentence stems: ? I'm mad because ? I'm sad because ? I wish ? I learned ? I forgive you for ? I forgive myself for ? Thank you for ? Why I am letting this go ? Be mindful of using the word 'trying'. ? Make a voice memo of what you want to embody and listen to it every day. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler New Video Series VIP List Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:38:40 9/14/2016
Ariel gives all kinds of feng shui tips to create more prosperity, romance, inspiration, creativity and SPACE in your life. We have a fun and insightful conversation about how to make your living space a living vision board for your life. A little more about Ariel . . . Ariel Joseph Towne, Joe, has spent the last fifteen years as a life coach and feng shui consultant. In 2013, Joe launched a book called Serene Makeover: Inner Edition, which led to him being a guest on The Dr. Oz Show. Joe is currently a teacher and coach at Warner Loughlin studios in Hollywood where he also co-created the Audition Technique program. Joe is passionate about the intersection of Art, Mindfulness and the High Performance Mindset. Get his free feng shui map and lots of other goodies here: http://www.thefengshuiguy.com/ Find out about his audition coaching here: http://www.joetowne.com/
00:37:24 9/10/2016
Today's caller, Linsey, is concerned her boyfriend may have an addiction to alcohol. She loves him and believes that if he can change they may be able to take their relationship to the next level. She thinks her problem is in her relationship but as our coaching session shows, it has very little to do with her partner and more to do with something deep within herself. You cannot change other people. Your desire to change and heal yourself should not be attached to changing someone else. Focus only on yourself. It is important to make healthy changes, even if it feels really scary. Unhealthy lifestyles feel familiar and safe because we have been in them for so long. It is crucial to find professional support and to be held accountable when we start making changes. It is difficult for us to do this on our own. Our ego doesn't like it when we change because it craves certainty. And, as we start to grow in consciousness, the ego starts to hold on a little tighter. If listening to this call was uncomfortable for you or if it brought up some awareness around your own addictions, consider what you may be using to avoid feeling and dealing. This is why I am creating an Over It and On With It course to give you tools and resources to feel, deal and heal. Coaches ? I could have coached Linsey to get out of her relationship. Personally, I hope she does distance herself from it to focus on her own healing. But, if I coached her in that direction she may have shut down. She said she loves him even though she knows he's an addict. She feels safe being a co-dependent in the relationship due to her relationship with her mother. I didn't want her ego to take over and for her to get defensive. It may not have been possible for her to get to the deeper awareness she reached during the call. It's important to give someone the dignity of their process, instead of encouraging them to make a move they may not be ready to make. Would you like to connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce? There is a free video training series on my site to help you build your business or obtain your desires from the inside out. Your Secret Sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions, which can help you to feel a sense of belonging and confidence. Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss to get the free videos. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you in a relationship with someone and hope they will change? ? Are you in a relationship with an addict? Are you using an external coping strategy to distract yourself from dealing with something you don't want to face? ? Do you acknowledge that you may have tendencies towards co-dependency? ? Is your ego feeling dark, and would you like to feel more connected to your soul? Linsey's Question: Linsey is concerned her current relationship may be following the same path as her past relationships, and she is unsure about the future. Linsey's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She realizes she has co-dependency issues ? She wants her partner to change ? She knows she has walked on eggshells around her mother ? She uses food and television as numbing agents ? She became super-independent because she doesn't believe she can count on anyone else ? She knows she should disconnect from her relationship but doesn't want to ? She can heal this issue How to get over it and on with it: ? She should be honest about who her partner really is ? She needs to deal with the hurt inside herself ? She needs professional help by way of a 12-step program or a therapist ? She should make a 1-year commitment to not take actions that can't be done ? She should incorporate a spiritual practice into her life Assignments and Takeaways: ? Take a serious look at your coping devices. Are they addictions or in the danger zone of becoming addictions? ? Take an honest look at your relationships. Ask people close to you what they notice about your relationships. ? Write a list of the things you desire and what you think will make you feel better. ? Ask the universe to guide you to the help you need and want. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Secret Sauce Training Series Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:44:23 9/7/2016
Age is a mindset so this is a great listen for any age! Lindsey and I talk the transition from student to professional, communication tips for getting hired, transitioning from working for someone else to working for yourself, what the #1 fear of Millennials who are stepping into management positions is, authenticity, work life balance and much more. This is a jam-packed, juicy episode! A little more about Lindsey Pollak: She is widely recognized as the leading voice on millennials in the workplace. Often called a "translator," Lindsey advises both young professionals looking to succeed in today's work environment and the organizations that want to recruit, retain and market to them. She is the New York Times bestselling author of Becoming the Boss: New Rules for the Next Generation of Leaders and Getting from College to Career: Your Essential Guide to Succeeding in the Real World. Her consulting clients and keynote speaking audiences have included over 200 corporations, conferences and universities, including Citi, Estee Lauder, GE, PwC, Ralph Lauren, Yale, Harvard, Wharton and MIT. Lindsey also works with select brands as their go-to in-house expert and public spokesperson for all things millennial, including strategic planning, media campaigns and social outreach. As a LinkedIn Ambassador for six years, she created and delivered webinars that trained over 100,000 people to advance their careers using the platform. Currently, Lindsey serves as The Hartford's Millennial Workplace Expert and chair of Cosmopolitan magazine's Millennial Advisory Board. Her advice and opinions have appeared in such media outlets as The TODAY Show, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CNN and NPR. She appears on several lists of Best People to Follow on Twitter, including Mashable's list of top non-fiction authors. Forbes named her blog one of the Top 100 Websites for Your Career. Lindsey's passion for mentoring young people goes back to her student days as a dorm RA at Yale University. She is now based in New York City. https://www.lindseypollak.com/
00:32:36 9/3/2016
This episode is for anyone who feels like they are missing out, they are being left behind, they are not enough or they do not belong. Today's caller, Emma, is feeling left out and resentment towards friends who are continuing their relationships with her ex after their breakup. Her frustrations are bringing up old issues she has been carrying around for a long time. We uncover the constant moving she went through as a child is still a core issue for her. It's important to remember not to minimize things from your past. As a human, there are things you have gone through that are challenging. Things that happen can create certain belief systems and misunderstandings that perpetuate patterns, behaviors and reactions you don't like. Resentment and anger protect us from our deeper feelings. It's easier to feel mad about something than it is to feel the hurt of being left out. We all want to feel connected and that we belong. Feeling separate in any way is painful and it reinforces the core misunderstanding we are separate from God, separate from the universe or separate from each other. Healing that wound allows us to feel we are not separate and to feel we are connected. If you have standards or conditions about what it takes for you to be good enough, know that you are good enough just the way you are. Connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce with the 4-video training series I put on my site for you. Your secret sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions that can help you feel a sense of belonging and confidence. Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: How often do you experience FOMO (fear of missing out)? Have you just gone through a breakup and are having a hard time with all the transitions and all the loss? Are you having challenges with sharing friends after a breakup? Do you want your friends to pick sides? Do you feel the pressure to pick sides if you ARE the friend of a couple who recently broke up? Emma's Question: Emma is having difficulty releasing her emotions, which are triggered by her jealousy and frustration over shared friendships after her breakup. Emma's Key Insights and Aha's: She's got a bad case of FOMO She has always been hypersensitive about being left out She has always felt like she needed to catch up She feels frustration, anger and resentment She feels relief being able to tie this experience back to core issues How to get over it and on with it: She can just be herself and be enough through self-acceptance Let her younger self know there is nothing she needs to do to fit in She should find a spiritual practice and talk to God and the Universe She should free herself up emotionally so new soul friends can come into her life Assignments and Takeaways: Look for ways you are trying to fit in or pretend to be someone you are not, and think of how you can show up as fully yourself. Work with your limiting beliefs about being left out. Go back and talk to your younger self and make sure that part of you knows that you do belong. Consider how your spiritual practice is not just about how you connect to a higher power inside you. It's about connection and love to the oneness we all are. Practice the horseback rider technique from Expectation Hangover when you experience your limiting beliefs. Re-direct your thoughts to "I belong". If you are going through a breakup, don't make your friends pick sides. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Secret Sauce Training Series Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:40:51 8/31/2016
As an Author, Speaker, Trainer, and Executive Coach Steve Sisgold has spent the past 25 years studying and teaching the relationship between beliefs held in the body and success, how the body "billboard" sends micro messages that affect authentic communication and how self-awareness lowers stress and boosts peak performance. He has amazing books, Whole Body Intelligence and What's Your Body Telling You? and is a breakthrough coach to many best-selling self help authors, Grammy and Oscar winners, CEO's, a Major League baseball President, as well as Wellness and Business leaders. Prior to what he is doing now Steve Sisgold applied the principles he teaches, in the business world. He owned and directed a successful Advertising and PR firm, and was #1 of 500 sales people and a national sales trainer with a Fortune 100 company. Learn more about Steve here: http://wholebodyintelligence.com/
00:29:24 8/27/2016
Today's caller, Mia, is dealing with sexual harassment from her boss at a newly acquired job and she is scared to stand up for herself. This situation is in no way Mia's fault. While listening, I want you to take note of your reaction to what Mia shares. Does it make you angry? Does it trigger anything in your past? If you react to anything she shares, reach out for help and support. Reaching out for help is the only way to get out of a toxic situation. If you are in a situation in which you feel you are being abused or harassed in some way, please do not keep it a secret. It's important not to allow judgment to blind us from seeing the learning in a situation. Sexual harassment is one of those things that can trigger a lot of judgment. From a spiritual perspective, there is no good, bad, right or wrong. Being disrespected is not something to accept in the name of love or spirituality. However, going into blame mode doesn't solve anything either. Our relationship with ourselves, from our self-talk to self-perception to our daily habits, directly impacts the people we attract and how people in our lives treat us. If we want to change the way people treat us, we need to change ourselves first. Coach's Tip - The reason I didn't start off with taking legal action is because it would have been judgmental and highly reactionary. I needed to do some detective work first, to see if this situation was bringing up unresolved issues that were coming up to heal, which is what was happening in Mia's case. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there or has there been someone you felt disrespected or harassed by? ? Do you hold back from standing up for yourself, because you don't want to make waves? ? Are you in an unhealthy situation, but staying in it for money or job security? ? Are there unresolved issues from your past that are haunting your present? Mia's Question: Mia is uncomfortable in her new job because her boss is sexually harassing her. She would like to know why she may be attracting men who are disrespectful to her throughout her life. Mia's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her father didn't show emotions towards her ? She is the first woman from her family to work for a corporation ? She may believe that as a woman, she has to behave differently than a man ? She doesn't trust men and doesn't feel safe with them ? Her self-esteem took a hit after her last relationship How to get over it and on with it: ? She needs to update what she believes about men ? She should stand up for herself if she feels disrespected in anyway ? She needs to be in an environment where she is encouraged and supported Assignments and Takeaways: ? If you feel you are in a situation in which you are being harassed in any way, do not be silent. Seek out some kind of professional support and document what is happening. ? If feeling disrespected is a theme in your life, take a look at your relationship with yourself. How can you shift how you treat yourself, so that consequently other people start treating you differently? ? Do you need to set boundaries with some people in your life, so you feel more respected? Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Secret Sauce Training Series Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Updo Cure kybc7qyb
00:33:00 8/24/2016
I am so honored to have my mom as our guest this week on coaches corner. She is a licensed professional counselor, hypnotherapist, wife, mother and grandmother. We talk candidly about how she impacted my life, the challenges she had as my mom and what has kept her 42 year old marriage to my dad together. She also shares her professional advice for how to heal issues from childhood and have successful relationships as an adult. Enjoy getting to know my mom! Here is info to connect with her and get her books and audio downloads: For individual, couples or family therapy in the Dallas or Austin area: jodihassler@gmail.com Access her hypnotherapy CDs: Hypnosis to Motivate You to Exercise and Eat Well - EP All Is Well - Hypnosis for Insomnia Book: Chip the Puppy with Two Homes https://www.amazon.com/Chip-Puppy-Homes-Jodi-Hassler/dp/1439222894
00:26:06 8/20/2016
It really is so important to give ourselves permission to go after what we want to do. For example, I recently gave myself permission to go on a trip to Colombia with the caveat that I would work while I was there. When I ran into wifi issues and couldn't communicate with my team I had a bit of an Expectation Hangover. So, I decided that instead of being frustrated about it, I would move into acceptance and give myself permission to take some time off. When I fight for my will over thy will I almost always end up getting frustrated. Emily is normally a driven and passionate person. However, she called in because she is feeling a bit lackluster lately. She's done a lot of personal development work, but can't seem to find her mojo to implement the new things she would like in her life. She's been waiting for something to give her permission to act. It's important for her to start coming up with all the reasons why she can do something, instead of making up excuses about why she can't. Everything begins with just one step. In my book, Expectation Hangover, I call this Proactive Surrender. It's about taking one step with intention and involvement and then allowing for feedback. To co-create is about being in flow with the universe and letting go of attachments of control and planning. Be open to how and where the universe wants to lead you. Also, there are a lot of people who get stuck in the personal awareness trap. People who read a lot of books, listen to podcasts, and become very aware but things don't ever seem to shift for them. If you find yourself in the awareness trap you must start taking action. Coach's Tip - When working with your clients be mindful of having them speak in "I" language rather than in the second person because when we speak in the second person we disassociate and we don't own what we are saying. It's important to bring clients back to using "I" language without making them feel wrong. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you feeling a bit lackluster? Would you like to feel more driven or inspired? ? Do you need to give yourself permission to do something or are you waiting for a permission slip? ? Have you made your human desires bad? Are you trying to get rid of your ego? ? Do you have a heartfelt desire but can't seem to take the first step? Emily's Question: Emily who is normally driven and passionate finds herself feeling a bit lackluster and lost. She is feeling symptoms of the Imposter syndrome and may be in a personal awareness trap. She would like to know how to get inspired. Emily's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her ego isn't all bad ? She needs to listen to her voice of inspiration ? She doesn't need to be an expert to get started ? She has an ability to build rapport with people How to get over it and on with it: ? She should take the first step and listen to her seed of inspiration ? Realize there is no point to anything ? She needs to step into her gifts and take action ? She needs to own her feelings and use "I" language ? Find her internal qualities that mirror traits she admires in other people Assignments and Takeaways: ? Take action and allow opportunities to integrate into all of your self-health programs. ? Give yourself a permission slip to go after what you want. Remember, it begins with by taking one step. ? Don't wait for opportunities to come to you. Reach out to the people you want to connect with. ? If you relate to the "Imposter Syndrome" write out all the amazing things about you and your gifts and talents. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Coaches Corner with Julie Elizabeth Day
00:29:06 8/17/2016
Julie began her adult-travels through Earth School as an actress in NYC, obsessing over yoga, astrology, meditation, and Louise Hay on the side. She had a thing for commercials, and was blessed with many, hawking everything from Diet Coke, to Volkswagen. She worked her way through the NY theater scene and was gifted the amazing opportunity to originate roles for both Christopher Durang and Neil Simon (on Broadway!). Then one day, while deep in a dark night of the soul, her guides told her to leave acting. Trusting the inner call, she promptly dialed up her agents... and the path was chosen. What followed next was a journey of intense human learnings, blissful soul-discoveries, and every emotion in between. Shamanic travels, yogic trainings, New Thought teachings... the journey was filled with wisdom, and what she learned through it all was that the human-ness is holy, and this life is too precious for words. She finds that laughter is the greatest medicine, and love is the greatest healer. Whichever path you choose to get there, those two seem to remain infinitely true. Licensed as a Spiritual Practitioner through the Agape International Spiritual Center in 2010, Julie has a knack for helping others to access high truth, connect to their team in the unseen, download pristine guidance from Higher Self, and have fun doing it. In other words... unpack the BS, and embrace an authentic life of joyful expression and contribution. She does this through individual sessions, classes, workshops, and writings. Her unique blueprint to joy involves dogs, nature, laughing wayyyy too loud, and dancing wildly. Find her at: www.practicalmystics.com and julieelizabethday.com
00:30:26 8/13/2016
I talk a lot on this show about Expectation Hangovers - how they are the disappointments and curve balls that teach us and grow us. But, it's also important to acknowledge the unexpected surprises that delight us and support us in magical ways. That's why it is important not to plan every little thing, to make space for the unexpected, and to leave more time for soul food. In order to be in this place of space and possibility, we have to come into right relationship with uncertainty. What is a right relationship? Realize that we never have total control and that nothing is ever 100% certain. During times of transition, we should honor that we are in a season of change in our lives. We should not source our sense of feeling safe with being certain of everything. Know that we are always being supported and being guided by the universe even when we feel most lost. Today's caller is Elle, who called me to discuss her upcoming life transition and the fear she has about it. We hear in this call yet another example of how there is almost always a deeper issue underneath our questions. As I began to shine a light on the dark places Elle had inside, she began to connect the dots and came to some of her own conclusions. Often, people stay stuck on their current problems or questions rather than asking the deeper questions. We can not arrive at clarity until we clear the deeper, underlying issues. We can not move into our full potential if we are playing it safe all the time. Change does not happen in our comfort zone. Bust through your limiting belief that no one will be there for you if you take a leap of faith or make a change. There are so many new guides, angels and soul friends who show up for us at exactly the time we need them to. Changing your vibrations also changes your consciousness. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a transition time or feeling uncertain about things? Are you grasping for control, safety and security? Are you projecting your security on to another person, job or something else outside of you? Do you ever feel alone? Would you like to feel more connected to or supported by the universe? Elle 's Question: Elle wants to know how to transition into her new life after years of military service and as a newly single person. Elle 's Key Insights and Aha's: She is creating her own fear. She has always wanted to be an entrepreneur. She craves security because she missed out on a developmental phase of her childhood. She dates emotionally unavailable men because that is how her father was. How to get over it and on with it: She can heal her lifetime longing for a father. Take this opportunity to delve into the divine masculine and the divine feminine powers. She needs to let go of belief systems that tell her security comes from outside of herself. Assignments and Takeaways: Get into a right relationship with your uncertainty. Follow those 'what if' statements with something good. Make future tripping a desirable destination. Find a lightworker to work with. Have one person to shine a light on your dark places. Forgive your parents. Remember that life is full of magical uncertainties and the divine will always have your back. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:29:27 8/10/2016
Arriane Alexander is The Rock Your Life Coach with a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology. She helps female entrepreneurs and businesswomen step into new possibilities so they can create a life and career they've always dreamed of. She spent over 12 years as a high level executive in the fashion business and walked away from that successful career to follow a heartfelt dream of succeeding in the entertainment industry and as a transformational Life Coach. Today, she works consistently as an Actor on TV shows like Justified, Grey's Anatomy and The People vs O.J. Simpson. On top of that, she is the Host of two TV shows, and booked numerous commercials. In other words, she's created the life of her dreams, and as a Rock Your Life coach for over a decade, she helps women do the same in a fun, inspired, and transformative way. She works with women all over the world -Entrepreneurs, Health and Fitness Experts, and Executive Business Women to help them overcome their fears, self-doubt and any other obstacles blocking their path, to create the foundation for their new life, and a journey to take them there. Is it risky? Of course it is. Without risk, there's no life, no excitement, and no happiness. There's no fun, either. But once a woman starts taking risks, once she start taking bold actions, she will discover that what she thought of as impossible is suddenly within your reach. She will do things she's never done before, and wonder, "Who is this confident, radiant, and fabulous person?" It's her. It's been her all along, and Arriane is with her every step of the way to Rock Her Life. www.arrianefreebie.com For Your FREE Video Series on How To Bust Through Limiting Beliefs www.arrianealexander.com` Facebook.com/arrianealexander IG: @arrianealexander Twitter: @arriane1000 Snapchat: @arrianealex Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIIx-kpVFElpPdXCipUtMWg
00:28:03 8/6/2016
At my signature retreat, many of the women who attended seemed to have amazing connections and gone through physical transformations - in just three short days. It made me think of questions I get a lot, which are "How do I get to a state of joy and deep connection, and stay there?" and "How do I get rid of hurt feelings from the past, which are impacting my ability to be happy in the present?" When the retreat started, we didn't have the intention to be "happy" or better. We started the retreat with acceptance and love for exactly where we were. Acceptance is the first law of the spirit. This is where the healing and the transformation always begin. We, humans, learn through contrast. Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt. Suppression, repression and pretending you are fine are not bringing love to your dark places. The journey is worth it, because on the other side of the dark is joy. True elation comes from being liberated from the judgments and limiting beliefs that unresolved issues and suppressed emotions perpetuate. Today's caller, Jennifer, wants to know how to be happier. The definition of happy is a state of elation or excitement. As human beings who learn or grow through contrast, being in a single state all the time should never be the goal. However, being in the state of awareness, acceptance and in the vibration of love is really what we are here to learn how to do consistently. Love doesn't mean being happy all the time. Love is unconditional, it accepts all and it greets whatever emotion or issue we are facing with compassion. Apathy and indifference are the opposites of love. The more we accept the dark and bring love into the places inside that hurt, the less we feel the darker emotions, and the more we experience the state of happiness and heart-opening gratitude and compassion. *Coaches: Please don't be attached to pleasing your client by working to get them what they want right away. Ask clients to define things before projecting your definitions on them. As coaches, we are not just listening to words. We are listening to the client's tone of voice, inflection; and we really need to use all of our senses to listen to all of the different ways clients are communicating with us. When the client has an 'aha', encourage them to talk it through. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have the expectation that you should feel happy all the time? Do you sometimes pretend you are happy, when really you're not? Are you waiting for something outside of you to make you happy or make you feel settled? Are you struggling with not feeling happy at all or being depressed? Maybe, you feel that nothing is wrong, but nothing is right either. Jennifer 's Question: Jennifer wants to know how to truly feel happy in her life. Jennifer 's Key Insights and Aha's: She has an unrealistic view of happiness She's trying to source happiness from the outside She pretends to be better than she is She suppresses her emotions How to get over it and on with it: Allow herself to feel the tears and emotions when they come She should start by accepting and celebrating who she is She should replace 'fine' with honest answers of how she is doing She should commit to doing a 40-day meditation practice Assignments and Takeaways: Take off your mask and let yourself be seen. Don't pretend to be happy all the time. If you need to talk, ask someone to listen. Use the emotional section of Expectation Hangover to help you get to your dark places of anger, fear or shame. Have a gratitude practice. Every night write down what you are grateful for. Start a meditation practice and read my blog post, Why you are not meditating? Start a 40-day practice - a daily discipline which makes you feel a higher level of acceptance, gratitude and therefore, happiness. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:33:58 8/3/2016
Christine shares about what she calls "expiration dates" in life and gives you guidance on when it's time to acknowledge that a relationship or situation in your life may be complete. She also clarifies the difference between avoiding facing a challenge and truly knowing something is over.
00:05:10 7/30/2016
Today's caller, Corinna, is deciding whether or not to stay in her marriage. Many of us often struggle with whether to stay or go in a relationship. Sometimes the answer is clear, but often it is not. First, there is the love and the history of a relationship including shared assets, children and pets. Second, there is the uncertainty that goes along with making the decision. Ending any type of relationship is not easy and making the choice to do it is hard. We often look for reasons to blame the other person. We collect evidence against them so our decision to leave is easier. We want to be happy and we think leaving the relationship is the answer. But, just leaving on the energy of blame and rebellion is not enough and does not give the opportunity to learn the lessons the relationship is there to teach us. If we end something out of fear annoyance or blame, we will have to learn the same lesson over again, with someone else. I've heard people use the advice that the best way to get over someone is to get over someone else. That's terrible advice. You only end up using the person you are getting over and once all the hormones wear off, you will be left with the same unresolved stuff you didn't deal with in the previous relationship. You may then think you keep picking the wrong person, but in reality, the common denominator in the relationship is you. Don't do a reactionary breakup. Don't leave because you refuse to take an honest look at your side of the street. Stop resisting the learning and stop blaming the other person. When we feel blocked about making a choice, it's often because we are not ready to make it. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you currently in a relationship and questioning whether to stay or go? Is there a big decision you are struggling with that you want clarity on? Are there similar patterns that come up in all of your relationships? Have you done self-work that makes you an incredible partner to yourself and consequently to another? Is there something in your life you are missing or not feeling and you are blaming your partner for it? Corinna's Question: Corinna is having issues in her marriage. She feels she is isolating herself and is uncertain about her decision to stay married. Corinna's Key Insights and Aha's: She already knows what her decision is She limits herself but blames her husband She's gotten lost in her roles of wife and mother She is scared but relieved to start knowing herself There's a lot she hasn't been facing How to get over it and on with it: She should read the book Codependent No More Find a counselor or coach to look at how she can show up differently Give herself permission to not make the decision right now Invest time and energy into her own discovery Turn down the volume of the opinions of others Look at her husband through eyes of observation instead of judgment Assignments and Takeaways: If you are struggling with a decision, put it on hold. Make the choice not to choose. Stop talking about your struggles with other people. Focus on listening to your own inner knowing. If you are in a relationship, look at your partner through eyes of observation instead of judgement. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:28:41 7/27/2016
Lisa Cypers Kamen, M.A. is an applied positive psychology coach, author, documentary filmmaker and radio show host specializing in sustainable wellbeing and lifestyle management. Lisa's global consulting practice focuses on mission-driven addiction and trauma recovery programming to help clients balance their minds, bodies and emotions resulting in greater overall wellbeing and the transformation of Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) into Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG). She is a frequent radio and television guest expert as well as contributor to the Huffington Post, Positively Positive and Inspire Me Today. As the founder of Harvesting Happiness for Heroes, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit corporation, Lisa spearheads stigma-free trauma recovery and post-deployment reintegration services for military personnel and their loved one's challenged by the invisible wounds of war. www.hh4heroes.org Lisa is also the creator and host of Harvesting Happiness Talk Radio www.harvestinghappinesstalkradio.com When not helping others thrive, she can be found hiking, meditating, indoor cycling, doing yoga, reading, cooking, traveling and spinning tunes on Joy Riding the Coast, her world music radio show on KBUU 97.5 fm-www.radiomalibu.net and occasionally staring out to sea with a huge smile on her face. Lisa resides in southern California with her family surrounded by lots of love and sunshine.
00:20:23 7/23/2016
Today's caller, Frankie is in the midst of her quarter-life crisis. Her life is not going according to her checklist and she is dealing with some Expectation Hangovers. She has defined herself by external things and she's a bit addicted to control and validation. Control is something we all struggle with. We think we have 100% control over life, but we don't. We do have choices and dominion but we don't have total control. Our egos like to have certainty and to have a plan, which is rooted in fear. It is scary not to know what is coming next. If we try to control every aspect of our lives, we often miss out on all the beautiful opportunities the universe has for us. Sometimes the opportunities come in the form of challenges, which are not to punish or test us but to help us grow. During these times it is important that we do not go into victim mode. It is also important that when we go through uncertainty we don't try to immediately fill up that space with something new. Sometimes we just have to sit in the discomfort of uncertainty to see what it is there for to teach us. If we don't deal with our Expectation Hangovers they will keep repeating and the same types of disappointments will keep coming up. It's OK if you don't have it all figured out. A quarter-life crisis is normal. It is the time when many of us step into our personal life journey. Challenges are what build our grit and character. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you having a quarter-life crisis or an Expectation Hangover? Are things not going according to plan? Do you relate to living off a checklist? If things don't get checked off are you hard on yourself? Is external achievement and validation important to you? Are there things you say you are surrendered about but you're not? Are you still trying to make things happen or have you just resigned? Frankie's Question: Frankie would like to know how to move into a place of acceptance about where she is in her life. Frankie's Key Insights and Aha's: She has a should list and a checklist in her head She has a deep strength within her Her identity comes from what she can achieve She is hard on herself more than she is compassionate Love for her is connected to validation and praise How to get over it and on with it: She should consider who she would be at 49 if her life had no struggles She can pray without asking for something Her self-talk needs to move towards love and acceptance She can delve deeper in her spiritual practice She should update her story about who she is supposed to be Assignments and Takeaways: Listen to my story in my very first Over It and On With It podcast. Process your emotions through release writing and the temper tantrum technique in Expectation Hangover. Pray. Do not pray for things but pray to be shown the way. Be nice to yourself. Ditch your checklist. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover 20 Something 20 Everything @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:34:11 7/21/2016
Brittney Castro, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER, entrepreneur and speaker is the Founder and CEO of Financially Wise Women, a Los Angeles based financial planning firm for women. She specializes in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial women who are passionate about life and want to gain clarity around their money. Brittney's mission is to help women plan and create the life of their dreams, free from anxiety about money. She is known for her innovative, non-judgmental, compassionate approach to financial planning. Join Brittney for a FREE webinar that's all about socking away more cash--without giving up that daily latte. Sign up at http://bit.ly/FWWSave I'll see you there! #FWWSave She has become a well-known financial expert for women of all ages; and land national media recognition from CNN, CNBC, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, CBS, KTLA, Fox 11 News, Glamour, Elle, Marie Claire, Financial Planning Magazine, Investment News, and Registered Rep Magazine and many more. Away from the office, you can find Brittney working out, drinking coffee or a green smoothie, playing at the park with her dog Arya and of course dancing. Sign up to receive your Financially Wise Toolkit jam packed with great tools and resources to help you on your financial journey at www.financiallywisewomen.com. Follow her on twitter at www.twitter.com/brittneycastro
00:22:33 7/16/2016
Today's caller Jenny is self-aware and well-practiced in personal development work but she is not realizing the consistent results she longs for. Her immediate question is situational but as we delve deeper, she realizes this truly is a core issue. I begin this episode with talking about the importance of self-acknowledgment... Are you able to dish out all the praise in the world but when it comes to receiving it you become uncomfortable? Often, we don't fully take in praise or acknowledgment or we don't want to feel like we are bragging. Yet, that praise and acknowledgment are what we really want to hear most. So, why is praise from others so hard to accept? It all comes back to our relationship with ourselves and our ability to see what is truly amazing and true about who we are. It also requires a vulnerability to be seen and give ourselves permission to take in the acknowledgment on the energy of self-love and not ego. Receiving praise and love is not indulgent or inflammatory to our ego, it is a gift. If we need it to feel validated or worthy, it reveals that self-acceptance and self-acknowledgement work is in order. I have a feeling that those of you listening could work on flexing your receiving muscle a little more and give yourselves some praise and acknowledgment. Balancing and receiving from a place of love is important. Healing is an application of love to the places inside that hurt. It's more than positive affirmations and re-framing our beliefs, we must first go to those "ouchy" parts and fill them up with love. Our higher self is always working to get our attention by creating frustration and discomfort. That is why when we spend a lot of energy suppressing our emotions it wears us out. To liberate ourselves emotionally we need to apply love to the places inside that hurt. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are doing the work and possessing awareness but things aren't shifting? Is it difficult to speak your truth? Does the phrase "It's better to be seen, not heard" strike a chord with you? Do you feel stuck in an aspect of your life? Do you beat yourself up over it? Is self-worth or self-doubt something you are currently struggling with in your own life? Jenny's Question: Jenny would like help with understanding what is holding her back and how to overcome her fear of success. She wants to get unstuck. Jenny's Key Insights and Aha's: It's mandatory for her to go through these patterns as training for her coaching life. Her upbringing has affected her ability to find her own voice. It's her job to make herself feel worthy. It feels awesome to be heard free of judgment. How to get over it and on with it: She should move into accepting this is where she needs to be. She needs to change what she believes about herself. She should work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover. She can give herself permission to explore the emotions she has locked up inside. Find a therapist who can work with her on an emotional level. Assignments and Takeaways: Emotionally liberate yourself and apply love to the places inside that hurt. Change your story! Ask for praise and acknowledgment and then take it in. Implement a 40-day practice to create consistency in the area you want it most. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:30:29 7/13/2016
John Howard is a relationship therapist with over 10 years of experience helping people have awesome relationships. He is the Founder and CEO of Ready Set Love!, an online platform that helps partners learn and grow together. John has trained with some of the top minds in relationship research and therapy such as Drs Stan Tatkin and Dan Siegel. He teaches both public and professional audiences nationally, and helps individuals and couples in his private practice in Austin, Texas. I don't know if you do show notes on your website, but feel free to post the goodies page on social or on your blog if you want: http://readysetlove.com/hassler/
00:21:28 7/9/2016
Let's talk about finding the "one". You know the magical person who is your soulmate, your other half, the one who completes you. I say these things with a tinge of sarcasm but I don't inject the sarcasm because I am jaded or don't believe in love, it's there because of the misunderstandings regarding soulmates and the pain many of us go through when it comes to romantic relationships. I believe there are lots of "ones" out there for us. My definition of a soulmate is someone who helps our soul to grow. Sometimes it's through a gut-wrenching break-up, sometimes it's through dating someone who triggers us and sometimes it's through someone who just comes in, loves us and holds up a beautiful mirror to remind us of who we truly are. Soulmates can be romantic partners, friends, colleagues and even someone you share a plane ride with once and never see again. So, why are many romantic relationships so painful? 1. The relationships are mirrors which can trigger unresolved issues from our childhood. 2. We often look to a romantic partner to fill our needs that our parents did not meet. This doesn't attract the best people to us. 3. We may want a relationship so badly to fill our voids or make us feel less alone that we move into a fantasy-based relationship. Today's call with Michael is a beautiful example of masculine vulnerability and strength. He finds himself dating from a place of pain rather than from love. He wants to move past the feeling that he needs to prove himself to women. Michael's mother wasn't really there for him and so he ends up with women who don't treat him well and who are not really there for him. This is the problem with trying to fill a void left by a parent through dating. We long so badly for the love of a parent that we attract someone just like them, which re-opens our unhealed wounds. We have to bring love and forgiveness to those places inside and fill ourselves with our own loving acceptance. It's time to let go of our fears about rejection, abandonment and getting hurt. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you longing for a soulmate so much that it is causing you to suffer? Do you keep dating the same person but they have a different face? Could issues from your childhood influence who and how you are dating? Are you in a fantasy based relationship? Could it be time to remove your rose-colored glasses? Michael's Question: Michael wants to know how to move past the pain of a previous relationship and how to know when the person he is dating is the right one. Michael's Key Insights and Aha's: He is trying to heal a core wound from his childhood through a romantic relationship He is putting a lot of pressure on the women he dates He realizes he keeps running back to fix past relationships He carries fear and his unanswered questions around with him He feels unworthy and feels he needs to prove himself to women His strength is in his vulnerability, his honesty and his courage How to get over it and on with it: He should forgive the misunderstanding that he is unlovable or anything in his past was his fault He needs to re-parent his younger self in a way he always longed for He needs to take a dating hiatus Assignments and Takeaways: Is there a little boy or girl inside of you that has some misunderstandings which really need to be healed? Could it be time to end or transform your fantasy-based or issue-based relationship? Perhaps it's time for a dating hiatus and taking some time to date yourself. Fall back in love with yourself and realize just how lovable you are. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:34:44 7/6/2016
Life coach. Author. Wife. Mom of 5 and 7 year old. Roller Derby Rebel. Hellraiser. Triathlete. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are by letting go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing to practice courage instead. She has helped thousands manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life. She is the proud author of 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media). Learn more about Andrea at http://yourkickasslife.com
00:24:52 7/2/2016
We all go through different phases in life such as graduating, finding our first job, a mid-life crisis, marriage, having a child, starting a company, retiring, etc. There are also different seasons in life to go through which come more frequently than phases. Like the times when we are busy at work, slowed down because of an illness, distracted by a relationship or just going through internal growth; and things that require us to change our pace or priorities. Consider this, life of an athlete, metaphor shared with me by my friend Lewis Howes. You are not always in the play-offs. In fact, you would burn out if you were. There is a training season, game season, the play-offs and then of course, offseason. To play at their best, players respect the season they are in. It's important that we respect the seasons we are in to be our best in life. As I have said before, we often wear our busyness like a badge of honor. Somehow we have made doing, doing, doing greater than being, being, being. We are constantly going for things as a distraction. When we are consistently going for the next big thing we don't have to feel the little things (that are really big things) we sweep under the rug because we just don't want to deal with them. AND, we are addicted to control. We are great at putting time and energy into the results we want. The more effort we put into getting what we want the more we feel entitled to get the results. When we get what we go after, we win. It brings a sense of security and accomplishment. We feel safe and on track and we want more. But why do we want more? Because it gives us the feeling of control and we love control because the unknown is downright scary. The truth is we really don't have control over our lives. And nothing illuminates that truth more brightly than an expectation hangover. Today's caller, Lisa, relates to being a doer and an overachiever. She wants to know what her next big thing is. Even though she may not have given herself time to experience some recent transitions and expectation hangovers in her life. As our souls grow, our higher self and our inner wisdom know exactly when the right time is to process something. Sometimes we are not ready to deal with something. Sometimes we don't remember something until later. But when it does start to come up, it is so, so crucial that we respect it and be with it. Coach's Tip - Coaches may notice my style is a bit different in this call. I could sense Lisa is a highly, intelligent woman who likes to figure things out. And, because I knew figuring things out was of value to her, I wanted her to have the experience of figuring things out but in a different way. It was important she connected to her own inner wisdom about what she really needed. It was simply my job to hold the space for her and to ask her questions. Remember, realizations people come to on their own are profound. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you going through a transition and trying to "figure out" your next steps? Do you respect the seasons of your life or are you consistently putting yourself in the play-offs? Have you ever been called or referred to yourself as a control freak? Do you relate to being more of a doer than a feeler? Lisa's Question: Several major changes in Lisa's life have her confused about where to go and what to do next. Lisa's Key Insights and Aha's: She identifies with being an overachiever She may be avoiding things she doesn't want to deal with by keeping herself busy It's uncomfortable for her to feel in a child's role and not in control She is looking for validation She knows she needs to give her heart more space and honor her feelings How to get over it and on with it: She should create a space so her higher self can come forward and feel She should parent herself to help her to deal with her many losses She should let her heart break wide open and start feeling Allow her mind to be a servant to her heart She should have deep gratitude for where she is right now Assignments and Takeaways: Make sure you make time for yourself. The better parent you are to yourself the better parent you will be to your children. Be attuned to the triggers or memories your children may cause in you. Children are our spiritual teachers. Ask yourself if there is some healing you need to do. Don't be scared of letting your heart break wide open. Remember that underneath anger or hurt is love. Let your mind be a servant of your heart. Don't let your mind be your master. A meditation practice of just 5 minutes a day will help you attune to your own inner wisdom and heart. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:29:39 6/29/2016
Arianna Huffington is the cofounder, president, and editor in chief of the Huffington Post Media Group, and the author of fifteen books. In May 2005, she launched The Huffington Post, a news and blog site that quickly became one of the most widely-read, linked to, and frequently- cited media brands on the Internet. In 2012, the site won a Pulitzer Prize for national reporting. She has been named to Time magazine's list of the world's 100 most influential people and the Forbes Most Powerful Women list. Originally from Greece, she moved to England when she was 16 and graduated from Cambridge University with an M.A. in economics. At 21, she became president of the famed debating society, the Cambridge Union. She serves on numerous boards, including The Center for Public Integrity and The Committee to Protect Journalists. Her book, Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder, debuted at #1 on the New York Times bestseller list.
00:22:46 6/25/2016
Insecurity can be painful and it blinds us from seeing who we truly are. We are not born insecure, we become that way. It's a feeling we have based on the beliefs we accumulate when people are critical of us or we feel judged in some way. The problem is, we live in a world where most people are pretty hard on themselves and it leaks into people being hard on other people. People who have snapped at you or criticized you aren't bad people, they are probably just very critical of themselves. The bottom line is when we are able to clean out our insides we act differently on the outside. Confidence doesn't necessarily come from doing things, it's more about coming into self-acceptance by dropping our internal critical voice and truly liking ourselves just as we are right now. You don't have to be perfect before you can accept yourself and you cannot make your self-love conditional. You are the one person you need unconditional love from. Today's caller Lily is taking a huge step toward building her confidence. Her father has been critical of her and his critical voice became her internal critical voice. She paired his criticism up with his love and now she thinks the way to get love is to criticize herself. Often, the things we think are protecting us are the things that cause us the most suffering. So much about building confidence is about what you stop doing rather than what you start doing. Take a learning-oriented approach to life. Look at what you are attracting without self-blame or thinking you did something wrong. Things are not your fault. They are there to help you stop the voice of judgment and your internal critic. Coach's Tip - Getting over self-criticism is liberating. It is a very important part of being a coach, a light worker or just a loving human being. When we are confident about who we are and we are showing up with our hearts open in full authenticity and when the voice of the inner critic is silenced by our unconditional love, our hearts become open to others and we show up as a more confident and more loving person. The more you accept yourself from where you are right now, the more you can approach growth and change and evolution from a place of love rather than from a place of judgment. Remember, whatever we can do for another we can do for ourselves. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is your confidence level affected by the level of criticism you apply to yourself? Are you looking for something outside of yourself to make you feel confident rather than cleaning up your internal self-talk? Do you desire to be more confident? How often do you doubt yourself? Would you like to be free of the doubt? Are you someone who answers "fine" (aka feelings inside not expressed) when asked how you are? Was there or is there someone in your life who is critical of you? Lily's Question: Lily is having a hard time believing in herself and finding her own value. Lily's Key Insights and Aha's: She hides how she is truly feeling with "fine" She feels shut down when she opens up and shows her vulnerability She may be uncomfortable with her own vulnerability Being criticized by her father may be affecting her confidence She must seek change from the inside, from herself How to get over it and on with it: She should shift from victim to student She can try to re-parent herself with the voice of an unconditionally loving parent Forgive her father She should speak to herself with love and compassion She can use the voice memo app to record her expressing positive self-talk Assignments and Takeaways: Is there a critical voice in your head? Whose voice is it and is it time to give it back? Write a letter to the voice and thank it for the lessons and then, respectfully, decline to listen to it any longer. Is there someone out there you felt hurt by or triggered by? It is a projection and what can you learn from it? What are you really good at giving others that you are not giving yourself? Listen to the Coaches Corner Mastering Your Mean Girl or Bad Boy episode. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Mastering Your Mean Girl or Bad Boy Episode with Melissa Ambrosini
00:34:20 6/22/2016
CHRISTINE ARYLO IS A TRANSFORMATIONAL TEACHER and internationally recognized speaker and author. After earning her MBA from Kellogg and climbing the corporate ladder for fifteen years marketing big brands like The Gap and Frito-Lay, she chose to devote her life to creating a new reality for women and girls, one based on true feminine power, freedom and self-love instead of the relentless pursuit and unsustainable pressure of having to do, be and have it all. SHE IS THE AUTHOR OF TWO BEST-SELLING BOOKS, Choosing ME before WE and Madly in Love With Me, The Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend and the founder of the international day of self-love, February 13th. A self-admitted recovering achievement junkie, doing addict, and super woman, Arylo co-founded the virtual school for women, Inner Mean Girl Reform School, which has helped over 23,000 women on 6 continents transform their inner critics and learn how to tune into their divine feminine Inner Wisdom. Do You Love Yourself? Take the Self Love Pulse Check and see where you are weak & strong in self love. Click here to take the quiz.
00:19:52 6/18/2016
This episode is about liberating yourself from any kind of shame and the secrets and judgments that go along with it. When we feel ashamed of something we keep it in the dark and that is why shame is so toxic because it leads to keeping things hidden, keeping things where they are tainted by judgment. Shame often stands as the guard at the gate to vulnerability. The incredible, painful feeling of shame is based on the misunderstanding of a perceived flaw that we believe must stay hidden. The way to get through shame is by stepping into vulnerability and revealing what we are terrified of being found out for. We all want to know that we are loved even if we have these dark, scary, shameful feelings and thoughts. Today's caller Sara is taking a huge step toward vulnerability. Sara displays remarkable courage by sharing her secret so openly. I sense a lot of you will relate to having secrets or things you are ashamed of or like Sara, an STD that you feel taints you in some way. To heal shame, we not only have to do our inner work but we must also have the courage to bring what we judge as dark or tainted into the light to talk about it. We don't have to shout out what we are ashamed of from the rooftops, but it's important that we do not live with secrets. Being raw and real in front of others is an important part of healing any expectation hangover. We cannot talk ourselves out of trauma and shame. We have to feel our way through it. We have to go back to those inner places that got hurt, with compassion and the willingness to feel the feelings we never really got to feel. It's an important part of the healing process. We can't get #overitandonwithit by just thinking about it. We have to go back and treat the wound. The more you heal core wounds, bring shame into the light, forgive and reframe how you see yourself, the more you will shift in how you are seen. The universe brings things into our awareness to help us heal not to punish us. If we can reframe how we look at them even the terrible things can be blessings. Listen in and be part of the conversation that breaks down shame. And, I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you carrying around a secret? Do you have an STD, an illness or situation that negatively impacts your dating life? If you are experiencing shame, are you ready and willing to be vulnerable? Are you harboring anger or resentment against anyone or anything which is preventing you from feeling the liberation and love that is your essence? Sara's Question: Sara is having difficulty finding her self-worth in relationships when they begin to get intimate. Sara's Key Insights and Aha's: The more judgment she places on herself will lead to judgment from others She tries to overcompensate in other areas of her life Her masculine and feminine energies may be out of balance She is bringing her shame into the light by sharing She attracts the kind of love she reveals She can be compassionate with herself and love herself unconditionally How to get over it and on with it: Realize she is not damaged goods and she is not tainted She should do some forgiveness work around her mistrust Be mindful of the story she tells herself about having an STD She can go back to her 24-year-old self and provide her solace If she heals herself on the spiritual level it can help her on the physical level Have a 'cut the cord' ceremony to release her anger towards the other person Reminders and Takeaways: Vulnerability - What secrets do you have that you have kept in the dark that need to be brought into the light? If you do have herpes or a different STD, find people to talk to about it so you don't feel alone. Do emotional work for yourself. Write a letter to your younger self who dealt with the things which make you feel shameful. If you are carrying around a secret and have no one to talk to about it, find a professional or a support group to talk to. Don't keep it inside. Look at where you are compensating because of something you judge about yourself. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:32:43 6/15/2016
Farnoosh Torabi is America's leading personal finance authority hooked on helping Americans live their richest, happiest lives. From her early days reporting for Money to now hosting a primetime series on CNBC and writing monthly for O, The Oprah Magazine, she's become our favorite go-to money expert and friend. Farnoosh is a sought-after speaker and bestselling author. Her latest book is entitled When She Makes More: The Truth About Love and Life for a New Generation of Women. She also contributes to The NBC Today Show and hosts her own award-winning podcast So Money, recently named a "Top Podcast to Grow Your Business" by Inc Magazine - which I was honored to be a recent guest on. You can check out our episode #424 here: http://podcast.farnoosh.tv/2016/05/christine-hassler/ Farnoosh previously hosted the Webby-nominated web series, Financially Fit, on Yahoo. She's also served as a money coach on such shows as Remake America on Yahoo!, Bank of Mom & Dad on soapNet and TLC's REAL SIMPLE. REAL LIFE. Her work and advice has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Fortune, Forbes, Time, Marie Claire, Glamour, Redbook and USA Today. She's appeared on all major news and talk shows, including CNN, MSNBC, Good Morning America, The View and Live! With Kelly and Michael. Farnoosh graduated from Penn State University with a degree in Finance and International Business. She also holds a Master's from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. She resides happily in Brooklyn with her husband and young son.
00:24:28 6/11/2016
Today's coaching session is with Kelsey, who is on the precipice of the next stage of her career. The subject of our session has to do with generating money in your career, specifically doing work that feels purposeful. It's also about building momentum and stepping fully into the things which matter most in your life so that 1) You can create results and 2) You are more fulfilled. Towards the end our conversation you can hear a shift in Kelsey's voice and energy. You can hear what happens when she shifts fully into her own. This is what happens when we step fully into owning our gifts and experiences. It is highly important to get fully in alignment with who you are and what you are here to do but be aware of competing intentions. If a small percentage of you believes something is not possible, it will be more challenging to make it possible. Know at what stage you are in your career. In the beginning when we are just starting something, it's normal to have side jobs and then moonlight doing what we love. The wonderful thing that happens with experience is that different skills are honed. We start to become more confident in what we do. We embody it even more and we trust that the universe will lead us exactly where we are supposed to go. We spend much more time worrying about things than we do being strategic and focused towards what we want. Be aware of unconscious collective beliefs like "I can't make money doing what I love", "What I love isn't a real job", and the like. You need to get rid of those beliefs because even if they seem minimal and if they are there, some part of you believes them. And, if making money doing what you love is a priority for you, I highly encourage you to apply for my Secret Sauce Business Training Program. The program teaches heart-centered entrepreneurs how to build a business which makes money doing what you love by stepping into your unique gifts, talents and experiences. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. And, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there something you really feel called to do but you just can't seem to make money at it? Do you truly have faith and believe 100% that you can be financially prosperous doing work you love? What is your relationship with money like? If you were to grade your wealth consciousness, how would you evaluate it? Kelsey's Question: Kelsey has a heavy heart because even though she is currently living her passion, she must struggle to pay her bills every month. Kelsey's Key Insights and Aha's: She was never taught to manage money She doesn't trust 100% that she is working towards her calling She can feel that she holds herself back with limiting beliefs She has access to resources she doesn't use How to get over it and on with it: Knowing she can be prosperous and financially abundant doing what she loves She should look at her belief system with regards to money She should understand her self-worth and shift into alignment with what she is creating She should get into full vibrational alignment with generating her income by doing what she loves to do Connect with people who are prosperous doing what she wants to do She needs some inner work and outer work to change her story Reminders and Takeaways: Be aware of your competing intentions. Write out all your beliefs about what you want to create in your life to see if your beliefs are contradicting each other. What stage of your career are you in? Is it time to move to the next level? Consider what is your wealth consciousness like? Put together a plan for making something your full-time job. Own it! Embody it! You will start manifesting much sooner if you do. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind
00:33:53 6/8/2016
The number one reason social anxiety is so painful is because it reinforces the illusion of separation. We are all connected, we are all one but we live in a world which makes this so hard to remember. The illusion of separation starts when we are young and we get teased or separated based on our grades, behavior or gender. It continues through our lives and makes us feel not part of something. Understanding that you are not alone, you are not separate and you are no less than anyone else is imperative to your emotional well-being and health. But, it's not always easy. Some of us have painful experiences from our past that make social situations and making friends harder. Not everyone is an extrovert and for some people walking into a place where they don't know anyone is like hell on earth. Remember, all people need friends and a soul family. Accept that about yourself and don't use being introverted as an excuse not to go out and connect. The more you stop worrying about what others think and just show up authentically, the easier it will be to connect and the more your social anxiety will dissolve. People are people, not big scary monsters. The next time you go to an event, have some questions in mind you can ask people beyond "How are you doing?" or "What do you do?" In today's coaching session with Jenna, we explore why she is feeling social anxiety and isn't able to maintain long-lasting friendships. And, I share why I was guided to coach her in a way that would shake her up a bit. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. Also, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali, which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you suffer from social anxiety? Do you dread just thinking about going to an event or initiating a conversation? ? Is making friends challenging? ? Do you want more friends? ? Are you frustrated because you want to change something but just can't seem to change it? ? Would you like to feel more connected in your life? Are you honest with yourself about why you keep yourself separate? Jenna's Question: Jenna is frustrated over her inability to get over her social anxiety and is looking for guidance on how she can move past it. Jenna's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She may be triggered by feelings of rejection from her mother ? She believes there is something wrong with her ? She realizes that people aren't thinking about her as much as she thinks they are ? She has all the ingredients she needs to be a friend and to connect How to get over it and on with it: ? She has to stop making things about her ? She should practice being invested and connected to other people ? She should write down the reasons why she is a great friend and read it every day ? She can be honest and simply ask for a friendship ? She should tell herself a different story Reminders and Suggestions: ? People are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. ? Remember people are people. They are not big scary monsters. ? Focus on what you can give. Think about all the amazing things you can bring to a friendship. ? A connection to your higher power is critical. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind
00:30:11 6/1/2016
Kathryn talks to us about being yourself despite anyone else's expectations or your own fears. She is an internationally celebrated yoga teacher and author known for her accessibility, humor, and ability to empower her students through her message, "aim true." She is a warrior for self-acceptance, honesty, and helping her students and readers find true balance. The Kansas native graduated from the University of Virginia with a double degree in English and Drama before moving to Los Angeles, where she trained under the tutelage of Maty Ezraty and Chuck Miller. With over a decade of experience in her field, she is the yoga contributor to Women's Health magazine, writes weekly for Yoga Journal, and serves on the Yahoo! Health advisory board as well as contributing regular recipes. She's a sponsored athlete in Under Armour's "I WILL WHAT I WANT" campaign, an ambassador for Ford's "Warriors in Pink," and the founder of her animal project, Poses for Paws. She is the creator of the Aim True Yoga DVD produced by Gaiam, author of The Women's Health Big Book of Yoga, and recently released her second book, Aim True, on March 29th through William Morrow; an imprint of Harper Collins. Get her book and connect: http://kathrynbudig.com/ Practice yoga with Kathryn here: https://www.yogaglo.com/teacher/kathryn-budig
00:19:47 5/28/2016
Most of you can relate to feeling a bit nervous or awkward at times. Maybe it's around someone you are crushing on, when you have to speak in front of your boss or even when you are attempting to be cool with your teenage kids. Feeling self-conscious is the worst. And not just because of the knots in your stomach, the sweating, the saying of the things we judge as totally lame right after they come out of our mouth. What is worse is that we are not showing up as fully ourselves. Whenever we are openly attached to hoping someone else likes us or accepts us, we often do the exact opposite of what we need to do in that moment. We judge ourselves rather than accept ourselves. Then we show up in ways that are not authentic to who we are and that is awkward and uncomfortable. Attachment is thinking we need to be a certain way to get what we want from another person. We put on masks, we judge ourselves and we edit everything that comes out of our mouth. The higher the emotional stakes are the more suppressed we can become. In today's coaching session with Kristen, we explore why she is not fully herself in romantic relationships. Self-consciousness is not just painful to feel, it also doesn't bring us the connections we long for. First, it's all about what you are telling yourself inside your head. Second, you start future tripping which detaches you from your intuition. Finally, being attached to the outcome, you are trying to adapt to who you think you need to be rather than just being you. The cure for self-consciousness is radical self-acceptance. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali, which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and uplevel their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? What situations do you feel self-conscious in? ? What do you really want when interacting with others? Validation, to be liked? ? Is there a parent or someone else you may be expecting to get nachos from when they are really a Chinese restaurant? ? Are you truly showing up in a way for others that you expect others to show up for you? Kristen's Question: Kristen would like to know why she finds it hard to be herself around a guy she is attracted to. Kristen's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She is still angry over her father's aloofness ? A father is the first male relationship a girl has ? She may be looking for acceptance and validation when dating ? Anger and judgment do not help any situation ? She should establish intimacy and trust with her dad How to get over it and on with it: ? She's free to be whomever she wants to be ? She should share her needs with her father ? She needs to accept people as they are if she wants to be accepted for who she is ? She is responsible for her own needs right now Tools and Takeaways: ? Look at where your self-consciousness comes from and practice being in the present moment. ? Unresolved issues with parents can be better understood in episode #16, Why Our Parents Trigger Us So Much. ? Practice being your most authentic, quirky, nerdy self! Whoever you are, let people see you! And, see yourself through the eyes of love. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind
00:33:37 5/25/2016
Listen up as Charlie teaches us the importance of PLAY and connection. Charlie is the author of Play It Away: A Workaholic's Cure for Anxiety, which was called 'The cure to your stress!' by Tony Robbins. Charlie has advised leaders on the topic of mental wellness at the Pentagon, U.S. Military, and Tesla. His blog is the #1 Google result for the search "cure anxiety." He has helped dozens of authors promote their books -- including Tim Ferriss, Ramit Sethi, and Tucker Max. http://charliehoehn.com/
00:16:35 5/21/2016
There are endless distractions in our lives. Just one glimpse of Facebook or Snapchat and the next thing you know it's an hour later and you've gone down a rabbit hole. Practicing self-care is not as enticing as our phone, the TV or a glass of wine but the payoff is far, far greater. But why is self-care so hard sometimes? How come we know we "should" do things like mediation, journaling, exercise, etc but we don't actually do them (or stick to doing them)? Because self-care can feel like punishment if we don't have enough fun and play in our lives. Self-care activities are all solo activities, so instead of us feeling replenished after we do these self-supporting things we may feel isolated. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and as humans, we need 3 types of connections. The first connection humans need is to our higher power (insert your terminology here). The second is to ourselves and the third is to others. If you are not connecting, playing and doing the things that feed your soul then you are going to want to rebel in some way. If we don't get play in a healthy way then we indulge and procrastinate, all the things which move us away from our self-care practices. If you know what to do in terms of self-care but you are just not doing it, then you will relate to today's caller Helen. Helen is wondering why she's not doing the things that are good for her. She goes through spurts but then she gets busy and goes back to old coping mechanisms. We are able to change our state at any time but it takes focus, some intention and a willingness to get into a different mindset and heart set. When we start making decisions with our intuition and not with our head, we can consider our options and then "feel" into them to help decide which is the most fun! If it has been a while since you've played and you feel a refresher course is needed listen to this week's Coaches Corner as I speak to my friend Charlie. Charlie specializes in teaching us how to love and how to play. Also, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and up level their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you feeling stuck or blocked with regards to your self-care? Do you know you "should" but don't seem to do it? ? Do you have a community of like-minded people you are connected to? Are you getting your soul fed? ? Do you make decisions with your head or your heart? ? Do you know how to play in a way which takes your mind off of everything else? When was the last time you actually played? Helen's Question: Helen wants to know why she can't seem to do the things she knows are good for her. Helen's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She doesn't feed her soul enough ? She is experiencing an Expectation Hangover about her new endeavors ? She needs some connection and play How to get over it and on with it: ? She should make decisions with her intuition and not her head ? She should then follow through with the decision her heart makes ? She needs to feed her soul and add more play in her life Tools and Takeaways: ? Listen to the How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself podcast again. ? Be diligent about connecting with your spiritual, like-minded tribe. And, remember to drop your guard so that you can be truly seen. ? When it comes to decision making, go with what FEELS like it will provide you the most soul food. Make a decision with your heart and then go with it. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind
00:27:40 5/18/2016
This is a special edition of coaches corner where I feature JILL who you've heard me mention a lot on the show. Jill has worked with me for six years and is someone who has so much MOJO. Learn how she keeps her optimistic attitude, upgraded people pleasing tendencies, and keeps moving forward even when she gets "no's." I'm so happy to share her with you - listen in for lots of inspiration!!
00:15:53 5/14/2016
We live in a world which is far too dependent on external stimuli. We want something outside of us to come along and make us feel a certain way or to create certain results in our lives. We celebrate outcome far more than process. And, while external results are great, the key is to increase our joy and our passion is through the process. Stop waiting for something to happen to start living your heartfelt desires. No one else is going to come along and grant all your wishes. If you are a musician, sing or play your instrument every day. If you are an artist, draw or paint every day. If you are a writer, write every day. If you are a coach, find someone to connect with and serve every day. Whatever that thing is you want to be, do it now. It doesn't matter if the form isn't exactly as big or in the exact package that you want, you can express the joy every day or at least every week. The same goes for waiting for someone else. You cannot wait for a person to come along to make you feel a certain way. If you are single and are longing for a romantic partner to feel love and connection, you need to generate those feelings inside yourself. Have an open and full heart instead of being down in the dumps and thinking something is missing. Remember that we are the source of everything in our life. We do not have 100% control over external events but we do have a choice over how we want to feel. You are the source. In today's call with Melissa, we dive into how she can get her mojo back and how she can get and stay motivated by doing or creating something every day to help her connect with the joy of the process. Thank you all so much for listening to this podcast and as my way of saying thank you, I'm gifting you my eBook titled 32 Days to Uplevel Your Mind and Uplift Your Heart. Click on the link to download it for free. Also, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and up level their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you struggling with your mojo or having a hard time getting motivated? ? Are you waiting for some external thing or person to grant your wishes or make you feel a certain way? ? Are you more attached to results and not enjoying the process of your life? ? Is there someone you feel obligated to please by having amazing answers to their questions about your dreams, career or love life? Melissa's Question: Melissa wants to get her mojo and confidence back regarding her acting career. Melissa's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She may be experiencing adultolescence ? She's looking for something external to re-ignite her mojo ? She can make her vision clearer ? She teaches people how to treat her by her responses to their questions ? Honoring herself will help get her mojo back How to get over it and on with it: ? She can direct her life more instead of waiting for things to happen to her ? She needs to generate inspiration from inside herself ? She can try to create opportunities to connect with other people ? She can start creating her own content and do it every day ? She should honor her choices and stand by them Tools and Takeaways: ? Write down or act out the times in your life when you had mojo and use it as a reference point to connect back to the feeling. ? Act the part and create the feelings you want to feel every day. ? Practice responding in a different way to those people who make you feel pressure. Be congruent in your own self-acceptance. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler 32 Days to Uplevel Your Mind and Uplift Your Heart - Free Ebook for Podcast Listeners @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind
00:35:10 5/11/2016
Our guest coach is Kute Blackson who talks about how we find our ultimate soulmate and the true purpose of relationship. Kute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people "get" what they want, Kute's life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. At 8 years old, Kute began speaking in front of thousands of people at his father's churches. At 14 years of age, he was ordained as a minister, given the mandate to take over a spiritual organization spanning 300 churches. At age 18, through a series of spiritual awakenings, he left everything behind. His entire life has been dedicated to understanding who we are, what we're here for, what makes us truly happy and how we can achieve our highest potential. World renowned for creating revolutionary results and a world-shift in consciousness, Kute is widely known as a transformational facilitator, speaker, and leader. Today, the venue for his message may be one-on-one, a vast stadium setting, experiential seminars, and transformational travel intensives all of over the world. And his uniquely inspiring cutting edge videos have reached millions of people worldwide. Kute works with clients from all walks of life, ranging from billionaires, celebrities, entrepreneurs, circus performers, politicians, mothers and children in over 20 countries, and for the past 14 years has been a trusted advisor and coach to CEO's and world leaders. Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality. Kute's debut book, "You.Are.The.One." will be released through Simon and Schuster in June 2016. Colored with experiences from his own incredible journey, "You.Are.The.One." will show readers how to unlock their true potential and live a life they love, through love. Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation.
00:20:49 5/7/2016
How are you at making a choice? Do you suffer from analysis by paralysis? Often, we are so obsessed with making the wrong choice we find ourselves paralyzed in the limbo of indecision, which can be hell. Even those big leaps of faith decisions which include a high degree of uncertainty need resolution. You cannot choose wrong, so I encourage you to JUST choose. The only way we get support from the universe is if we take a step and make a decision. You must be 100% all in to get its support. Today's caller Cecilia wants permission to make a decision. She has allowed logistics to block any action she is considering and she is overwhelmed with the "how's" and hasn't fully examined the "what if's". Remember, it's never too late to go for your dreams. My Why Going for Your Dreams Matters Most...No Matter What podcast addresses how to move past fear and doubt to hear your inner voice. Coaches take note - I wanted to get Cecilia out of her head and more into her feelings. I knew talking through her issue wasn't going to get her anywhere. So, I set up 2 situations, I painted a picture and laid out what the outcomes would be if she chose option A, and I did the same for option B. Then I allowed her intuition to choose the outcome. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and up-level their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a decision you are having a hard time making? Are you living in limbo land as you analyze the decision you have to make? Are you waiting for permission to do something you know in your heart you want to do? Do you collect evidence that supports your dreams or supports your fears? Cecilia's Question: Cecilia would like to know if her longing to be somewhere else, is the universe calling her to go there or if she has glamorized a moment in time. Cecilia's Key Insights and Aha's: She feels relieved when someone gives her permission She knows she runs away from things She's living in limbo land She's not resisting the push towards making a clear choice She doesn't have a lot to lose How to get over it and on with it: She should answer her what if's She should get aligned and behind one decision She should project 20 years in the future to see if she regrets her inaction Understand the universe will support her and the decision she makes Tools and Takeaways: Get 2 sheets of paper and write one choice on one of the sheets and one choice on the other sheet. Then step forward using your intuition onto both sheets of paper at different times to see how your body reacts. This provides incredible feedback. Give yourself permission to choose and permission to take a leap. Listen to my Coaches Corner on How to Get Over Feeling Lonely. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind
00:33:58 5/4/2016
In this episode Christine explains why people pleasing is unhealthy and waste of your precious time and energy. Learn how to stop the selfish, yes selfish!, pattern of people pleasing and be self honoring instead!!
00:03:50 4/30/2016
People pleasing will not get you the kind of love you long for. Why? Well, when you are putting other people's needs before your own, you are not being honest. You are not showing up authentically. People pleasing can range in severity from caring about what people think to being a doormat. In my view, no degree of people pleasing is a good thing and being a complete doormat is dangerous. Think of a doormat after being used over and over. This is what happens to your spirit and your spark if you allow people to walk all over you. Your light starts to dim. You start to fade and you start to wear down. The Importance of Connection When Going Through a Loss We are not meant to grieve alone. One of the most healthy aspects of grieving is having support. You may find it hard to ask for help but you are giving another person a gift when you are vulnerable with them. Do not suffer in silence and solitude. The things that help the most are often the hardest to do. During difficult times, we need to do the hard things to get to the healing place we long for. Today's caller Shaun called in for some guidance while going through his divorce. He may be putting himself last and has a habit of people pleasing which is making his divorce harder. Don't lose sight of yourself during a loss. I encourage you to be honest with yourself about your people pleasing patterns. Coaches take note - I try to stay as clear and neutral as I possibly can, but during some calls, like this one, I slip from empathy to sympathy. I found myself being protective of Shaun and judgmental of the situation. I then moved back to neutrality which allowed me to guide Shaun appropriately. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you going through a loss right now and feel disconnected? ? Do you relate to being a people pleaser or a doormat? ? Are you concerned about what people think of you and often put others' needs and opinions in front of your own? ? Is there someone in your life you need to draw some boundaries with? ? Do you have a solid support system of people or just one person you can turn to who will listen when you are going through something challenging? Shaun's Question: Shaun would like to know how to get un-stuck after being blindsided by a breakup from a 15-year marriage. He wants advice on how to move past the situation. Shaun's Key Insights and Aha's: ? He has a pattern of taking care of others at his own expense. ? He may be losing his identity. ? He doesn't have a social circle for support. ? He should reach out to new people and ask for help. How to get over it and on with it: ? He should step into his power and his strength and put himself first. ? He should meet new people and join new groups. ? He has the opportunity to gain healthy friendships. Tools and Takeaways: ? Be honest and look at the ways your people pleasing could be depleting you, blocking intimacy and potentially building resentment. ? Listen to this week's Coaches Corner for additional tips. ? Reach out to people, ask for support or just ask them to listen. ? Write down one thing which will help you the most but may be hard for you to do. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:35:18 4/27/2016
In this episode of Coaches Corner, psychotherapist and transformation coach Terri Cole teaches us: why suppressing emotions is bad for us, what "transference" is, and how to express our true emotions (even anger) to people in our personal and professional lives. Check out Terri's original podcast, Hello Freedom here: https://terricole.com/podcast/ And take her LOVE survey here: Http://bit.ly/1YiQHHH
00:20:22 4/23/2016
Do you exhibit a type of behavior or personality trait you don't necessarily love about yourself? It could be moodiness or it could be being extremely judgemental or it could be an emotional state you have a tendency to default to like sadness, worry, anger or fear. Women often have a difficult time dealing with anger because we have not been encouraged to express it. We may default to sadness which limits us from reaching our passion and our fire. We suppress our emotions and any big emotion we suppress will eventually leak. Anger becomes irritability, sadness becomes depression and shame comes out as insecurity. Suppressed emotions can also lead to physical ailments. It is not healthy to suppress our emotions. Today's caller Monica acknowledges her own moodiness and is wondering if it is something she can change or if it's a fixed personality trait. She suppresses her anger and doesn't speak her truth. If there is something about you that does not feel good to you, like moodiness, you can change it. You just need to uncover why it's there in the first place. Moodiness can be a messenger that you may be suppressing pent up anger and frustration. It is liberating to express your anger and be free of the moodiness. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there something about you that you would like to change? Is it an inherent part of your personality or do you believe you can change it? Are you willing to do the work to change it? ? Do you experience times when you are irritable or snap at someone? How do you express your anger? ? Do you feel self-expressed? Do you fully feel your feelings? Monica's Question: Monica recognizes she is a moody person and would like to know if she is able to shift out of it or if it is part of her personality. Monica's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her moodiness stems from suppressing her anger ? When she speaks her truth she feels shut down ? She has trouble expressing herself ? She doesn't like conflict ? She becomes the victim, as a coping strategy How to get over it and on with it: ? Realize her irritability and bluntness are actually inner anger leaking out ? She should do the Temper Tantrum technique and 32 days of the Release Writing technique, which are in her copy of Expectation Hangover ? She should step away from the conversation and get her anger out, on her own Tools and Takeaways: ? Identify the ways you may be leaking. Know where you are suppressing and how you may be expressing it in other ways. ? If you sense you may have anger you have yet to acknowledge, start Release Writing. ? Work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover, in particular, the Adult Temper Tantrum and Release Writing techniques. ? Speak your truth and process your raw feelings to eliminate suppression. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:35:54 4/20/2016
Dream University's CEO, Marcia Wieder is a long established thought leader on visionary thinking and as Founder of The Meaning Institute, she teaches people to create and live fulfilling lives. Listen in as she coaches you through the "CBA's" of going after your dreams and making them happen!
00:19:10 4/16/2016
We all, especially women, have struggled with body image, at least one time in our lives. The media and society at large do not make having a healthy body image easy. I want to highlight the fact that if we took all the mental energy people spend on thinking about, obsessing over and criticizing their bodies, and shifted it into thinking about how we could serve the world, change the world and solve big problems, imagine how different the world would be. If you are expending a lot of your own mental energy focusing on how you look rather than on how you feel and what you want to contribute, consider re-directing it. In my 20's I was never diagnosed with anorexia or bulimia but I definitely would say I had body image issues. I possibly had body dysmorphia, which is when your obsession with how you look and what you eat gets in the way of your happiness and your ability to connect. I don't think I saw myself accurately. I was working as a personal trainer and nutritionist, so I was super obsessed about what I ate and I possibly had exercise bulimia too. If I ate "bad", I would be driven to tears with guilt. This went on for a few years until some major things shifted. It finally subsided when I committed to the type of personal and spiritual growth work I teach on this show. I focused more on working out and body image than I did on really diving in and doing the work. I also dealt with feeling out of control in my life. I had left my job and I didn't know what I wanted to do in my life. I had a huge expectation hangover in terms of where I thought I "should be". I had so much uncertainty. That is when I started a meditation practice and that really helps me to feel more settled and more present. The out of control feeling comes from when our mind is just going and going and we are future tripping all the time. That led me to create a much stronger spiritual practice and relationship with God. I was so self-obsessed I felt very, very separate. I didn't have a strong spiritual connection to begin with but the more I leaned into it, the more I talked to God and read spiritual books, the more the connection deepened. I got a purpose which was bigger than me. I got clear on what I was truly hungry for. I was hungry to serve. I was hungry to learn. I was hungry for spiritual connection. When I started to feed myself with what I was truly hungry for, the obsession with food, diet, exercise and body began to melt away. Any disorder, addiction or illness is there to get our attention. It is an indicator that there are unresolved issues we are working hard to suppress. It's a red flag that we are craving something and we are trying to feed ourselves through whatever the addiction and disorders are. These disorders reinforce the pain of separation. When we do things that are dangerous, even hurtful to our well-being, it's a cry out for God, for remembrance, for the awareness that we are so loved, whole and complete exactly as we are. Today's caller, Anne, has been in and out of therapy for her eating disorder so I took a different approach with her. We worked on healing her bulimia with love. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. I E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you so obsessed with your body that it affects your emotional stability, everyday decisions or relationships? ? Have you gone through treatment for a disorder but just can't seem to be free of it? ? Are you aware of what you need to do to heal but cannot seem to integrate it? Anne's Question: Anne has been struggling with bulimia for over 12 years. She has informed herself about how to get better but can't seem to take the necessary steps to free herself from its grip. Anne's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her bulimia is a coping mechanism ? She felt insecure while growing up ? She is trying to get to self-acceptance by not accepting the bulimia ? She doesn't know how to get by without her bulimia ? She doesn't feel lovable How to get over it and on with it: ? Realize her bulimia has had a higher purpose in helping her to get love ? She may try to fully accept it and heal it with love ? Tell her bulimia it has a new job description ? She needs something to take the place of her disorder Tools and Takeaways: ? If you realize you have an eating disorder or body image issue, please reach out for support. ? Don't judge your issue, be honest towards it and heal it with love. ? Write a letter of gratitude and appreciation towards what you would like to release. ? Set up two chairs and talk to your disorder, asking it what it needs and how it serves you. ? Don't go into hopeless/helpless state, believing this disorder is yours to carry for the rest of your life. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:30:30 4/13/2016
Sometimes the experience of loneliness can feel so painful that connection seems almost impossible. If that feels true for you, here is a four-step process you can use to support yourself in relieving feeling lonely.
00:03:59 4/9/2016
There is a difference between being alone and feeling the pain of loneliness. We do not have to suffer from the pain of loneliness if we are enjoying a connected relationship with our self and a higher power. We are never really alone, and the illusion of the separation of God, higher power source or universe, is one of the core misunderstandings we are all here to overcome. If we tell ourselves things like "I'm alone, I hate being by myself, something must be wrong with me, I really need to be with other people", then, of course we feel the pain of loneliness. It's very human to want to be connected and to make sure we are getting our soul food by spending time with people we love. Feeling isolated or disconnected is incredibly hard. But sometimes it is the pain of loneliness that inspires us to do the work to nurture a better relationship with our self, or to create or deepen a spiritual connection. This is exactly what is on the soul agenda for today's caller, Christina. Her question initially is about the assumptions she's making that are sabotaging her relationship, but her core issue is fear of being alone. She has a track record of being in toxic relationships or relationships she truly doesn't want to be in just because it was better than being on her own. Remember you are never truly alone. You are always connected to infinite and unconditional love from God. I invite all of you to join me September 16-22 for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is your fear of being alone so considerable that you jump from relationship to relationship? ? Do you hesitate to do things alone? ? Are you terrified you will end up old and alone? ? Do you only feel safe when you are with another person? ? Are you longing for a deeper connection to yourself and a higher power so you do not have to experience the pain of loneliness or separation? Christina's Question: Christina feels she is sabotaging her relationship by assuming this partner will do the same things as her previous partner. Christina's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She panics when she thinks of being alone ? She is trying to learn how to be in a relationship with herself ? She grew up with a fear of losing the people she loved ? She settles in relationships to keep herself from being alone How to get over it and on with it: ? Redefine what being alone is ? Create a feeling of safety without having someone else there ? Have honest communication with her partner about taking a break ? Bring a spiritual practice into her life ? Apply her own calming tactics into her own life Tools and Takeaways: ? Understand your default pattern when you feel lonely. What can you tell yourself instead of going into your default pattern? ? Think of someone you speak highly of and then talk about yourself the same way. You deserve to be the recipient of loving, self-talk. ? Cultivate a spiritual practice. ? Make connections with soul friends and your soul family. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:27:52 4/7/2016
Wouldn't you love to bring in more of what you want in your life without working so hard at it? If the answer is yes, then I think you will really love the practice I have for you today that is one of the biggest secrets to my success. In this episode of coaches corner I share a practice that has led to the manifestation of few of the things that have been integral to the growth of my business.
00:03:57 4/2/2016
Our dreams come from our inner wisdom and our wants come from our ego. We all have things that happen in our lives, which create fear, uncertainty, doubt and self-limiting beliefs. Often, we try to ease the pain of those things by chasing after something. For example, if you are really hard on yourself, then you may spend a lot of time wanting someone else to love you. You have a high want for a romantic relationship or you have a parent who was really hard on you or only validated you for your accomplishments, and you may have grown up with the feeling of unworthiness and high want for money and success. Ego-based wants come from feeling 'less than', and then searching for something or someone to fill the void. These kinds of wants are not coming from an authentic place, because at the authentic self-level we know that absolutely nothing is missing. The want is coming from our ego. When we obtain our ego-based wants, they only give us a temporary sense of satisfaction. They do not cure the deep longing we feel for worthiness, belonging and love. How do we know something we are longing for is not an ego-based desire but a true dream we must pursue? It comes down to the feeling of longing, which we feel in our heart, not in our head. Our dreams are a psychic prediction of what is coming; we feel a deep longing to experience something because we know that on some level, it is our destiny. We can't always control the form and timing of it and that is where suffering can come in. It is imperative we pursue our dreams on the level of essence, not form; and we focus on the feelings we long to feel rather than try to make it happen or get attached to how we think it should happen. An example of this is, perhaps you feel a longing to make an impact on the world. You feel a deep desire in your heart, which is almost painful when you feel you are not doing it right now. Instead of trying to figure out what business to start to make a difference, focus instead on the feelings you want to feel and then begin to take aligned actions in that direction. Set the intention every day to be of service and ask to be used as an instrument of impact. Look for the simple ways to make an impact right now. When it comes to dreams, waiting is not a good idea. Take action now to move you in the direction of how you want to feel and what you want to experience. The biggest roadblock to going after dreams is fear. Nothing silences the voice of your inner wisdom more than doubt and fear. Honor your dreams and stop being so scared. Today's caller, Anya is scared and feels guilty about wanting to go after her dream because it was not her original plan. I invite all of you to join me in September 16-22 for my retreat in Bali will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the finest conversations with like-minded women. I will also be available for personal sessions. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you know what your dreams are? Are you terrified to go after them? ? Do you feel stuck because you do not know how to turn your dreams and longings into actual steps? ? Are you concerned that if you don't go after your dreams soon you will spend the rest of your life regretting it? Anya's Question: Anya has been feeling lost because she is passionate about acting but she is afraid to follow her dream. Anya's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She feels the pressure of the expectations others have of her ? She is embarrassed that her dream is different than her education ? She needs to take the first step How to get over it and on with it: ? She can give herself permission to stand for her dreams ? She should communicate her dream to others ? She needs to take the first step ? She should write a list of all the reasons acting is important to her Tools and Takeaways: ? Give yourself permission to pursue your dreams ? Write down a list of reasons why your dreams have value and are safe to explore ? Change or update your story to include what matters most to you ? Get fully behind your dreams with intention Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (Including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover 20 Something Manifesto @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram
00:32:32 3/30/2016
This Coach's Corner features inspirational catalyst John O'Leary. As a nine-year-old boy, John was burned on 100% of his body and expected to die. Today, he travels the world teaching others how to truly live. John empowers 50,000 people each year to LIVE INSPIRED at live events. He released his first book earlier this month and it is a bestseller on Amazon. After hearing him today in our coaches corner, you'll definitely want a copy so remember the title: ON FIRE: The 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically Inspired Life. John is a business owner, writer, husband and father of four. Expected to die. Now, teaching others how to truly live. John O'Leary, welcome to Over it and On with It!.
00:16:46 3/26/2016
Have you ever had something come back around like a romantic relationship, friendship, job or career path that you thought was over? Or perhaps you've gotten a second chance with a different situation or cast of characters. Like a new relationship after a divorce or a job after being laid off. Or even your health after getting to the other side of an illness. Second chances do happen for all of us and when they do, it is important that we apply the lessons we learned the first time around. Many of us are great about doing this because we are intentional about not wanting to repeat the same kind of what we'd call mistakes again. We approach second chances with gratitude and excitement. But second chances can also produce fear. What is fascinating (and rather sad) about us humans sometimes is that the closer what we truly wants gets, the more we attempt to push it away. Obviously this is not a conscious thing we do, the saboteur is very sneaky...yet powerful. And the reason we sabotage is because we have not fully healed the core issues and misunderstandings around love and worthiness. You'll listen to an example of this with today's caller Jenny who has gotten a second chance in regards to a romantic relationship. She would love to just feel grateful and excited, yet what she is experiencing is a roller coaster of emotions. The time is now for her to accept that she is truly worthy of love. She can open her heart, expose her vulnerability and bloom into her feminine aspect or she can go to her protected, solitary place. Being honest and vulnerable in her relationships will allow her to let someone special in without feeling fear. Coaching Tip from this call: Focus should be on learning and not on the outcome. Dropping our ego and adopting a learning oriented approach to life serves both client and coach, equally. I invite all of you to join me in September for an my retreat in magical Bali will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the finest conversations with like-minded women. I will also be available for personal sessions. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities on September 16-22. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you recently gotten a second chance at something and if so, how are you approaching it? ? Is there someone or something you would like a second chance with? ? Do you truly know you are deserving of love and/or success? ? Do you get anxious about a relationship, and experience a roller coaster of emotions? ? Ladies, do you live in your in your masculine energy a lot? Gentlemen, do you have trouble connecting to a woman who experiences a roller coaster of emotions? Jenny's Question: Jenny wants to know why she reacted like she did when a nice guy wanted to be her boyfriend and what tools she can use to stay in the present and to drop the anxiety. Jenny's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She doesn't feel worthy of love ? She is being vulnerable and it feels uncomfortable ? She may feel like a fraud when accepting love ? She can feel safe receiving love How to get over it and on with it: ? Focus on the shared visions and values ? Recognize self-worth ? Talk to anxiety in a feminine, loving way ? Shift awareness and let love in Tools and Takeaways: ? Stay in the present and be grateful for all you have ? Think of the ways you can be more vulnerable ? Practice saying "Thank You" ? Check out Men Exposed, Alison Armstrong and David Deita Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (Including my favorites, Alpha Brain and MCT Oil) Resources: Christine Hassler Men Exposed Allison Armstrong The Queen's Code David Dieta @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com
00:37:02 3/23/2016
Are you too nice? That may seem like a strange question because most of us would think that being nice is a wonderful way to be. But sometimes we are too nice. Don't get me wrong, I am all for love, kindness and generosity. Yet I've noticed that although niceness is very p.c., it isn't always authentic. In today's coaches corner I discuss the danger of killing yourself with inauthentic kindness!
00:03:24 3/19/2016
Why does our list of requirements for a lover, looks a lot like a job application? There are considerations for height, weight, and experience. Did we meet the person based on a reference from someone else? Do they fit into our mold of the "right one"? When we focus or obsess more on how the relationship is progressing than the quality of the experience, we miss out on why we are supposed to be in the relationship in the first place. What we are questioning is not actually a real dispute. We are creating doubts in order to use them as distractions so we do not have to address the real issue, which may be something from our past we need to let go of. Today's caller, Jennifer, wants to find a reason she should not be dating her younger boyfriend. She says he is supportive and loyal, which are both things she believes she wants from a relationship, but she can't seem to make herself trust that his feelings are real. As we drill down to the actual issue, Jennifer realizes she may be the one who is holding the relationship back and that it has nothing to do with age. A special note to the coaches who are listening - if I had formed an opinion about the age gap in Jennifer's relationship, we may have never gotten to the root issue, which is a core wound that needs healing. Coaches should be present and without judgment when working with clients. I invite all of you to join me in September for my retreat in Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the finest conversations with like-minded women. I will also be available for personal sessions. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities on September 16-22 and if you can't make it to Bali, you can get information for my upcoming "LA weekend" retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you been dating someone and would like to know if they are the right fit? Is there something external about your partner that bothers you? Is there a question unrelated to dating which is distracting you by keeping your mind busy? Do you desire a love but as it gets closer you find yourself wanting to run away? Jennifer's Question: Jennifer is in a relationship with someone 10 years younger than she is, and she wants to make sure she is not taking advantage of his youth. Jennifer's Key Insights and Aha's: Her boyfriend may be coming on too strong She attracts unavailable people She is holding anger towards her father She's continually trying to fix herself How to get over it and on with it: She should forgive her father Learn to release her emotions Find her own inner parent and give herself unconditional love Stop defining her relationship and open her heart to what she can learn Tools and Takeaways: Journal about underlying issues and use sentence starters like ? I really need to know the answer to this because... ? I'm really wondering about this because... ? If I had the answer to this question I would... Ditch the requirements checklist when looking for or judging a partner; instead focus on how you want to feel with that person Set up practices to assist you to integrate new disciplines and habits Attend one of my retreats Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (Including my favorite, Alpha Brain) Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com for retreat information
00:27:59 3/16/2016
Where's the line between preparation and obsession? Picture a time, maybe it is even now, when you have been preparing for something BIG like an interview, event, presentation, or the release of some creative endeavor. Now consider how much mental, physical, and emotional energy you put into it. Was it a lot -perhaps too much? Did you find yourself stressing out about it?
00:04:54 3/12/2016
You didn't do anything wrong. It's not your fault. You did the best you could with the tools you had at the time. These are powerful statements. What if you were told these things when you were young? Would you still be searching for your soulmate to complete you? When we are born we are complete. We have a sense of unconditional love and acceptance. As we go through our human existence, we are influenced by others around us and we tend to believe what they tell us as truths. Since those people have been apart from source love for a longer time, they say things which may not be encouraging for us. We then experience the illusion of separation. We feel a longing for the love and acceptance of others to fill the void and heal our core wound. If you have ever chased love, been deeply hurt by a breakup or felt addicted to another person, you are unconsciously longing to find your way back to source love. The hurt may be hard for your ego to accept but your soul needs internal love, not love from another person. It is time to reprogram yourself. It is time to move away from being a victim and time to release your anger instead of recycling it. Today, Deborah thinks her issue is about her indecisive new love but we find out it is not really about him but about her and her story, which is ripe for being revised. If anything in this episode resonates with you, get my book Expectation Hangover and come to one of my signature retreats. Together we will help you to release the feelings which no longer serve you. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you really hooked into someone in an unhealthy relationship? Are you still reeling from a break-up and you don't know how you will move on? Have you felt a sense of loneliness or not belonging? Is there a void you are attempting to fill? Do you believe once you meet your soulmate everything will be wonderful and you will feel complete? Deborah's Question: Deborah is having a difficult time understanding why her recent great "love" keeps distancing himself from her and why her heart feels lost. Deborah's Key Insights and Aha's: She brought the relationship to herself to heal a core wound She is stuck at the emotional level Loss is a core wound in her life She realizes she needs to release her old story It's not her fault How to get over it and on with it: She should release her emotions, not just recycle them Try an adult temper tantrum Make use of release writing until her energy shifts Understand that Little Deborah did the best she could with the tools she had at the time Try mothering herself as a younger child Be choosy about what and who you believe See past relationships for what they are, which is learning opportunities Tools and Takeaways: Read Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody Use the emotional section of Expectation Hangover and do the meditations Unfriend your ex on social media Start your spiritual practice Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on Instagram christine@christinehassler.com Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody
00:27:44 3/9/2016
When it comes to making a choice, is better to listen to our head or our heart? I explore this question in today's episode of Coach's Corner
00:02:21 3/5/2016
Being "busy" seems to be a way we identify ourselves. We run ourselves ragged trying to meet the expectations of our bosses, our colleagues, and our families. We begin to put our needs aside in favor of what others want. To compensate for not practicing self-love, we wear our busyness as a badge of honor, which only seems to distract us from the lack of balance in our lives. We run the risk of having our children believe that stress equals success. The distracting device which is busyness cannot go on forever. We start to tear apart at the seams. Our inner self is crying out for attention and it becomes rebellious in order to get what it needs. While it looks for compensation, we are moving on to the next thing. Feeding this longing will serve us better than if we try to push right through. Fulfillment will not find us until we stop, refuel and rebalance as part of a daily practice. Until we stop doing and start being. Today's caller, Gulsen, is a very logical and analytical person. She feels motivated only when she is accountable to others. When she gets home she's finding it difficult to DO anything. Most intelligent people have a problem with just being so. I guide her through establishing behaviors that will get her where she wants to go. Get started on your 40-day commitment to yourself by putting one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly. Take deep breaths and bring all of your awareness to your breaths. Imagine you have a volume control in your head and that the volume control represents all of the chatter that is going through your head. Then while breathing, turn the volume down. Listen to this podcast to hear my entire guided meditation. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you addicted to busyness? Do you wear it like a badge of honor? Do you feel you should always be doing something? Are you pinpoint on some things but completely give up on other things due to lack of motivation? Is your self-worth measured by how much you are doing? Gulsen's Question: Gulsen wants to know why being at home drains her typically motivated and inspired nature. Gulsen's Key Insights and Aha's: She pushes herself to the edge She distracts herself with busyness Her worth and her value come from being, not doing How to get over it and on with it: She should make a sanctuary in her home to sit in stillness Trust herself when she is just being She should connect with love every day for 40 days Tools and Takeaways: Take an inventory of your life Forgive yourself for the misunderstanding that busyness makes you successful Commit to a 40-day practice of meditation or presencing Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on Instagram christine@christinehassler.com
00:29:27 3/2/2016
The feeling of being in love is the best. Not to mention the blissful feeling of certainty when we feel like you've met "the one" (finally!). You start fantasizing about the future and are convinced that the other person is on the same page you are. And then it ends. And you are not only heartbroken, but shocked because it seemed so right and you don't understand what went wrong. I know that is not comforting if you are in the pain of a break-up, but understanding why the one you thought was going to be forever ended may offer you some relief. This Coaches Corner will help!
00:06:03 2/27/2016
If you have pattern of being in relationships or going after unavailable people (either emotionally unavailable or still in relationship with others), then this episode is a must listen!! You'll also lean about what I call "Journey Mate" relationships. When we are first starting a relationship we often try to be the person we think we need to be, rather than our most authentic selves. We believe we need to be a certain way in order to keep the other person attracted to us. What we think is love for the other person is actually a projection of the qualities within ourselves we would like to develop. When the relationship ends before we think it should, even if it doesn't feel like it at the time, the relationship served us in some way. The other person was a journey mate. Journey mate relationships are a projection of what we need to see in ourselves. If the relationship doesn't end and we continue sourcing our love from the other person we end up codependent. If this happens we may never fully express ourselves or stand in our power. I define authenticity as the freedom to be fully expressed. If we are not authentic in our relationships we cannot expect to find the most aligned person for us. More than likely we end up attracting unavailable people who are not ready for commitment. Steph believes perfection is required of her in her relationships. And since perfection doesn't exist she experiences Expectation Hangovers, especially in relationships where she feels unable to be her authentic self. Aspiring for perfection has blocked her ability to be emotionally vulnerable. If you have a pattern of attracting unavailable people or have just lost someone you thought was the one, listen to this call and Saturday's Coaches Corner. My book Expectation Hangover is now released in paperback and has a new subtitle - Free yourself from your past, change your present and get what you really want. If you don't have a copy of it yet order it on amazon, audible or enjoy the company of others in a bookstore. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel you are living an authentically, self-expressed life? Do you have a pattern of attracting unavailable people? Are you in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person? Are you an emotionally unavailable person? Do you think you have to be perfect (or a certain way) to get the love you want? Steph's Question: Steph finds herself attracted to emotionally unavailable people and it's hard for her to show her vulnerable side in relationships. She wants to know how to shift to become emotionally available. Steph's Key Insights and Aha's: She has a hard time showing her vulnerable side She doesn't trust love and can't get it until she fixes herself She sourced loved through someone else She doesn't feel good enough She is capable of being her authentic self How to get over it and on with it: She should come back to what love really is She could accept herself fully and completely Her awareness is the first step of change Write out what perfect and authentic means to her Take a hiatus from dating for a while Tools and Takeaways: Write down all the things you learned from your journey mate relationship and then turn that on yourself Define authenticity and understand how your most authentic self feels, behaves, communicates and loves Understand where you have walls up around your heart and how you can let people in more Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Alpha Brain Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on instagram christine@christinehassler.com
00:30:00 2/24/2016
I answer this question in this week's Coaches Corner. This is an incredibly important episode to listen to so you can figure step into the Truth of Who You REALLY are.
00:03:44 2/20/2016
Criticism seems to have the stickiness factor of super glue and compliments seem to be coated in oil. We allow hurtful things to play over and over in our heads like a broken record, especially when the recording came from a parent or an authority figure. We create patterns out of the programming we receive when we are very young. These patterns stay with us throughout our lives until we reprogram ourselves. We can default to these patterns when dealing with situations and we tend to sabotage ourselves with fear instead of motivating ourselves with affirmations. We treat ourselves as others have treated us, instead of how we want to be treated. If you have a vision to impact other people's lives, make sure you have saved yourself and let down your own walls first. In order to be transparent, authentic and true, you should become your own best client. How you do anything is how you do everything. Today's conversation with Rich is a lesson in how not to be a victim. Rich has wanted to create a deep emotional impact in people's lives for some time. He started his own coaching practice over a year ago, and is finding it difficult to deal with the pressure, from his family, to provide for his soon-to-be bride. For a refresher on this topic, listen to my How to Drop Your Story Coaches Corner. I release my new Coaches Corner episodes every Saturday. Online business owners: if you are looking to execute at your highest level, I am a believer and affiliate of Marie Forleo's B-School. B-School is an 8-week video course, which teaches smart, effective online marketing strategies. If you sign up for the program through my personal link, CH B-School, in addition to the B-School program, I will assist you in the ability to remove your inner blocks with: Four 90-minute live group coaching calls for business and personal aspects Access to a private Facebook group Four custom meditations and visualizations Access to my online programs and courses Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you suffering because you cannot identify your purpose? Is there a person in your life who is struggling to find their purpose? Do you push them to find their purpose or try to find it for them? Do you feel worthy and deserving inside? Does your self-confidence or lack thereof, impact your results? Is someone else's voice inside your head? Do you need to banish it? Rich's Question: Rich would like to know how to get over his fear and anxiety to follow through with his goal of becoming a coach. He wants to overcome his limiting beliefs from his past, which may be blocking his future success. Rich's Key Insights and Aha's: He doesn't feel worthy or deserving He has fear-based influences His anger and sadness have never been fully released His biggest blocks are his beliefs and unresolved hurts How to get over it and on with it: Rich should forgive himself and his stepfather He needs to find his fire and his passion He should work past his fear of rejection He can coach himself through this issue Tools and Takeaways: Write down your limiting beliefs and figure out who owns the voice Move into compassion for anyone who programmed your thoughts Write a letter to give an unwelcome belief back to the person who gave it to you Be honest about the emotional walls you have put up and be committed to taking them down Set two chairs up and carry out your own therapy session Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on Instagram christine@christinehassler.com
00:29:40 2/17/2016
Breakup. There is not much that feels worse than heartache from ending a romantic relationship. Although it feels awful right now, trust that you will be okay. In this Coaches Corner, I guide you through the five things you can do immediately to ease the pain of your breakup and get to your breakthrough a lot sooner.
00:10:37 2/13/2016
Have you ever had a massive, gut-wrenching, devastating, traumatic breakup that ended a relationship before you wanted the relationship to end? Did you follow it up by an all-consuming expectation hangover? If you are a human being, chances are you have. Most people have at least one issue-based relationship. They attract people who trigger unresolved issues from their past. They value being in a relationship more than they value the lessons of the relationship and repeat the pattern over and over again. They treat being single like a disease, which needs to be cured immediately. Relationships are an opportunity for us to grow. To find out a little more about whom we really are. When we consider how we feel about what we do instead of just the doing, we have a clearer picture of the qualities we embody. If a relationship ended before you wanted it to, consider it a rite of passage. Embrace your feelings about it and then put a time limit on your heartbreak. Your heart can hurt but it should be full of unconditional love for yourself. Start falling back in love, but with yourself. Be kind and use your creativity as a channel of expression and healing. Today's conversation is with Monika who dares to dream and love in a big way. She moved to a foreign country and a 3 month trip turned into a 2 year stay after falling in love. The relationship ended in betrayal. Feeling her trust is forever broken, she has decided to toughen her heart and use the breakup as an excuse not to move forward with her life. Remember on Saturdays I release my new Coaches Corner episodes. This week will be on "5 Tips for Getting Over a Breakup". And if you want to hear about my history on the subject of love, you can listen to my first Over and On with It podcast. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you given yourself the diagnosis of heartbroken and feel completely stuck? Did you set a relationship goal that wasn't realized and now you have an expectation hangover? Do you value a relationship by how long it lasts? So if it ends, do you feel you failed in some way? Is it easy to answer the question "Who are you?" with positive responses? Can you honestly say you feel love for yourself? Monika's Question: Monika went through an intense breakup in a foreign country. She feels her trust was crushed; she is now paralyzed by fear and is scared to take the next step forward in her life. Monika's Key Insights and Aha's: She's a people pleaser She doesn't value herself She attaches her self-worth to achievement Her self-criticism is a habit How to get over it and on with it: Trust herself and treat herself like the valuable woman she is Re-direct her thoughts into her improvement Improve her relationship with herself Go deeper into her spiritual practice Do things to make her feel alive and connected She should paint an image of trust Tools and Takeaways: Focus on how you want to feel about a result rather than the outcome itself Write a list of who you are and use it to fall in love with yourself Start a 40-day practice or discipline to put down your defenses Use your creativity as a channel of expression and healing Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on Instagram christine@christinehassler.com
00:30:19 2/10/2016
In this Coaches Corner I ask you to consider this question: Do you TRULY value yourself? Or...are you discounting yourself by undervaluing your gifts and settling for less than you deserve. Undervaluing yourself can look like underpricing services, not asking for what you're worth at work, or staying in relationships that are only kinda sorta what you desire. This episode will encourage you to own your worth and stand in your value.
00:03:45 2/6/2016
If you want to achieve lasting success you should be concentrating on the who, what and why of your business and let the how naturally unfold with time. Pursuing your business goals without a clear understanding of what makes you uniquely qualified to provide a service (your secret sauce) to a client doesn't serve anyone. It only wastes time and energy until you have a clear vision. So often new light workers and entrepreneurs have a list of how they are going to fix things, step 1 is this and step 2 is that, but coaching is not about fixing people. People embody all the inner resources they need to heal themselves. Coaching is about listening to them from a place of compassion and love. Becoming your own best client and focusing on what you are giving to others is your purpose. Becoming an entrepreneur is not an easy task. Fear and uncertainty may be causing you to stall and create blocks when you really just need to start sharing your gift with the world. Your gift holds great value. It is your business to know your value and quit working for free. Today's caller, Robby wants to start his coaching business but his vision isn't clear. He is putting off getting clients until certain things are in place. Fear and uncertainty are suppressing his own inner guidance and creating blocks. We work to uncover his secret sauce and his why. A good follow up to this episode is my next Coaches Corner - Standing in your Value. For all of you Mission Driven Entrepreneurs out there - I am an affiliate and a supporter of Marie Forleo's B-School. B-School is an 8-week video course which teaches smart, effective online marketing strategies. If you sign up for the program through my personal link, CH B-School, I will gift you Four 90 minute live group coaching calls for business and personal aspects Access to a private Facebook group Four custom meditations and visualizations Access to my online programs and courses Consider/Ask Yourself: What are you creating in your own life? Are you clear about how you are uniquely qualified to do what you do? What is the vision which pulls you toward what you are creating? Does your ego hold you back every time you try to start? Do you have a calling but are waiting for something to start? Do you know which fears and beliefs may be holding you back? Do you believe it's your job to fix people, help people and care for people? Robby 's Question: Robby is starting a coaching business. He believes becoming a coach will require him to be more extroverted. He is experiencing fear and uncertainty of moving forward and has created stalling techniques for himself. Robby 's Key Insights and Aha's: He is creating stalling techniques He hasn't taken action He wants to get it right, he wants to be perfect He is a good listener He desires personal growth How to get over it and on with it: He should ask his intuition what is in the way Bring the focus off of himself and make it about his clients He should drop his high expectations and live his authenticity Understand he is creating value for people He needs to be his best client and keep working in himself Tools and Takeaways: Dive into your Secret Sauce by identifying the 3 qualities which describe you the most. Get clear on your vision. What is your why? Visualize yourself serving your clients Be your own best client/customer Resources: Christine Hassler B-School Secret Sauce Mastermind @christinhassler christine@christinehassler.com The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
00:29:51 2/4/2016
My hunch is you are carrying around something that is very heavy and causes you unnecessary suffering. This thing blocks you from the experiences and connections you desire. It weighs you down, holds you back and robs you of joy. What is this dreadful thing I am talking about? It is your story. And in this episode of Coaches Corner I give you tips on how to let it go!
00:03:52 1/30/2016
If you were to write out your autobiography with the early chapters being on your past and the middle chapters representing the present, what would you change about your current story to get the ending (your future) to turn out just the way you want it to? Would you allow bitterness to leak into your later chapters or would you embrace forgiveness of yourself and those who may have hurt you? It's never too late to drop old belief systems and 'un-program' yourself. It's never too late to change. Living as a victim means you do not want to take full responsibility for your life. Becoming the most authentic version of yourself will happen when you move through the process of forgiveness. It will set you free and allow you to live fully in the present. Today's caller, Miranda, needed her story to be heard free of judgment and from a place of compassion. She believed she needed to behave a certain way in order to receive love. Her compensatory strategy of being a caretaker, a rescuer, and a people pleaser was attracting toxic people into her life and not bringing her the love she desired. People in your past can no longer be an excuse for why you don't have what you want in your present. If you enjoy this podcast please share on social media and leave a rating or review on iTunes. Consider/Ask Yourself: What are you still holding on to from your past that is impacting your present and creating your future? How does Miranda's story mirror your own? When it comes to getting romantic love, what do you have to do or need to be in order to get it? Is there someone you need to forgive? Miranda's Question: Miranda is having trouble letting go of the past and finding forgiveness. She feels she has alienated everyone important in her life with her bitterness. Miranda's Key Insights and Aha's: She should acknowledge her blessings She is attracting toxic people because it's the only type of love she knows She has made massive judgments about her own choices She tries to get love by being a victim She doesn't know how to forgive How to get over it and on with it: Update your own programming She needs to forgive everyone in her life including herself Find spiritual altitude Start being nicer to herself Work through the behavioral exercises in Expectation Hangover Tools and Takeaways: Identify your compensatory strategy and shift it Understand the payoffs to the behaviors you don't like Who do you think you need to forgive? Make a list of your gifts, of all the things you truly love about yourself and make that your new story Know that your past does not need to dictate the present Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler christine@christinehassler.com
00:31:58 1/27/2016
Do you ever feel anxious? I suspect your answer is yes - you may even be experiencing it right now. You're not alone. Here's the good news: it is 100% possible to ease and actually eliminate anxiety or at the very least dramatically reduce it. I explain and give you lots of tips in this coaches corner.
00:04:55 1/23/2016
The wonderful thing about pain and anxiety is that we have the power to free ourselves from it. Many of the overwhelming feelings we are having now are rooted somewhere in our past. Something devastating caused our young minds to create a program to follow, so we didn't have to feel that way ever again. As we grow, the ability to address our fears and overcome our 'victim story' becomes available to us. We are able to comfort our younger selves by self-parenting and through work that is healing. We also have the ability to acknowledge our need for protection, thank it for its service to us and move our energy to where we need it now. We can then replace our impulsive responses with our inner voice, which is guided by our intuition. In between stimulus and response we have a choice and in that choice lies our freedom. - Viktor Frankl - Man's search for meaning Our caller, Nicole, is struggling to find her true intuition. She feels it may be lost to her or clouded over by her deep-seated anxiety. She has used her anxiety for many years to protect herself, but now realizes it is time to get over it and on with it so that she could enjoy a deeper life. My next Retreat in July 2016 will fill up quickly, so if you want more information please contact Jill at jill@christinehassler.com If you enjoy this podcast, please share on social media and leave a rating or review on iTunes. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you suffer from anxiety? Is there something you would like to be free of? Whenever you try anything new, does it come with a lot of fear? Do you prefer control over uncertainty? Did something happen in your past that might still be impacting you, but you are not sure what to do about it? Nicole's Question: Nicole has anxiety-driven panic attacks and lacks self-confidence. She longs to have a deeper life and become connected to the world. Nicole's Key Insights and Aha's: She uses her anxiety as a source of protection She needs to feel she is in control of a situation As a child, she felt vulnerable Intuition will be clearer when anxiety subsides She needs to respond rather than react It's OK for her to make mistakes How to get over it and on with it: She should tell her younger self "things will be alright" Say "I accept" & then "I am choosing to" Interrupt the patterns of anxiety Turn up the volume of her calm inner voice Understand the difference between resignation and acceptance Tools and Takeaways: Think about the "big deals" or significant events in your life. What belief systems were formed then that might be impacting you today? Tell yourself the things you needed to hear during your "big deals" Understand that it was not your fault How does your protective mechanism serve you? Give it a new job description Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler christine@christinehassler.com jill@christinehassler.com to sign up for the Bali retreat
00:26:22 1/20/2016
Do you find that you have taken on the expectation that you are supposed to be happy all the time? Sure, eternal happiness sounds awesome, yet this expectation that we "should" be able to be in a positive place all the time can be the very thing that eludes us from actually experiencing it. How? Well, when we pressure or force ourselves to be a certain way, which involves avoiding the reality of our current feelings, we engage in what is called "spiritual bypass." Spiritual bypass is a process of attempting to high-vibe yourself out of what you perceive as a negative feeling instead of allowing yourself to feel it and heal it. Don't get me wrong - joy, love and peace are our essence, but if you haven't noticed we are all still human and have moments of where that is not exactly our experience. In this Coaches Corner I encourage you to accept the contrast of your human experience and offer tips for how to move through those not-so-happy moments.
00:04:44 1/16/2016
Advertisements, movies and even fairy tales will tell you a product, money or a prince are all you need to live happily ever after. Sorry, that is not true. External things are not the key to a happy life. Because happiness is an inside job, we are all capable of self-generating the feeling of happiness. If we move to acceptance , we will recognize that the source of our own happiness comes from within. We ARE capable of living our lives contently. But first, we must examine what we are devoted to and look into the places in our lives where being grateful of what we already have can elevate us to acceptance. It is normal for humans to lead lives full of ebbs and flows. Our caller, Jennifer, is putting pressure on herself to figure out her entire life even though she is only 24 years old. She has an expectation hangover about not being where she thinks she should be in her career. She is waiting for something external to bring her happiness and to spark her passion. People with high expectations tend to not feel happy more often. Listen to this week's Coaches Corner - Is it possible to be happy all the time? - for an in-depth look at the secret sauce to overcoming an expectation hangover. My Bali Retreat, in September 2016, will fill up quickly so if you want more information please contact Jill at jill@christinehassler.com If you enjoy this podcast please share it on social media and leave a rating or review on iTunes. Consider/Ask Yourself: Which "if then" and "if when" equations have you set up to define your own happiness? Do you think you should be further along in your life? Do you think it's too late to be happy? Are you feeling depressed in your life and expecting something to come and save you? Jennifer's Question: Jennifer feels stuck. She tries new things but gives up on them easily. She wants to know when the spark will come to keep her from feeling lost and unhappy. Jennifer's Key Insights and Aha's: She pretends she can find happiness outside herself Surrounding herself with people she loves brings her happiness She wants things to come to her without working for them She hasn't taken action to keep herself from being disappointed She is not supposed to figure out her entire life by 25 How to get over it and on with it: Realize happiness is a moment, not a permanent state Have low attachment and high involvement She can create the feeling of happiness anytime she wants Accept herself, quirks and all Take a comedy or an improv class Make two people at work smile every day Tools and Takeaways: What will it take for you to fully accept your life as it is right now? Stop trying to do things. Either do something or don't. There is no in between. Do what you need to do to de-blah yourself and get your mojo back on. Create happiness on the inside by starting with gratitude Be a happiness ambassador Physically connect with people Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler christine@christinehassler.com jill@christinehassler.com to sign up for the Bali retreat
00:28:57 1/13/2016
The New Year comes with the tradition of making resolutions, which are usually promises to do something "more, better, or different." We vow to exercise more, get a better job, meditate regularly, fall in love, or find a different way to handle our stress. But does this really do us any good? Most of us start the New Year with the greatest of intentions, yet by March (or even by the second week in January) we may not find ourselves so resolved. We revert back to old patterns and beat ourselves up for not sticking to our resolutions. Could there be a way to ring in the year that serves us better? YES! And it has been my New Year ritual for the past ten years which I share in todays' Coaching Corner. NOTE: you can do this process ANYTIME during the year because it is always a good time to consciously let go of what is not serving you so then you can intentionally co-create your dreams and desires.
00:07:08 1/9/2016
Our physical body ages naturally with time, but our emotional development is much more complex. Our minds have the ability to leave situations unfinished - anticipating that a resolution will appear eventually. When this happens, we get stuck by reliving our hurts and challenges over and over again until we are mentally ready to deal with these emotions. Becoming comfortable with our own vulnerability is how we heal this unfinished business. We can start by reassuring ourselves that it's okay, it's over, and it's safe now. It's okay to stop creating distractions that only serve to move us farther and farther away from the healing of our core wounds. Healing starts with self-love and it always comes back to our relationship with our self. Today's caller, Jenna, believes she is struggling with consistency issues. She quickly realizes that she may be manifesting physical health problems; and living the life of an overachiever to gain the attention and love she didn't receive as a teenager. Jenna is asking for help, which is a clear sign she is ready to get over it and on with it. A relationship that is free of judgement and filled with compassion, like the relationship with a coach, will help her to continue on her personal development journey and reinforce the relationship she needs to build with her younger self. Consider/Ask Yourself: When it comes to dealing with challenging issues, do you analyze the issues to try to figure them out rather than feeling and processing these things fully? How do you handle your emotions? If you spoke with your friends in the same way you speak to yourself would you have any friends? Do you get frustrated with your personal growth? When you make progress do you tend to backtrack, creating an endless loop? Jenna's Question: Jenna is struggling to get to the root of her consistency issues regarding her health and wellness and wants to know how to stay on track. Jenna's Key Insights and Aha's: She didn't feel safe or secure in her youth Her health has become a distraction She doesn't have to manifest health issues to get love and attention It's easier to act outwardly than to reflect inwardly How to get over it and on with it: Jenna should encourage her younger self She should take care of her emotional body as well as her physical body She should parent herself in the way she wanted to be parented Look in the mirror with one hand on her heart and the other on her stomach and say something kind to herself Have a vulnerability conversation with her counselor Tools and Takeaways: Listen to Episode 16, Why our parents trigger us (no matter what our age) , on Parenting Identify the distractions and coping strategies you adopt to keep yourself from feeling emotions or pain Develop a relationship with your younger self by writing a letter to reassure him or her that it is over Start each day connecting with yourself in the mirror and saying encouraging things Practice vulnerability with people in your life Continue in your personal development and if you aren't growing you may need to make some changes Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Brene Brown The Gifts of Imperfection Daring Greatly @christinhassler christine@christinehassler.com
00:33:20 1/6/2016
Happy New Year! This is a guided visualization and meditation that will support you in completing this year and consciously creating the next. In this twelve minute journey, I guide you through identifying the lessons and blessings from the last year so that you can clearly envision and begin creating what you'd like to experience in the coming year. This is especially great to listen to around the New Year but you can listen to it anytime of year to complete your past, focus on your present and create your future. Set some time aside to gift yourself with this process. Sending you love for a prosperous and joyful New Year.
00:11:52 12/31/2015
This episode is about getting over what you didn't get from a parent (or parents). There is no manual for living. Sometimes we just need to ask for help from our spiritual guide and then direct all of our energy towards the life we truly desire. There will be times when we get frustrated and angry with ourselves and other people. It's OK, it happens. We are all human, right? Well, even our parents are human. Many of us have trouble accepting our parents as individuals outside of the role they play in our lives. We put our own expectations on them to try to fill the safety and security voids we perceived when we were separated from God during birth. We often long for a love our parents are unable to give us. We need to recognize that just because they are older, it doesn't mean their ability to love has changed. They love us in the best way they know how. Today's caller, Samantha uses self-criticism to protect herself from her pain. She is accustomed to holding herself to higher standards because she coaches others through their life journeys. She is still holding on to her childhood anger over not feeling loved and acknowledged by her father. We work through her responsibility to re-parent herself, free herself through a spiritual practice and look at her father with compassionate eyes. If you are a woman who is having difficulty processing your anger, read the Emotional section of my book, Expectation Hangover. Try the temper tantrum technique, it may sound silly, but it really works. Time slots have opened up for coaching sessions in January. If you are interested in a one-on-one session with me, sign up here Coaching with Christine. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel you are aware of your past and relationship with your parents, but that nothing is changing in your present? Are you a self-help coach and hold yourself to a higher standard, believing you should know better? Are you still longing for something you didn't get from your parents? Do you experience an Expectation Hangover because your parents haven't changed like you had hoped? Are you irritable and short tempered with others, but know that isn't who you are in your heart? Samantha's Question: Samantha wants to know how to stop being hard on other people. She finds herself feeling and doing things she doesn't feel comfortable with, but she doesn't understand why. Samantha's Key Insights and Aha's: She feels she needs to protect herself She is angry and may be bypassing her spirit She's projecting expectations on her Father that he cannot live up to The same pattern keeps showing up in her life She is worthy of her father's love How to get over it and on with it: Sam should give herself permission to be who she is She can realize coaching people isn't about saving them She shouldn't be lazy when it comes to her spiritual practice She should put her energy into the direction she wants to head towards Tools and Takeaways: What are you still hoping for from your parent? How can you see your parents through compassionate eyes? What is their human story? Write a letter to your parents letting them off the hook. Don't send it, but use it as a way to let the issue go. What are ways you can parent yourself to give yourself what you need? Start your spiritual practice now. Ask for help and it will come. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Liberate yourself at my Winter Retreat January 8-10th @christinhassler
00:33:57 12/30/2015
True freedom is fulfilling and it is not about getting whatever you want. Freedom is about being fully and authentically self-expressed. Often our identities are created based on how others define us and not who we truly are. We may become imprisoned by other people's opinions. When we have been suppressed or restricted, we do not feel free and may rebel with self-sabotaging behavior. This may lead to reactive and unnecessary risks that do not serve us. Some risks, however, are intuitive and proactive. These types of risk can lead us to necessary growth. Today's caller, Jessica, doesn't understand why she isn't doing the things she should be doing. She relies on other people's expectations and judgments and doesn't feel worthy or deserving of her dreams. She is dealing with issues of her own self-worth while trying to live up to society's outcome addicted focus. When we realize it is all about truth and love, we bring ourselves into alignment with our core values. It is then we can appreciate that our raw, authentic self is absolutely perfect. * Can you list the top 5 core values that are the compass for your life? You should be clear about what they are. If you need help, the process to find them is detailed in my book, Expectation Hangover. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you engaging in any rebellious or sabotaging behavior? Do you start to freak out when you get what you want? Do you feel free or suppressed and constricted? Have you taken risks in life or do you play it safe? Do you know what you should be doing, but take actions contrary to your goal? Jessica's Question: Jessica wants to know why she makes the "wrong" decisions when she knows what the right decision should be, and why she sabotages herself while trying to attain her goals. Jessica's Key Insights and Aha's: She has a war going on in her brain She grew up with very strict rules She doesn't take risks She doesn't feel free She always did the right thing even if she didn't want to She has difficulty breaking away from her ex-husband's criticism She wants to set a good example for her son How to get over it and on with it: Find a way for your inner rebel to be satiated Give yourself permission to go after what you want Acknowledge who you are apart from what you've been told Stop carrying around old stories Honor your heartfelt desires Tools and Takeaways: Write about your inner rebel Describe your inner rebel How does it act? What behaviors does it engage in? Write your definition of freedom Write down ways you may be restricting yourself Write down ways you could be authentically self-expressed What is one tangible action step you can take toward being more authentically self-expressed? Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover The Big Leap @christinhassler
00:29:00 12/23/2015
Happy Holidays!! This is a beautiful and sweet time of year, which can bring forward so many feelings and experiences. Some of you may be absolutely blissful - you love this season and are in a place of peace. Others of you may be really struggling this time of year. Perhaps you feel alone. Or family dynamics are challenging. And some may be feeling a mix of both. You have moments of peace and joy and other moments of loneliness, anxiety or even sadness. Wherever you are is okay. Please remove the expectation that your holidays are supposed to be any certain way - otherwise you will just keep waking up with an expectation hangover! My intention in sharing this meditation with you today is to remind you about what is most important not only this time of year but in every moment of every day, which is LOVE.
00:12:24 12/21/2015
Regret. We've all felt it at some point. Some of you are feeling it right now and you are suffering because of it. Something did or did not happen the way you wanted. You did or didn't do something the way you wished you would have. And you want more than anything to be able to rewind time and get a do-over. You've replayed scenarios over and over in your head thinking of all the things you could have done or said. You're trapped in a shoulda/coulda/woulda perspective and it's a miserable place to be, isn't it? As much as you are aware that regret is a miserable place to hang out in, you cannot seem to be free of it. But I have good news: liberation from regret is 100% possible!! And it is essential to your well-being that you commit to letting go of regret. In this Coaches Corner, I explain how. Listen closely to this episode...or you'll regret it! ;)
00:05:22 12/19/2015
Seasons change and so do we. We all have expectations as to how our lives should be, what our family should think of us and how we will feel after making a big change. When we cannot come to terms with the decisions we have made, we experience regret and consequently an Expectation Hangover. But regret is useless and we often beat ourselves up over nothing. We cannot move forward by living in regret. What if instead of suffering from regret, we found peace and experienced connection by reprogramming our unconscious mind to fully accept the decisions we have made? What if instead of dwelling on the past, we fully opened ourselves to receiving all the gifts in the present? In today's call, Jenny is uncertain about her decision to move, in order to be closer to her family. She is having difficulty creating her new life, because she is stuck in her old one. She is also physically sick from the stress. She thinks geography may be a factor, but we discover she may need to stop pushing against the change and allow things to happen. Taking a step back and seeing the impression her indecisiveness is leaving on her children, might be the key that helps Jenny to accept the decisions she has made and to move forward towards creating the story she wants to tell. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a recent decision you made you currently regret? Are you in a situation where you think that changing things is the answer to your problems? Are you feeling physically drained and apathetic? Are you an adventure junkie? Are you a parent and feel it's important to make your child feel safe and secure? Jenny's Question: Jenny is making herself physically sick and tired, because she regrets moving a long distance to be closer to her family and would like to know how to get over it and on with it. Jenny's Key Insights and Aha's: She is living half in Wyoming and half in Wisconsin Her fatigue is a signal from her body Self-judgment is sucking her dry She's stuttering on decisions How to get over it and on with it: Fully accept the reasons for making previous decisions Be fully present wherever you are Begin a spiritual practice such as yoga and/or meditation Create the feeling you are missing Learn to live more inside out and less outside in Embody safety and acceptance Create a community where you are Tools and Takeaways: Write out a list of emotions you want to feel and generate them, reorient yourself from inside out Write out these 3 things: ? The reasons why it was the best decision you could have made, given the information you had ? The reasons why you feel safe and secure ? The reasons why you can trust yourself Collect evidence about the story you want to tell Inspect your health problem to see if it could be a lack of self-love; also check out "Choosing me before we" for in-depth analysis Examine what you are teaching your children, they feel your energy Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler Coaching Corner - Getting Over Regret Choosing ME Before WE - Christine Hassler
00:32:28 12/16/2015
Courage. It's a desirable quality to have and an empowering way to be. Our heroes and inspirational leaders are labeled courageous. We are told throughout our life to "be courageous," but that isn't always easy. In fact, courage is often one of the most difficult qualities to truly integrate. Why is being courageous not as easy to embody as the heroes make it look in the movies? There are two main reasons. First, being courageous means being willing to face fear and embrace uncertainty. YIKES! We don't like being scared or not knowing what is ahead. Second, most of us do not truly understand what courage really means. In this coaches corner, Christine shares how to become more courageous and go after the things in life that scare us.
00:04:32 12/12/2015
Absolute certainty is rare. If you are waiting to be absolutely certain before making a decision, you may find yourself spinning in confusion. Today's session is with Marie, who believes she is ready to make big changes in her life, but fear and unresolved issues from a recent break-up are keeping her from taking the first step. She is distracting herself by considering multiple changes at once and it's depleting her energy. When we fear something we create roadblocks for ourselves. Roadblocks can be waiting for certainty, attempting to move forward before dealing with issues from the past and talking a lot about what we want, but not taking the first steps to get to it. Marie realizes she may be lingering on open issues from a past relationship. She needs closure before she is able to move forward, but she's unsure of how to get past the breakup. We work through how Marie can use her inner wisdom to remove the residue from the past and pursue her career dreams with a clear mind. When we accept change and allow it to happen, we discover our challenges are leading us somewhere. Read the emotional and mental chapters of the treatment plan in my book, Expectation Hangover, to gain a deeper understanding on grieving and closure. If you want to get unstuck join me on January 8th - 10th for my "for women only" Winter Retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you waiting to do something until you are completely sure? Are you attempting to make too many decisions at once and not making progress on any of them? Are you a creative person who feels the need to do everything all at once? Are you still wanting something from a previous relationship and are unable to move on until you get it? Marie's Question: Marie feels she is in a rut and wants to make a big move, including getting over her last relationship. She is a motivated person but has a fear of moving forward. Marie's Key Insights and Aha's: She wants to feel certain about something before she moves forward She's trying to do too many things at once She's making a reactive choice and not a proactive one She needs other people's opinions Listening to her intuition will help her move on How to get over it and on with it: Clean up old residue first before moving forward Focus on one thing at a time Own the part you played in the relationship Listen to your intuition Tools and Takeaways: Focus on the problem or the question you don't want to deal with first A closure conversation or letter should include ? What you learned ? What you are grateful for ? What you forgive the other person for ? What you forgive yourself for ? Acknowledge the other person ? A thank you and a goodbye Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler jill@christinehassler.com 2016 Winter Retreat Expectation Hangover
00:32:51 12/9/2015
Are you carrying around an unspoken question or assumption about something? Did someone do something or behave in a way that stumped (and possibly hurt) you but you haven't had the guts to ask them about it? Are you being a wee bit wimpy when it comes to speaking your truth? I see so many people suffer under our own assumptions, pretend everything is fine, and take things personally rather than just having the chutzpha to be real, raw and vulnerable with another person. In today's coaches corner I give you tips for mustering up the courage to take action and actually say what you need (and want) to say.
00:06:18 12/5/2015
If you have ever dealt with the pain of rejection, this episode will help! Perhaps you've heard, "Rejection is God's Protection" but the process of rejection feels pretty awful until we learn what it is really about. Our caller today, Alex, has courageously opened up to another person and shared her truth with them. But the other person did not reciprocate her feelings. She asks me how she can get over her heartbreak and rejection and get on with her life. If you have ever felt the pain of rejection or find yourself in an avoidance trap, listen to the tips I give Alex at the end of our call. You can also find resources in my book, Expectation Hangover, to help heal yourself. We also talk about speaking our truth - which takes takes courage. We ponder on how our message will be received; but if we believe in our truth, there is value in getting it out into the world. When our truth needs to be told to another person and they don't realize the outcome we are hoping for we often take it personally. We perceive their response as if something is wrong with us or we did something wrong. Our fear of the possible rejection is an avoidance trap. An avoidance trap is spending our time and energy avoiding what we don't want rather than working towards what we do want. By understanding that we consistently attract experiences to help us heal our core wounds, we realize rejection doesn't really exist. It is merely a projection of unowned, unseen qualities inside us. Consider/Ask Yourself: What are you construing perceived rejection to mean about you? What was so attractive about the person or situation you feel didn't choose you? Is there someone you have feelings for but are too scared to tell them? Has something upset you but you don't have the guts to speak your truth? Alex's Question: Alex wants to know how to best handle the heartbreak and rejection she is feeling after telling someone she loves them and finding out the feelings are not mutual. Alex's Key Insights and Aha's: She struggles with feeling as though she didn't fit in while growing up She feels she gave away her power She is learning to read people She realizes she is stronger than she thought she was She doesn't need to look outside herself for her worthiness How to get over it and on with it: Don't look to others to find your own worth Trust your desires and have faith Be kind to yourself during this time Tools and Takeaways: Let go of anger and resentment - Empty out your "negative" emotions in a letter and then rip it up Write a goodbye letter you don't intend to mail that includes: ? I'm saying goodbye because ... ? I learned from you ... ? I thank you for ... ? I forgive myself for ... ? I forgive myself for ... Say what you need to say - Speak to the person even if they are not there Set boundaries with yourself and move on Engage in activities that encourage self-acceptance Do a positive projection exercise Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler
00:22:16 12/2/2015
I love the week of Thanksgiving here in the U.S. because gratitude is on everyone's mind. Cultivating a consciousness of gratitude is a spiritual practice - it's a MUST for anyone who is committed to living a life of love. Plus, when we are aware of what we do have, we are a lot less inclined to obsess about all the things we don't (and have fewer expectation hangovers!). Enjoying this special Coaches Corner from me where the focus is on gratitude.
00:04:05 11/26/2015
This special episode has two career coaching sessions, the first with Nick and the second with Lindsey. Both Nick and Lindsey are searching for a way to use their passions and to share their gifts with the world. Nick's session focuses on his spirituality and whether or not his current position allows him to elevate the consciousness of others with his law practice. Lindsey's session concentrates on her transitions and her indecisiveness around using her creativity to reach her end goal. Lessons from both calls are that we don't need to leave jobs that are not creative enough; we can be creative and passionate in our current situations. If we honor where we are now by embracing our passions and our spirituality, we will end up spreading light to others. If you yearn to make more of an impact in your work life, drastic changes to satiate your desires are unnecessary and often cause additional discomfort. Increasing our vibrations will make everything we do a more spiritual experience. Coaching Session #1 - Nick While Listening to this Call Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel a calling to make an impact? Are you in a job that does not seem spiritual enough and you feel inclined towards doing something different? Do you feel like you are compromising and paying your dues now in order to gain financial security?Are you actively spreading light where you are or are you waiting for better circumstances? Nick's Question: Nick wants to integrate spirituality into his current life but doesn't want to break his life to fix it. Nick's Key Insights and Aha's:? He may be a light worker in the subtle sense? He doesn't have to change what he's doing to make a difference? He could focus on being and interacting with people How Nick can get over it and on with it: ? Honor his calling to spread light through his existing work? Bring more consciousness into what he is doing? Try deepening his vibration when communicating with others in his work? Try the 25/5 rule of working for 25 minutes and taking 5 to do something you enjoy doing Tools and Takeaways: ? Become dedicated to your spiritual practice in your work? Consider bringing beauty into your work environment ? Ask God on a daily basis to use you and pay attention to opportunities that may arise from it ? Implement practices that reconnect you to your higher power Coaching Session #2 - Lindsey While Listening to this Call Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel apathetic or stuck in your current career?? Are you craving more creativity and passion in your life?? Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself to figure everything out at once? Lindsey's Question:Lindsey is having a hard time figuring out if her job transition was the right thing to do and if she should continue investing in her passion, music. Lindsey's Key Insights and Aha's:? She loves helping children with crafts? She needs more of the creative aspect in her job? She should focus on the next steps and not the end goal How Lindsey can get over it and on with it:? Lindsey could listen to her intuition in order to be more creative? She should honor this phase of her life? Ask her higher power to show her the people and situations she can serve Tools and Takeaways: ? Ask yourself what is the next step, not the end goal ? Honor where you are and allow your passions to unfold? Don't expect a job to make you feel creative or passionate Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler
00:30:58 11/24/2015
There seems to be a lot to worry in life that we cannot control everything. But worrying is a HUGE drain of your energy and completely useless so in this Coaches Corner, Christine offers you a way to stop worrying, or at the very least dramatically reduce it. Worry gives us a false sense of control when we are uncertain about someone or something. When faced with the unknown, worrying is often the default habit we slip into as it gives us a way to seemingly deal with whatever our concern is. In today's episode, Christine breaks down worry for you and teaches you a technique that you can start using today to transform from worrywart to dream manifestor!
00:04:39 11/21/2015
Our caller today is Sha who is a millennial. Millennials are today's 20 and early 30 somethings. Many millennials are unjustly thought to be narcissistic, entitled and said to have no work ethic. Sha is experiencing residue from having many of her decisions made for her during her adolescence. And it's not just Sha who is confronting these issues; many millennials feel the effects of over-parenting and the accompanying pressures that linger from missing out on important developmental stages. Sha and I uncover her validation issues and examine her inability to stick to a routine. She becomes aware of her past programming and I offer her tools to assist her in reprogramming herself. One important tool is to understand that what she wants to hear from others is what she actually wants to hear from herself. We also explore ways to relieve anxiety and self-trust issues through being in the present. After the coaching session, I offer a special guided meditation; so go to a quiet place where you can close your eyes and get serene with me. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have trouble making decisions? Do you consult multiple people before you make a choice?Is it hard for you to stick with a routine or stay disciplined? Do you have a hard time quieting your mind? Sha's Question: Sha finds it hard to make decisions and is having trouble relaxing. Sha's Key Insights and Aha's:? She was peacocking all the time? She wasn't seeing herself? She may have missed out on fundamental developmental stages? She has difficulty with discipline and routines? She doesn't trust herself How to get over it and on with it: ? Practice telling yourself "be here now" ? Repair yourself by giving yourself the developmental stages you didn't have ? Take actions to support autonomy and decision making? Add some routines to your life ? Start making decisions Tools and Takeaways: ? Validation seekers should write a list of everything they want to hear from others and say these things to themselves? Make a solo decision making challenge? Write out a routine for yourself. Have one commitment every morning and one commitment every evening ? Start a meditation practice Resources: Christine Hassler The Solo-Decision Making Challenge Christine's Meditation Rx CD @christinhassler
00:29:28 11/18/2015
In this coaches corner Christine discusses whether or not it's possible to change someone else. Consider: Is there someone in your life you really hope will change? Do you find yourself taking on the responsibility for other people's transformation? Do you even get annoyed when you see someone you care about not living into the potential you see in them? Christine explains why we are tempted to change others and teaches you how to let go of expectations of other people. You will learn that it is not your job or your right to save anyone along with some tips on how you actually can make an impact on the lives of others.
00:05:22 11/14/2015
This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. My coaching call with Regina today uncovers the challenges she is having with grief over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She's is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life. Regina experiences an "aha" when she realizes she is able to create the positive future she desires. Take note of Regina's tone of voice before my coaching as she describes beating herself up and then again after we discuss her ability to practice self-love. Regina shared her progress with me in an email after our session. She writes "I've started forgiving myself and when I find myself in a negative thought I stop and think "this isn't self-love". It's a reminder to all of us to live, not just exist. Find something you want to live for, even it seems silly and give yourself permission to love. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you recently been through a loss and can't seem to move on?Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve?Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently?Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again? Regina's Question: Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted. Regina's Key Insights and Aha's:? There is a part of her that doesn't want to "be" anymore? She doesn't believe we get more than one love in our lives? She beats herself up a lot? She knows if she could create a negative story for herself she is capable of creating a positive story too How to get over it and on with it: ? Make a choice to start creating a future which is enlivening? Give yourself permission to live? Speak to yourself like a loving mother would to a child? Write out some promises you will keep to yourself Tools and Takeaways: ? Practice self-love ? Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life? Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover How to Liberate Yourself from Regret Blog @christinhassler Secret Sauce training and mastermind
00:33:24 11/11/2015
Hi and welcome back to my over and on with it podcast. I'm recording today from my home state of Texas. I love being here and spending time with my family, especially my two nephews. They live in a realm of never-ending possibilities and abundant curiosity. It's refreshing. Our call today is from Maya. Maya wonders if she should use her proven brute force tactics to manifest her dreams, but she understands it might not be the way to manifest this one. Realizing that the mind doesn't know the difference between a well-imagined thought and reality can help Maya start manifesting her dream right now. If she aligns her vibrations to her desires she will start to make choices which pull her closer to her dream. So, how do we pursue our dreams and not get disappointed? How do we not experience an Expectation Hangover? If we pursue our dreams with high involvement and high intention, but low attachment we are not overly disappointed when our dreams don't manifest in the manner we thought they would. This allows us to follow our dreams without being afraid of being let down. A good example of someone who aligns themselves vibrationally to what they desire is Jill. Jill is the amazing person who coordinates all of my retreats. She has a special place in her heart for Taylor Swift. She loves her. Jill has manifested concert tickets and opportunities to see Taylor Swift because she believes she can, almost as if it's magic. If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, go to christinehassler.com/podcast. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you longing to go down a non-traditional path?What is the first step towards your goal?Is there an experience you would like to have, but not sure how to make it happen?Are you downgrading your dreams because you're afraid to be let down? Maya's Question: Maya has a vision for her life but believes she is going down an uncharted path. She would like to manifest being in the pope's presence. She wonders if she should use brute force to make things happen or should she go with the flow. Maya's Key Insights and Aha's:? She may be attached to certain aspects of her dream ? She should make choices which keep her vibrational alignment? She needs to think about how she would feel in her manifestation How to get over it and on with it: ? Ask your inner knowing what your first step is? Focus on the essence of the manifestation? Visualize yourself experiencing the moment Tools and Takeaways: ? Do positive projection work to create the conditions to get what you want in your world? Record a voice memo of the experience you would like to have and listen to it every day Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler Secret Sauce training and mastermind
00:24:18 11/11/2015
In this Coaches Corner episode, Christine guides you through a step-by-step process get over betrayal and on with your life!! Betrayal is one of the human experiences that can be so painful and hard to understand. It hurts when you feel lied to or when someone you thought you could trust shows you something different. When we feel betrayed or like our trust is broken, it's natural to want to hang on to the anger, resentment, blame and "how could she" or "I can't believe he" thoughts. But this keeps us in victim consciousness and only perpetuates our suffering. Listen to learn how to get over it and on with it!
00:05:20 11/6/2015
Do you know that every challenge you face presents an amazing opportunity for healing and growth? That is why I am so passionate about Expectation Hangovers - because they are doorways to transformation. We do not want to relate to Expectation Hangovers as victims because it prevents us from leveraging the learnings! Disappointment happens FOR you, not TO you. Expectation Hangovers teach us:1. Control is an illusion2. Our comfort zone is a trap3. True fulfillment comes from inside4. The Universe does not punish us My call with Nadine is about overcoming the Expectation Hangover of a job loss and breakup We explore why we put pressure on ourselves to not make mistakes and how our past is able to influence us even though we may not recognize it. Remember, if you point your compass towards spirituality and honor your feelings, you can use your soul's inner wisdom to learn to love and to heal yourself. The door of opportunity exists for you to heal and transform after you experience an Expectation Hangover. Consider/Ask Yourself: What am I learning?What am I healing? What is my outer experience teaching me about my inner reality?Can I relate to putting a lot of pressure on myself?Do I think there is something I need to do to be loved or worthy? Do I have negative self-talk which perpetuates high expectations of myself? Nadine's Question: In February, Nadine was working her dream job and she had the perfect man. Now four months later, she finds herself in a new job she is not interested in and her man left. Nadine's Key Insights and Aha's:? She may be looking at herself as a home improvement project? She engages in negative self-talk ? She has the same relationship over and over again ? Her childhood is not her fault How to get over it and on with it: ? Ask your inner counselor what am I learning? Ask yourself "in order to be loved I need to" ? What would you say to yourself as a child? ? Take a deep dive into your spiritual practice Tools and Takeaways: ? Spend some time single and fall in love with yourself? Write down "In order to be loved, I need" and then finish the sentence? Talk to your younger self and reassure them ? Practice self-care by nurturing yourself? Allow yourself to feel your own emotions with compassion ? Understand you are not broken and become who you truly want to be Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler Expectation Hangover
00:32:57 11/4/2015
This call is for all you do-ers and over-achievers out there. We find ourselves in a time in which we wear our busyness like a badge of honor. We define ourselves by what we do. And when something we define ourselves by, such as a job, goes away we find ourselves with an Expectation Hangover. An Expectation Hangover is disappointment. It's when one of three things happen: 1.) Something doesn't turn out like we planned 2.) Something does turn out like we planned, but we don't get the feeling we thought we would have3.) Life just throws us an unexpected curveball My coaching session with Lisa today uncovers her Expectation Hangover as a huge opportunity for her to just be. If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, contact me at christinehassler.com Consider/Ask Yourself: Can you relate to being busy all the time?Do you often use busyness as a distraction?Do you panic during times when you aren't busy?Do you have a busy life, but not a fulfilled life? Is it challenging to receive loving support, including financial support from a family member? Are you paying attention to all the things which are going right for you when you experience an expectation hangover? Lisa's Question: Lisa feels she has accomplished a great deal this year. She completed her MBA, got married and will soon be moving to a new city. During her job search, she is encountering some rejection and the disappointment that goes along with it. Lisa's Key Insights and Aha's:? She kept herself busy as a distraction ? She relies on herself too much ? She doesn't have to handle so many things on her own ? She has her worthiness attached to having a job How to get over it and on with it: ? Ask yourself what am I learning during this expectation hangover?? Surround yourself with your soul friends and family ? Give yourself full permission to relax and let go ? Break up with the idea that you are what you do? Press pause on the goal line and re-orient yourself to the soul line Tools and Takeaways: ? Give yourself permission to stop chasing results? Get a copy of Expectation Hangover and work through the exercises and guided meditations? Ask someone for support? Take some quiet time for yourself? Make an agreement with yourself to just be Resources: Christine Hassler
00:24:30 11/4/2015
We can want to do things in life but just wanting is not enough. Are you committed to really taking the steps to get there? Difference makers have commitment and discipline. Passion is not enough. If you feel stuck, invest in yourself, take risks and learn to be comfortable with uncertainty. One thing we need to commit to is shifting our internal states and stories, which means updating our beliefs to get into alignment with what we want. Remember, our outside world is a reflection of our inside world. In this call with Gail, she is at a crossroads when she is thinking of leaving a more analytical job to pursue a more creative path. She is getting mixed messages and whether "just follow your passion" is good advice for her to follow. We cover those topics in the call along with a conversation about how her logical mind is an obstacle - and how to make it more of an ally. Please keep your comments and questions coming. It's so exciting to connect with you. Consider/Ask Yourself: Does your logical and reasonable mind get in the way of hearing your intuition? Do you think you have to know all the steps of your plan before you can take a step? Are you confused about the messages the universe is sending? Do you feel too "in your head" most of the time? Would you say your inside world is the reflection you want to project to the outside world? Do you feel you are in vibrational alignment with that which you want to attract? Gail's Question: Gail recently left her corporate job and wants to move into a more creative role. But she feels like she is getting mixed messages from the universe. She asks for Christine's insight. Gail's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Gail needs to trust her creative skills ? Her energy shifts when she talks about her desired career ? She needs to satiate her creative hunger ? Understanding she's on a journey ? She needs to feel the vibration within herself How to get over it and on with it: ? Get in vibrational alignment ? Give yourself permission to explore ? Self-acknowledge and connect yourself to the passion ? Feel into things instead of figuring them out Tools and Takeaways: ? Give yourself permission to pursue something you are passionate about ? Practice vibrational manifesting ? Get in to your creative ? Ask for support along your journey in the form of prayer Resources: Association of Transformational Leaders Christine Hassler
00:24:39 10/28/2015
If you've ever had challenges with other people in your life, especially parents, you will identify with this episode. On some level, we choose our parents to be our spiritual teachers. Being close becomes complicated as we transition from being a child to being an adult. Listen in as Jessica is feeling conflicted between wanting to live her own life and wanting her parents approval. Consider/Ask Yourself: Can you relate to wanting to please people you love? Do you feel obligated to do what your parents want from you? Do you feel guilty if you don't do what is expected of you? Jessica's Question: Jessica's conservative parents get mad, impose guilt trips and cause her stress when she talks about her boyfriend, who has a daughter. She would like insights on how to hold on to her relationship and respect her parents feelings. Jessica's Key Insights and Aha's: ? It's her time to have a relationship ? She allows her parents to emotionally manipulate her How to get over it and on with it: ? Be ok with your parents not being ok with your life ? Don't be ruled by fear ? Take a break - try a 30-day hiatus ? Be clear about what you are willing to do for relationships ? Send your parents love and light ? Take responsibility for your own inner experience Tools and Takeaways: ? Keep a picture of your loved ones and send them love and light every day ? During meditation have your higher-self speak with their higher-self ? Keep choosing love Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler
00:30:15 10/28/2015
I know an area many of you dream about has to do with your finding your purpose and serving others. You may also long for more freedom. Freedom not only to do something you love, but also have the money and time to spend more time with people you love. This is the dream of today's caller, Mike. . His constant search of products and materials lead him to believe his next steps need to come from outside himself. We discuss how he may be stalling by continuing to do research instead of listening to his internal inspiration and moving forward. I help Mike realize what his dream truly may be . . . . Often when we feel dreams and longings in our hearts as part psychic ability we all have. We somehow know fulfillment is coming, like a premonition. We just don't know when. And, even though we may want it now our dreams take time to evolve. Consider/Ask Yourself: What heartfelt dreams are calling you forward? Do you have a sense of what you want to do but not taking action? Do you start many things but not follow through? Are you waiting for some kind of answer or sign from the universe? Are you stalling and calling it research? Caller's Question: Mike, a self-proclaimed product junkie, has a dream of having a home based business. He lacks confidence in his decision-making process and would like to break his cycle of never moving forward. Key Insights and Aha's: ? Mike could be the product and sell himself ? He could inspire other people ? He should let his inspiration drive his next steps How to get over it and on with it: ? Ask yourself the question as if it was someone else coming to you for guidance ? Don't let your head get in the way ? Let God use you as an instrument ? Meditate and recognize your unique gifts ? Start with the big vision and work backwards Tools and Takeaways: ? Write a life experience resume ? Re-orient towards an internal direction, try it for 30 days ?Answer these questions: Who am I here to serve What can I offer How can I deliver it Resources: Christine Hassler Secret Sauce Mastermind jill@christinehassler.com
00:24:47 10/28/2015
When Eileen called she said she wanted to move past the breakup of a 3-year relationship. The relationship ended abruptly and she was still searching for closure from the other person. Knowing the purpose of any relationship is for healing and growth, and not happily ever after, we worked through the issue based relationship Eileen had and what the relationship may have taught her about herself. Listen in as Eileen discovers herself in the present and works to nurture her inside reality. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are there any unresolved hurts from previous relationships you are carrying around? Can you see how you have drawn romantic relationships in to help fill a void?Do you feel like you can't move forward in life because you are stuck in the past? Eileen's Question: Eileen is ready to move on from a past relationship but doesn't know what steps to take. She also is seeking closure with the other person, she didn't feel she received when the relationship ended abruptly. Eileen's Key Insights and Aha's:? She doesn't trust herself with making decisions? Certain qualities eroded during her relationship? She felt somewhat addicted to the relationship ? Her past life includes a pattern of chasing love How to get over it and on with it: ? Recognize your soul is ready to heal past issues? Let go of any belief that the relationship could have worked out ? Reassure your younger self there is nothing she has to do to earn love? Never underestimate the power of doing the invisible, internal things Tools and Takeaways: ? Write a letter and start with Dear Name, ? I'm saying goodbye because ... ? I learned ... ? I forgive you for ... ? I forgive myself for ... ? Thank you for ...? Write a letter to reassure your younger self ? Commit to 40 days of connection/forgiveness work? Acknowledging your growth and your blessings Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler
00:33:14 10/22/2015
Welcome to my first official episode. I went through 25 different coaching sessions in preparation for this show and trying to decide which one would be first was difficult because all my callers were amazing. I ended up choosing Anneke's call because we get into the question "Who am I?" and because of the level of vulnerability in this session. We often feel embarrassed and apologize for our emotions, but I think of vulnerability as strength. Remember, we get to choose who we are and not being who we are can be suffocating. We are not defined by other people's views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It's up to us to embrace them and use them. Consider/Ask Yourself: Who am I? Do you feel like you are really living authentically?Are you fully expressing who you are or are you being a version of yourself? Do you struggle with loneliness?Are you in touch with your emotions? Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Anneke's Question: Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen. Anneke's Key Insights and Aha's:? Acknowledging she sugarcoats her difficult emotions. ? She doesn't want to be a burden on others. ? Loneliness is has been her friend because it's when she gives herself a break.? It's ok for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self. ? Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone because those emotions are familiar. How to get over it and on with it: ? Try taking actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic. ? Don't compare yourself to other people, embrace your own essence.? Be willing to remember the essence of who you truly are.? Invite spirit into your space. ? Practice self-forgiveness.? Don't be defined by what other people have told you about you. Tools and Takeaways: ? Write out who you are, what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make "I am" statements with your answers.? Pick 2-3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with.? Write this sentence "Sometimes I pretend I am (fill in the blank) but I am not". ? Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone. Resources: Light Worker Workshop Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Coaching
00:32:08 10/22/2015
Hello and welcome to my introductory podcast. This podcast is fulfilling a dream I had as a little girl. Ever since listening to Dr. Laura Schlessinger on the radio, I have wanted to have a call-in advice show. I loved to hear people gaining insight and having aha moments on the radio in just 5-10 minutes. This show will be a mix of practical and spiritual information to help callers (and the rest of us by default) break free from suffering and disappointment. I'll be talking a lot about "Expectation Hangovers" which was the tile of my last book. If you are new to my work you are probably wondering, just what is an expectation hangover? An expectation hangover is when things don't go according to plan, when we don't get the sense of fulfillment after something does happen or when life throws us a total curveball. To get our friendship started, I am sharing my story with you and sharing the moment I had of peace and connection. It only lasted a second, but its effects will last a lifetime. I welcome you to shift your consciousness, to heal your mind and ease your transitions. Consider/Ask Yourself: Who am I?What do I want and how do I get it? What makes time stop for me?What am I learning?What's here for me to heal? Key Insights and Aha's: ? Visualization through meditation told me to serve more. This podcast gave me the outlet.? When you listen to someone else being coached your defenses are down allowing you to take in the information more freely.? Self-imposed shame and judgments can stunt our growth. How to get over it and on with it: ? Milk it for all that it's worth.? Recognize that even the things which feel miserable are in service to our growth learning and healing.? Understand your suffering could be the catalyst for your passion. Tools and Takeaways: ? 5 Key Valuable Lessons of Expectation Hangovers? They illuminate that we all put a lot of expectation on ourselves.? They teach us we don't have control.? They push us out of our comfort zone.? They teach us to live inside out instead of outside in.? They teach us to move out of the victim mentality. Resources Mentioned: Christine Hassler @christinhassler #overitandonwithit Expectation Hangover 20-Something, 20-Everything
00:36:43 10/22/2015

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